Monday, May 22, 2017

Are We Modern in Our Thoughts? #SocialStigma

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How modern we try to show ourselves but still the people of today are dwelling in past and are centuries behind in thought of action.

The people around have adopted modern culture in dressing, cuisine and lifestyle has beamed but the mental level is not so enhanced in spite of literacy and globalization.

I may sound high but after reading the following incident, you will realize the truth.

Tia was married in an affluent and socially respectable family. After two years of marriage, she gave birth to a beautiful daughter. When she was born, for first few minutes, there was utter silence. The nurses that came with the child too was upset, (her face conveyed) and they didn’t demand any ransom to hand over the child as they do at the birth of a son. Anyhow, the situation was managed by sis-in-law of Tia and relatives present congratulated each other on the arrival of a daughter or Lakshmi.

After few years, again Tia was in family way. When she broke the news to her Mom-in-law and her parents, both blessed her with a wish that this time she is blessed with a son. Finally, the D-day arrived and again Tia was blessed with a daughter. After the news, there was long silence and none could muster the courage to break the deafening eerie.

Tia and her husband had planned for tubectomy but her MIL was reluctant and she asked the attending doctor not to perform tubectomy. Doctor kept the word of Tia’s MIL.

When I met her, I told her to plan family planning to avoid further pregnancy but she didn’t listen to me and once again, she was caught in family way.

Third time, she was pregnant.

When I came to know, I was very upset and called Tia to abort this pregnancy to save her health from deteriorating further. Already she had complains of pain & weakness.

But she did not pay heed to my advice and continued her third pregnancy with a promise that this time, she will get the tubectomy done.

Again, she was blessed with a daughter and her MIL was very upset and she barged into the OT after getting the news to not perform tubectomy.

I was annoyed with the attending doctor who couldn’t explain Tia’s MIL about the complications that she might face in future if she goes on delivering children after three C-Section.

I take this incident as hypocrisy in society who are mad after male child considering them fit to be the family heir.

Have we really advanced in our thoughts and actions?

We dream big, we quote of been advanced and modern in thoughts, but I am doubtful after introspecting these incidents which is taking place around us.


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Friday, May 19, 2017

Why this Double Standard? #Relationships

                      
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Recently, I visited one of my close associates home to meet them after a long time. There were lots of complains from her for not turning up.

I too wished to meet them but my routine was packed with numerous commitments of job n home and I couldn’t take time out for Me time.

Finally, I banged one day.

She was happy to meet me and we exchanged a lot. The meeting was exciting.
She had moved to a new house so she took me to show around her interiors. Really, she had kept it magnificently and I felt a guilt inside for not keeping up so well because of time constraints.

A beautiful collage standing tall in the living room attracted my attention and enquired about it.

Ria told me that her sons have presented her on the eve of Mother’s Day and she had received precious gifts from them.

Just to celebrate Mother’s day, they had flown to the town and while telling, her face glowed with happiness and her wide