Mommies Dilemma – How to Manage Early Teenagers?

Motherhood comes with a baggage of responsibilities and care. When we are blessed with a bundle of joy, our spirits are high and we feel on top of the world. To take good care of our tiny tot, we require to be good at multi-tasking, time management with a fair speed to finish off chores. As the days roll by, we find the journey of motherhood tough. We console ourselves that in a span of a few years, we will have hours of relaxation, once the kids grow up. It’s true, the physical strain lessens as the child grows but the mental anxiety starts growing as the child enters near teens.
The docile and sweet child turns violent and blurts out if scolded or pinpointed at their mistakes or coils into their cocoon and want to stay isolated.
This is the phase of the dilemma for Parents…but I insist on Mommies because Mums are more stressed by the changing behavior of their children and she tries her best to pacify things to normal.
Reasons for Behavioural Change

Physiological & Psychological Changes

Eminent changes and transformations take place within a teenager. Development of breast, an onset of periods, acne and pimples, increase in size of reproductive organs of a male child, growth of pubic hair, voice change, an onset of puberty etc., takes place in both boys and girls. The transition from childhood to early teens is cumbersome due to physical changes. The child is confused with the changes taking place in them and initially, they are not comfortable with the changes. They coil in their shells and don’t wish to talk about it or share with their parents and siblings.
Mood swings, wanting to take decisions independently, attraction towards opposite sex, sexual arousal are some of the reasons which bring adamant changes in the child who is at the threshold of teens and they prefer to stay aloof.
 With the frequent physical and psychological changes, they find tough to cope with the demands of the body and it is tough for them to maintain sync.
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How to Maintain the Balance
Recall your days of childhood when you were stepping into teenage and how you felt those days. Keep yourself in their shoes and handle them tactfully.
•    Never say, “I was not of this type”

You must have been more or less in the same shape and your Mom would have faced difficulty in taming you. If you say, “I was not of this type”, the child will feel humiliated and get enraged. Talk to them that you felt the same in your teens and it took time for you to adjust due to different hormonal and emotional changes. Ask them to accept the changes as it is natural transformation.
•    Be Friendly

Don’t create boundaries with the children. Play with them, watch movies and programmes with them and discuss and debate on any topic under the sun. Give them the privilege to discuss their problems, educate them about good and bad touch, sex education and to respect both the sex equally. Lend your ear and respect their views. Listen and stay calm. Be a child in the company of your child.
•    Be Polite & Firm in Your Approach

Don’t scold on the slightest pretext. Keep yourself soft and calm. Instead of pinpointing the mistakes and shouting at them, be watchful and cautious in approach. Watch their activities silently and if you find something odd in their activity, explain to them. Accept their mistakes as it is normal for a human to err and each one of us learn from trial and error. Explain to them the pros and cons of their mistakes and tell them firmly not to repeat it in future. Explaining things with the cool mind will help them to realize their folly but if you start getting stern with them, it will misfire the situation. Teenagers melt if handled with love and affection and your righteous approach can tame them.
•    Better Practice than Imposing

Being a parent, adopt all the principles, rules and regulations into practice and then ask your child to follow. This method is better for a small child too, but with teens, you first need to rectify yourself and then you can see them following. If you give sermons, they can react and can seek explanations for imposing on them. The child first school is home and gradually, they will pick up the traits that you follow. Follow positive traits if you want to see it develop in your children.
•    Accept the Changes

You cannot expect your child to be timid all way. If he questions you, don’t fret and fume. They are growing and they have the right to be assertive. Listen to them, reply to their questions and give them the space to grow.
•    Help them to Be Independent

Don’t be overprotective. Give them the independence to choose their dresses, passion, and activities. Let them follow their ambition and hobbies. If you find their aim undesirable, you should have valid explanations to validate it.
•    Trust Your Child

The children need the support and trust of their parents. Trust them but don’t go blind in love. Be caring and supportive and a mute spectator. If you find any activity annoying or wrong, explain them with patience. Don’t compel them else they will turn rebellious. Participate in their activities, befriend their friends, plan outings with their friends and invite them at home. It will help you to know them more.
•    Keep Them Engaged

Encourage to pursue their hobbies. It will help them to be engaged and won’t get surplus time to brood. Creative things attract the growing mind and they will devote 100% of their time. Hobbies help them to ignore sexual upsurges which are quite normal at their age. Give them the freedom to pursue their own hobbies, it will build their imaginative and creative powers.
All suggestions won’t work in all the children so as a parent, you require to be diligent in taming them. The teens who are at a threshold of Teens are more vulnerable and they require patience to tame them.
Your Love, Support and Silence will help them to pass this phase easily.
My Experience

While raising my children,
I never forgot my volatile days of teens and my reactions.
I became a child with them and enjoyed passing time with them.
I befriended their friend of both gender and gave them the freedom to call at home.
Never distinguished between BF & GF but warned them about the phase that all go and how to handle it sincerely.
I accompanied them on outings.
I gave them the space to grow, be independent, choose their hobbies and watched them closely and silently with a smile sailing on my face.
I was soft and firm in my approach. I stuck to my promises and never ditched them.
It was a roller coaster ride for me with lots of turbulence and finally, my silence and patience rewarded me.

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Rebellious Me, I Broke the Taboo Connected with Period!

In our
country, attaining puberty is a matter to hush and is wrapped in covers, just
like sanitary napkins delivered in opaque packs or newspapers.
Decades
before, there were many myths and taboos attached to periods (monthly cycle in fertile girls or women). It was
considered impure and there was a long list of BIG NO’s that the girls and the women of the family had to follow
in practice.
I was raised
in a large family with three generations staying under the same roof, sharing
the common kitchen. Each generation had their own set of rules and formulas and
the kith and the kin had to follow silently. Raising a voice was next to
impossible even in wildest dreams and questioning elders were out of the
question.
In my early
years of childhood and early teens, I could not understand why the weird rules
were followed by my immediate siblings, aunts, mother and other young females
of the family.
The weird
rules were uniform for all young woman though the dates differ. One thing I
could make out that it lasted for 5 days for a single person.
What were the Weird Rules?

Sleep on the Floor or a Cot – Exclusive
bedding was allotted and no one else shared the bed with her on her special 5
days in a month.
No Entry in Kitchen Zone – She, the
poor soul could not enter the kitchen zone, neither she was allowed to cook or
take food for herself.
 Don’t Touch Pickles – She was not
allowed to touch pickles. It was believed that they will rot if touched.
No Hair wash – On the 5th day, she was
allowed to wash her hair. It was believed that she will catch a cold or her
flow will be affected.

No Entry in Puja Room or Temples – She was not
permitted to perform any religious rites or enter into the area of worship.
On the 5th
day, all her clothes, beddings and washable belongings were separately washed
and she had to wash her hair to be allowed to roam freely throughout the
premises. It was believed that she was clean after the 5th day of periods.
This
separation was noticed by all the male fraternity of the house as well as the outsiders.
It appeared as if she was an outcast and in exile.
I found these
rules weird, unhealthy and humiliating for the people who had attained puberty
and thereafter until She was fertile.
I, the
rebellious raised voice against such practice. I wasn’t a rebel but on watching
these atrocities against women fraternity, emotions stirred. I could not raise
voice to my other two generations in the hierarchy but the immediate hierarchy,
My Mom had to face my tantrums.
My periods
started later than my siblings and friends of near my age and women of the
house were planning to take me to the lady doctor. I was 15 plus and well
understood all the things related to periods and ovulation.
I kept a
condition to my Mom that I would not see the doctor if these weird practices
are not abolished from the house. Further, if my ovulation starts, I won’t
disclose to anybody because I find these practices humiliating and
unacceptable.
I even added
that my periods were delayed just because of watching these tantrums…it was my
pace of emotional blackmail to evade emotional
atayachaar
.
My mom and
granny had a discussion under the covers and they disclosed that the day, I am
blessed, they will stop these malpractices (It’s
my way of saying to taboos practiced).
God heard my
words and I did not have to visit the doctor for the investigations and I was
blessed within a quarter of discussion. It declared that I was fertile and
healthy.
All the
practiced taboos vanished except for two weird rules that still existed. My
prayers were heard by them and so I too had to hear and accept two rules, which
did not prove to be a hurdle in my life.
Don’t Touch
Pickles
– It did not bother me because I am not fond of pickles, so it hardly
mattered.
Don’t Enter
Puja Zone or Temples
– I believed in God and could not strive courage to break
the barrier, being God fearing. Still, I don’t enter Puja zone.
The rest weird
practices were non-existent and it gave freedom to all women of the family and
even my Mom and Aunt were benefitted. All congratulated me for the courage
shown and the lives of all women fraternity improved, it was women liberation.
No more exile
period and it added glow on their faces and they thanked me profusely for the
bold step.
Attaining
puberty for a Man and a Woman should be celebrated as a moment of pride. It
proves scientifically that they are fit, healthy and fertile.
These days,
various platforms have started to create awareness about ovulation and periods.
Now no more, it is considered a subject to be kept under covers or discussed in
a hushed tone. It is a natural process and adequate hygiene should be
maintained. Various departments are working towards it and are arranging
sanitary kiosks at public places for the women fraternity.
Still, the
practice exists in many regions and families and the women suffer. People need
to understand that it a moment of Pride and nothing to be ashamed of.
More and more
awareness programs are required to educate the bizarre and rural population
and the movie Pad Man proved to be useful to promote period awareness.

Undoubtedly, Mother Sparsh is a Better Choice to Keep My Baby Skin Smiling!

Motherhood arrives with a lot of responsibilities and the same was for me. I had transformed into an extra careful and over possessive Mom, from the day my angle arrived in my womb. A phase of hasty decisions and carelessness vanished. I took decisions after verifying and cross-checking all the pros and cons of any article to be used for the baby care.
There are umpteen things that have to be taken care of for our bundle of joy. They are so cute and delicate. We require to be extra vigilant in their care, whether it is concerning their feed, clothes, bedding’s, toys and body care. They require our utmost attention and a bit of ignorance and negligence can add to their discomfort.
The baby skin is very soft and sensitive and requires a lot of attention and care. The products used should be thoroughly studied and researched. We Moms have the advantage of the digital age; we can readily check in the details and veracity of the company from the comforts of our home. We can easily analyze the product’s key ingredients, their efficacy and side effects. It aids us to decide the brand suitable for our cutie pie from among the different available brands in the market.
Infants, toddlers, and kids mess a lot due to their erratic routine of the potty, pee and eating habits. We Moms have to be on our toes to maintain hygiene and cleanliness.
For cleanliness, baby wipes come handy whether we are at home or on an outing. It is used profusely and we need to be extra cautious in making an appropriate choice. It should be one that is soothing and comfortable on the baby’s skin.
There are multiple brands of Baby wipes soaring in the market but I was in a search of something eco-friendly, bio-degradable and soft on the skin of my baby.
I explored the market and came to know about the brand MotherSparsh, which has exclusive products for baby care and boosts about Ayurveda ingredients in their range of products. I read the details of the key ingredients and studied in detail…still, I was not so satisfied because every organization tries to prove their product best in the market by attractive promotional strategy.
I read all the reviews of the Moms who had used the product, Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes. Most of the reviews defended the product and there was positive feedback. My confidence soared but as I told you earlier that after being Mom, I have transformed into an over-possessive and over cautious Mom…the inquisitive character of a Super Mom.
I wanted to confide in my peer group – a pack of wonderful Moms. Their suggestion would be impartial and near to 100% correct information. I pinged on them on our What Sapp group and the positive messages flowed from them, who had tried their hands on Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes. Now, I agreed to buy Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes for my cute angel.
I instantly placed an online order on Amazon and within three days, the pack was in my hands.
Characteristics of Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes







Attractive Packaging:

MotherSparsh Baby Wet Wipes comes in a plastic packaging of light blue color with an opening on the top, which has a covering of plastic film. The packaging is informative and contains detailed information about the product and a smiling cute baby image on the package steals our interest in the contents of the pack.
Fabric Material:

The material of the fabric is cotton derived from the cotton plant and a bio-degradable product. The best choice of the organization in an event where hoards of campaigns are been launched to save the environment. It is thin, soft and caresses softly to the delicate baby’s skin & bum.
Key Ingredients:

Purified Water, Aloe Vera extracts, Lactic acid, Jojoba oil, and Castor oil.
Organic, Free from Harmful Chemicals, Parabens and Alcohol Content:

Mother Sparsh claims that Baby Wet Wipes is organic, contains 98% of water content and Ayurveda compound. It is free from harmful chemicals, Parabens, and alcohol. The clinical trials confirm that it is absolutely safe for infants, toddlers, and kids of any age and guards babies against getting infected by germs and dirt if used for regular cleaning.
Dermatologically Tested:

The Baby Wet Wipes are dermatologically tested and clinically proven for prevention against rashes. It affirms to be the safest for the use on baby’s skin.
Hypoallergenic:

The wipes are hypoallergenic and balanced pH. It can be undoubtedly used for cleaning and wiping after each feed, pee and poop. It is ideal for face cleaning too. There are negligible chances of allergies, redness, soreness or other skin disorders upon its usage.
Environment-Friendly:

It is a bio-degradable being a natural plant fabric. It is a boon for the environment and it can easily sublime in nature reducing pollution.
Prevents Diaper Rash:

The water content is high in Mother Sparsh Baby Wet wipes and it is smooth on the skin and it prevents diaper rash. Diaper rash is a common problem in babies but the use of these wipes clears the issue of diaper rashes and keeps the baby’s bum clean and soft.
Price:

The wipes are pocket-friendly and we can get a pack of 80 wipes at a throwaway price of INR 175.
Available Online:

It is easily available at AmazonNykaa, Flipkart and other major online platforms.

How I Use Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes For My Angel


Mother Sparsh: As Good as Cotton & Water. Baby wet wipes are my favorite pick and I keep one pack at home and one pack is always there in my baby kit pack. I use it profusely to clean her cute bums after each potty and pee. I use them to clean her toys before offering her to play. I use them to clean her mouth, face, and hands after each feed or meal.
For me, cleaning means baby wet wipes and it is comfortable in use and keeps my angel’s skin glowing and smiling. It has a mild pleasing fragrance and I and my baby adore Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes.
It comes handy for me too. I use every night to remove my makeup and during day hours, when I am tired, I use to curtail my fatigue and keep me refreshed.
I don’t throw them away after use. I collect them in my trash bin to convert it into compost manure for my plants.
We both are happy to use Baby Wet Wipes and I recommend Moms to use and add smiles to the baby’s skin.


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Imbibe Habit of Regular Studies in Children! #Parenting #Studies

These days’ parents are over ambitious pertaining to studies of their children. They want to see them faring with excellent marks and attaining higher ranks in class. It is the wishes of all to see them excel but how you train them to attain, Matters.
The competitive world gives goose bumps to parents and they fear the uncertainty of getting a good job placement or achieving a feat in their career.
Moreover, in spite of a growing number of educational institutions, still, it is tough for the kids to get admission in better institutions of the choice preferred by the parents.
To get through, the cute little tiny tots are prepared with required courses rigorously to get admission in Nursery classes.
Stress & pressure to compete mounts on the toddlers and the kids from the early age of 3. The overambitious parent’s leaves no stone unturned to get a break in best educational institutions.
What route is followed?

If the child is coaxed and pressurized then there are a lot of chances of a misfire. The child might lose the interest in studies or get bogged down by intense pressure. The child turns into irritant self and at times, they become dull and it plays havoc in their later life.
Whereas if the learning is made interesting for the children by allotting them hours for regular study along with the enjoyment of playing and other extracurricular activities. They will do well and develop interests in their subjects and the consequence will be positive…they will become inquisitive and curious, a positive sign of a worthy student.
The parents have to choose the proper path to imbibe habits of regular studies in their children to see that they are transformed into intellectuals. They don’t emerge as a bookworm but an all-rounder with knowledge on all subjects, ranging from textbooks, GK, sports and hobbies.
The pattern of parenting and handling kids have gone under great transformation, these days.
I find the parents are quite stressed, related to studies of their children. They want to give their best and even wish that their unfulfilled ambition is fulfilled by their children. The peer pressure too works a lot because parents wish to show off their pride and status by remarkable feat and grades achieved by their children. They are more concerned that their children should rank above the neighbors and secure higher marks than neighbor’s and colleague’s kids.
During exam sessions, I come across long faces of parents whose children are studying in the nursery, primary or secondary, all reel under great stress. They mount pressure on kids to excel and make them sit for long hours to mug up the lessons. Both parents put in their maximum efforts in preparing questionnaire and answers and even prepare the projects all by themselves with the sole aim, EXCEL.
I find this situation absurd because I never implied these in my parenting style and I used to remain cool and composed during or before the exam.
I believe in Regular Study and there are great advantages to Regular Study. I imbibed the habit of regular study from Day One and made sure that they stick to it. In a few instances, they went astray but normally, they followed the pattern of regular study.
How Regular Study Benefits Children

•    Regular study keeps the child updated with the progress of studies at school.
•    Every day, the child must revise the lessons that have been taught at school. The contents taught in school remains fresh in mind if it is revised at home and it is easily absorbed.
•    Attend all the questions and answers related to the taught chapter.
•    Jot down all your doubts and queries and get it cleared in next class.
•    Read one extra page or next lesson for the next class. When it is taught in school, it seems that they are aware of the contents of the chapter and the lesson seems interesting and is easy to understand.
•    The child does well in surprise quiz taken at school for the chapters taught in previous class. They are on par with the lessons taught.
•    It boosts the confidence of the child and he initiates in asking a question in classes to clear his doubts and respond to the questions asked in class.
•    During examination time, the regular students don’t require to invest extra time to update their knowledge quotient and preparation.
•    They don’t reel under the stress of appearing in the exam.
•    They transform into confident students and are happy and curious to appear for the test.
•    It inculcates the habit of sitting regularly for the study session.
•    The assignments seem easy and interesting due to regular study.
•    It induces the habit of self-study. They are not reliant on parents and their confidence enables them to do well and progress.
•    Regular study boosts their concentration power and they catch the lessons fast.
•    Children get recognition in class for being proactive and alert.
•    In a sum, regular study boosts them to do better in studies. They are well versed with the chapters. They develop the interest in studies.
Additional Benefits of a Regular Study
•    The health & growth of children is better because they don’t require to stay awake for long hours during examinations.
•    There is no stress in the children, exam phobia, and nervous breakdown.
•    The parents don’t have to take stress to cover up the chapters for the exams and life at home is peaceful and calm.
•    There is a close bonding between parents and children because both don’t stress each other.
•    The children enjoy healthy bonding with the teachers at school.
•    The children enjoy other aspects of life being regular in a study as they get ample time to invest in their hobbies and sports.
My children followed a pattern of regular study and they never had to sacrifice their play and extracurricular activities to pace up with the studies. It was peaceful for me because I did not have to take extra stress for their studies. The accomplishment has been great.
I never stressed them to stand first but made them understand the power of grade and knowledge in life. I even encouraged them to watch films and other healthy shows, read books and magazines, catch up with their hobbies and regular play.
It plays an important part in their grooming and they come out to be calm individuals because they are not deprived of the benefits and they never feel left out in any niche later in life.
The parents should make the children understand the importance of regular study and try to instill the habit in them.
Once the habit is inculcated in children, they will realize the importance and will follow the suit throughout life.

These are my views in the field of parenting. Do share your views and leave a comment.

My Baby’s Smiles are Back!

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My baby used to sleep peacefully at night and never did she wake up crying in the middle of the night since she was born. It was a great relief for me because I enjoyed a good sleep at night after being sleep deprived for the whole day. I fed her at regular intervals as per her stage and she cooperated.
Due to a peaceful sleep, my day was perfect and I felt full of energy and managed all the household chores all by myself and with the support of my supportive husband when he used to be at home.
Our relationship was going fine, without any disturbance and we were happy.
However, since a few days, my baby Avni, began to cry while being put on the bed. I thought, maybe, she was suffering from gas or stomach ailment. I tried all sorts of home remedies to sort it out but all in vain. When I took her in my arms, keeping her on my shoulder, she was good, but as I put her back on the bed, her tantrums started again.
The whole night, she was restless and was missing her peaceful sleep. Gradually, even during the day hours, she started getting restless and lost her appetite. At times, she vomited the whole thing that she was fed.
The consequence was that all three of us were disturbed because we could not sleep peacefully. My hubby started getting irritated because he had to catch his office early morning, and being deprived of sleep, he was not able to concentrate on his duties. Even, I could not get enough time to manage my sleep because the baby had gone cranky and she longed to be in my arms only.
Now, it was time to see her doctor and get her reviewed because I could not find anything missing, and Avni was getting restless each day. In the corner of my heart, a feeling crept in of evil eye. I don’t believe in superstitions and blind faith but when it’s about the baby, fear grips in. 
I discussed with my MIL in the beginning, but she laughed out at my apprehension, because she knew me well and that I never bothered about these things.
She said coyly, “Yeah, today, I am talking with a Mom and a Mom is so paranoid about her kids that she can go to any length for them.”
The appointment was fixed with her Paediatrician and Avni was thoroughly examined.
Avni was suffering from nasal congestion, and since babies are obligatory nose breathers, she was cranky and did not sleep peacefully.
The doctor explained to me with a slide show, how the nasal congestion was bothering her and she was not comfortable in taking food, playing or sleeping. It was a type of allergy and she needed medication to get relief. She found solace on my shoulders because it was easy for her to breathe with her mini-nose, but it was difficult for her to breathe while lying down on the bed.
The Paediatrician prescribed Nasivion® Pediatric (Child) 0.025% Nose Drops. Avni was 15 months old and the dosage prescribed was 1 drop into each nostril thrice a day for 5 days and was asked to get re-examined if the problem persisted. She reaffirmed that it will bring relief to my baby and she will be back into her original self, hale and hearty.
I bought the nasal drops from the Pharmacy and the details of the medicine are as under.
Ingredients

One ml of Nasivion® Child Nose Drops contains:
– 0.25 mg Oxymetazoline Hydrochloride USP (active ingredient) in buffered aqueous solution
– 0.3 mg Benzalkonium Chloride Solution 50% IP (as preservative)
Packaging

10 ml glass bottle with dropper
Dosage

As prescribed by Paediatrician.


Gradually, she got respite and was back to her earlier routine. Her crankiness and irritation disappeared and my chubby Avni’s smiles were back.
All three of us were having a peaceful night and were vibrant with energy to finish our chores and play with our cute doll, Avni all over again.
Her smiles brought solace to my heart and all the fright and fear of the evil eye vanished.
Thanks to the Paediatrician and Nasivion® Pediatric 0.025% Nose Drops for providing relief from nasal congestion. Nasivion Nasal Saline Solution being the first line of treatment, as it is safe and can be used by anyone. If the problem is aggravated then after consulting the doctor, one can opt for Nasivion (Mini) Baby Nose Drops or Nasivion Pediatric (Child) Nose drops depending on the age of the child.
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Follow your Pediatrician advice before starting any medical treatment.

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A Film Packed with Lessons Learned from Life – Sanju!


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A week before, I along with my friend went to watch Sanju…a biopic of Mr. Sanjay Dutt, directed by Rajkumar Hirani and the role played by Ranbir Kapoor as Sanju.

There are wide difference of opinion regarding the role of Ranbir Kapoor, some agree that he has justified his role as Sanjay Dutt and some are disappointed…divided opinions and it has to be…millions and zillions cannot hold same view…perception of each individual differs.

I have never been a fan of Sanjay Dutt nor have I ever tried to watch his movie on priority…watched if got a chance.

This time, I watched Sanju on preference as I was eager to see his biopic and what was it that had made people crazy for Sanju.

Normally, I prefer weekdays to watch movie and that too noon show is preferred because this time of the day, I am free with all the family and self-obligations and there is less crowd at the venue.

The scorching heat did not deter people and the Cineplex was packed with young brats, hopefully many had left their classes and studies to watch the movie.

Been a psychology student, I view and perceive things differently and I did the same with this movie, rather I got a chance to prove my point through my subject.

I discovered that there are umpteen lessons to be learned from the movie, Sanju. The lessons are for the teenagers, for the parents and the society.

The story of Sanju revolves around the real life of Sanjay Dutt, how he got into the habit of drugs, how the indifferent attitude of parents affected him and how he went deep into the abyss falling into bad company.

Let me start from the angle of Teens.

Teenage is the most vulnerable age in an individual’s life. There are number of changes within, physio and psycho and are the cynosure of socio eyes. The individual in this age is volatile, daring and energetic and weird dreams and desires keeps him occupied. The movie shows how Sanju is allured by the people, who are into drug business. He is a known figure in society and people knows his affluent background. The indulgent in the business introduces him to drugs that starts with fashion, gets into passion and finally, he lands as a drug addict.

It is a lesson for the Teenagers to be away from the strangers or friends, who provoke them to booze, use drugs, smoke cigarettes, or any type of abuse which initially takes them far away from the real world. If ever any teen comes across such people, confide in your parents, guardians, siblings or well-wishers and acquaint them with the incidents that is been confronted by you. They can take the stock of the situation and can weigh all the pros and cons and tell you the veracity of the incident.

Teenage is the age, where you cannot trust yourself and then how you can trust the world…you need a guide, a mentor to pass through this phase.

Next comes the Parents.

Paresh Rawal has enacted the role of Sunil Dutt and Manisha Koirala is in the role of Nargis. The movie shows that Sanju was emotionally very close to his mother. Father loves him a lot but there is an emotional barricade between them. He does not exhibit his love openly and the son feels that he is been ignored. There is immense pressure on Sanju to perform to carry his father’s legacy in Bollywood. He is perplexed and not able to concentrate on his role. In the meantime, his mother gets diagnosed by cancer and leaves the world forever. Sanju is devastated. His drug addiction leads him to drug rehabilitation centre and it is a tough time for him. He gets weaned out of drugs but has to pay a heavy price for it. When he gets out of drug addiction, he comes into contact of underworld mafias and he gets framed with the charges of a terrorist in the severe bomb attack in Bombay. Arms and ammunition are discovered from his possession and once again, trouble seethes him and his family. In the beginning, father is unable to come to terms with it but the unconditional love for him makes him blind and he wants to wash the charges of a terrorist from his son’s life and for that he is ready to give up his high held principles.

Lesson for a Parent

Never overburden your child with your desires and ambitions. Don’t discourage them or build grudges against them. Exhibit your love and concern openly because your child cannot foresee your wrapped love and emotions. Further, if your child is proven wrong, punish him for wrongdoing so that he understands his mistake. Make your child comfortable in your company so that he can share all that he goes through or want to share. Be friendly with them and discuss everything under the sun. Educate them with right and wrongs of life. Befriend their friend and watch their company, the child is in. Been a parent of a teenager is not easy, you have to walk an extra mile to watch his mood, behaviour, perception and they need to be handled with care. Never ever suggest them to take a wrong path or a short cut to save their skin. Don’t wash their dirty linen in public but confide in them and take required action so that they repent their wrong doing.

It was an emotional moment for the people watching the movie when Sanju read the letter on the demise of his father. The boundaries raised between the relationships held him back to exhibit his concern and love for his father in his lifetime.

A Worthy Friend



The movie Sanju has portrayed the character of a worthy friend Kamli, who stands by Sanju & his family through thick and thin of life. He tries by all means to correct Sanju and shows him the path of righteousness. He is there with Sanju in the days of his addiction and his wrong doings but moves apart when he comes to know that he is framed under the charges of possession of RDX. The trust in Sanju and his family is breached and he cuts off his relation with Sanju, though feelings exist for them. I am not sure whether such character do exist in real Sanjay Dutt’s life but such friend is a possession in one’s life. The reel character is played by Vicky Kaushal. The character of friend Kamli is so positive in the film that the people has fallen in love with the character of Kamli.
When you are stuck on wrong path, it is difficult to return back on right track. However, hard you try to rectify yourself, the media, the society and the onlookers starves you and makes the path all the more difficult. The bad elements poke in their nose so that you don’t return back into the world of consciousness.

This movie is with a strong message for the youngsters and the parents, both should share a strong relationship and confide in each other.

My take: The teens are vulnerable, illogical, blunt and daring, use their burning energies tuning them into positive energy. Let them speak out their thoughts so that you can read their mind and their thoughts they are sailing through.

Read Baar Baar Dekho movie review.

Disclaimer: The views are solely mine and I wrote what I felt and liked to share with my readers and peers. It is my point of view.

                  

I Raised My Son by My Life Experiences! #Parenting

I became Mom, when I was waving goodbye to my late teens. I was very happy to hold my child in my arms.
I could not sum up my emotions in words, because no amount of words could suffice and express my inner happiness.
While holding M, I vowed few things; I won’t raise my hand on him, I will never scold him in moments of my anger, and will habituate him to eat all that is offered in his plate.
There were valid reasons behind these vows and I had learnt the lesson in a hard way from my life and I did not wished to repeat it in future.
Let me explain the reasons for the vows to understand what I really meant.

I was quite emotional since childhood and if I was slapped or coaxed by parents and extended family, it hurt me a lot and I used to feel bad. The feeling that sailed in my mind was, why my family don’t try to explain me coolly, when I am wrong instead of raising hand. In our time, we were raised in such an atmosphere, where questioning or reasoning with parents were not allowed, so we kept mum. 

When I conceived and was in a family way, I chose to be a parent, who can give child the freedom to express his emotion and my first rule would be to adhere to explain the things clearly to the child, instead of taking the path of slapping.

Secondly, why I vowed not to get angry with kids when I am in temper for other reasons. I was raised in a large family and my Mom had to face unlikely situations. Forty years back, DIL could not even think of answering back or making faces if scolded or remarked by elders. Not always, but there were trying moments, when we became victims of her wild temper. She felt sorry afterwards but only after we were offered on altar.
Lastly, never to encourage to become a picky eater. I was the eldest child of family and I did not eat easily. Family members allured me with my favourite food so that I could have my food. This pampering turned out to be bad for me and I survived on restricted diet of my choice. My Mom was not in a favour to encourage my habit but being raised in large joint family, she did not had much say and I got freedom to be a picky eater. When I grew up then I realized that I had to suffer during outdoor visits and literally, I used to gulp down the food which I did not prefer. In our time, we were not encouraged to speak up even if you dislike, and I know how hard it was when I visited at someone place who was not aware of my habits.

While raising my son, I had to raise hand to inculcate good habits in him and later, I realized that it wasn’t easy to spare the rod while disciplining the child. In first and second instance, I used to explain things but still if he did not co-operate, I had to break my promise to discipline him. I did raise my hand when things were out of control and I had to take care that he does not go astray from the path and I was successful in disciplining him. My big protruding eyes were enough to control him, normally.
I did stand by my two vows, never ever lost my temper on him when I was in bad mood or hurt. However tough or unfavorable situation would be, I handled them patiently and they could never judge what I was going through in the trying times.
I inculcated habit of eating everything that was offered on plate. It was not easy but I had to be strict in this term. I never cooked extra for my son. I fed him all that was cooked for everyone. In beginning, he made faces but I never bothered and gradually, he picked up the habit of eating everything that was cooked at home. This habit made him adjust in all the situations and never ever he complained. Later, he adjusted well in hostel life.
I raised my son with the experiences and lessons that I learnt from my life.

My experiences says that being Mom is a wonderful experience and a woman is full of affection for her flesh. To discipline the child, at times, she has to act as an enemy and for that she requires to be strong willed and take impartial decisions to make the life great of her child.
What was your experiences as a Mom? Did you ever face the situation that I faced or did you check your parenting style by your experiences.

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What is Safe and What’s not during Pregnancy!

Most expectant moms get worried about what is safe and what’s not during pregnancy. While being pregnant, it is important to be extra cautious about your diet, habits and daily routine. Therefore, in this blog, we have simplified some of the common confusion of the expectant moms related to the safety during pregnancy.
Alcohol


In general, consuming alcohol is tagged under unsafe health habits. If a pregnant woman takes a glass of wine, it will to her baby too through the placenta, which can possibly cause harm to the growing foetus. The best time to quit alcohol, of course, is when you are planning how to get pregnant. As the major development in fetus happens before the realization of pregnancy.
Verdict: Unsafe.


Caffeine



If you wonder that if coffee can be dangerous during your pregnancy, then according to the experts, it is not. However, an excess of anything is not good for health, and same it goes with the consumption caffeine too. A consumption in moderate quantity like one cup, which makes 300 milligrams a day, is not harmful to your fetus.

Verdict: Safe.


Asthma Inhalers



Inhalers medicine which is used when you are suffering from asthma is completely safe during pregnancy. Hence, if you are a patient with asthma and pregnant too, then it is absolutely fine to use inhalers. Avoiding inhalers can be a fatal decision as asthma restricts the adequate oxygen supply to your fetus. Consult with your obstetrician in your early trimester of pregnancy to know if any adjustment with respect to asthma medicine is needed to avoid any complications.
Verdict: Safe.


 Sleeping Aids

It is totally understandable that during pregnancy, it is difficult to have a good sleep. However, taking help of any sleeping aids is certainly not advised during pregnancy. These sleeping aids are not being tested on pregnant women and hence become harmful to your pregnancy.
It is good if you take the help of pillows or a glass of warm-milk before the bedtime for having a good rest and sleep.
Verdict:  Unsafe.
Sex

This is one of the most common confusion during pregnancy. Most of the pregnant women and their partners wonder whether it is safe to have sex during pregnancy or not. Hence, if you are having a normal pregnancy, sex is completely safe for your growing fetus. Penetration and intercourse movement will not harm your baby, as he is well protected by the uterus’ muscular walls and amniotic fluid.  Moreover, these muscular walls are strong enough.
However, it is good to consult with your obstetrician to understand your pregnancy condition before enjoying intimacy with your partner.
Verdict: Safe.

Fish



According to the experts, the woman who is pregnant, breastfeeding, or even planning how to get pregnant should consume more fish. Fish is a vital source of important nutrients which includes omega-3 fatty acids, proteins and iron. These nutrients foster healthy fetal development.
However, it is recommended that pregnant women should avoid eating raw fish as it is prone to food-borne diseases.
Verdict: Safe.


Insect Repellent




Nobody wants to be bitten by an insect even by a mosquito. However, every insect repellent is composed of several chemical substances which are not safe for a pregnant woman. Hence, it is good to prefer some easy remedies to stay protected from these insects. You can use a mosquito net or sand flies while sleeping. These alternatives are the best way to prevent complications during pregnancy.
Verdict: Unsafe.


Pregnancy is full of joy and excitement; hence an extra care has to be given so as to continue excitement until 40 weeks. Feel free to consult with your doctor if you want to be sure about what is safe and what’s not during pregnancy.


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This post is a Guest Post on my Blog and the contributor is Akansha Bansal.

Lives with a notion “SIMPLE LIVING, HIGH THINKING” and have an optimistic approach towards life. Always eager to learn new things. She is founder of a Parenting website called “Budding Star”.
The views expressed are of Ms. Akansha Bansal and the images have been provided by her for the post.
Disclaimer: The ideas are just mere suggestions on the basis of day-to-day experiences and to verify, cross-check with your Doctor for its authenticity.

Keep Mosquitoes at Bay! #Goodknight #Kids

Mosquitoes are a menace in all seasons but it breeds fast in warm weather. It is believed that their thousands and thousands of eggs hatch within three days in warm weather, so just imagine how fast they multiply. In India, the mosquito menace is throughout the year but it is at climax in changing weather i.e. from winter to summer and summer to winter and in monsoon season. They breed in stagnant water, inside tree holes, marshy and swampy places and in garbage and dustbins.
Mosquito bites are itchy and many diseases borne out of their bites such as Malaria, Dengue, Chikunguniya, Yellow fever and Encephalitis. At times, mosquito bites prove to be fatal.
Mosquito bite is harmful for all but the infants, toddlers and kids should be taken care of so that they are at a safe distance with these deadly diseases. The bites creates lump in the skin and often small children are allergic to mosquito bites and their skin gets red, swollen or discolored.

I do follow routine to keep the mosquitoes away from our home and surrounding and religiously use Good knight safe mosquito repellent to be at a safe distance from these ugly and ruthless mosquitoes.
How to Keep Mosquitoes out of Home

We have already discussed that the breeding is fast in warm & monsoon season and further, it breeds in stagnant water and dirty places.
1. We should take care to keep our surroundings clean and disinfected. Daily cleaning and dusting of the house and surroundings is mandatory. Take care that water is not pooled nearby surroundings or inside home. Dirty water attracts mosquitoes and therein, they lay eggs. If you have swimming pool in your society, make a routine to change the water at proper intervals.
2. Plant mosquito repellent plants inside and around your place. Shrubs of tulsi, mint, marigold, trees of lemon and neem and planting citronella grass are effective in preventing the breeding of mosquitoes. They keep the mosquitoes away and simultaneously, they are good for health.
     3. Dark coloured dresses attract mosquitoes so dress your child and yourself in light coloured dresses to keep the mosquitoes away. Cover kids feet by making them wear socks especially in the early evenings. Apply mosquito repellent for babies to keep them safe from mosquito bites. They cannot take care of themselves so we need to be alert and apply the gel on the open areas of the kids. Avoid applying on eyes, lips and open wounds.
    4. Open your doors and windows in day hours so that sun-rays enters your home and the hidden mosquitoes will fly away. Around 4 pm, close all the windows and doors of your house to keep the mosquitoes at bay.
    5. In spite of taking so much care and been alert, still mosquitoes bites the cutie pie of our family. We rely on Good knight repellents and we use them regularly to safeguard our cute angels. We use Good knight Patches to save them from ugly and itchy bites.
Good knight presents kid friendly mosquito repellents to save them from painful bites. It is safe mosquito repellent for children of all ages, skin friendly and certified by Pediatricians.
They have introduced two products, mosquito repellent aloe gel which is applied on the open areas of the kid’s body and the second one is mosquito repellent for infants, in patch form which can be pasted on the baby’s dress, pram, shoes, cradles etc.to keep the mosquitoes away.
Good knight Cool Gel

It is absolutely safe for kids and while strolling or going out with your kid, use Good knight Cool Gel to the open areas of the children body to get rid from mosquito bites.
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Caution: Avoid application on lips, near eyes and on open wounds. You can do patch test before using to be on safer side.



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Blue Whale Challenge Proving Suicidal for Players! #SaveKids #VirtualGame

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The Blue Whale challenge game has created furore in the virtual world and many children of different places around the world have become victim of it and they have lost their precious life.

It is continuously in news and the young parents are at their wits end and are scared about the safety of their growing kids especially the younger ones.

I googled to be apprised of the game and the harm that it is doing to the children and came to know that this game has been designed with the motive to clean the earth from lazy children.

I feel the mastermind behind the game is a lunatic and his wild psyche has created menace and is taking lives of the innocents. The children are becoming prey to it. They are hypnotizing the children and there is even a news that they threaten that if the players don’t abide by the rules, their families will be eliminated…this fear deepens in the minds of children and they follow the dangerous rules sincerely.

The timings to play the game too is at odd hours and the various steps to be followed are quite scary and it asks the playing kids to harm themselves and send their snaps in which they have inflicted themselves and the child gets so much engrossed in the game that they blindly follows what they are been asked to do and finally, the child is trapped.

So far as reported, there have been more than 100 deaths of the players who indulged in taking the Blue Whale challenge.

The reports generated have created unrest in the minds of parents. This calls for a clear discussion with the children and the parents and guardians need to make their kids aware of such challenges and how to keep themselves away from it.

In my opinion, parents should not give mobiles to children and in situation, where parents are working and the children are staying on their own, then provide them with simple handsets without internet facility so that they can be in touch with their parents.

Make them aware of the virtual menace that is doing rounds on internet and warn them not to indulge in such sorts of game. Even they should be warned not to download any unknown link, howsoever they are insisted or not to disclose any personal information or identity on the site.

Be frank and take your children in confidence and ask them to inform you about each and every movement, whether it is their personal life and virtual life. Make them understand that they are at vulnerable age and they need proper guidance to secure their future.

Check their devices regularly and check their history to know about their virtual movements and the site they tour.

These days kids have their own room. Do allot their room but not allow them to lock their room and inculcate in them the habit of playing or indulging in leisure activities in the living room of the house.

Do check their bags and belongings time to time and whenever you find your child a bit indifferent, do knock him and try to intrude in his privacy and make him spill out the beans if something is bothering him.

Explain the ill effects of game and of the people who are behind this game and brief that they are mentally ill bunch who wish to hurt people of the society and their sadistic nature derives pleasure from such activities.

Encourage them to indulge in physical activities and offline games and be an active participant in their game. This will use his budding energy in a fruitful way and will satiate him.

The parents and the children should share the things with each other and the parents need to be more vigilant about their child’s movements.

Maintain friendly relation with your children and be in their reach when they need you.
Note for parents, don’t hook yourself in the virtual world, your children needs you. Pass time with them and take them for outing on holidays and acquaint them with the beauty of nature.
Show the real world and its beauty and teach them that virtual life is only for studies and getting the tasks done easily.
Incline them towards spirituality.

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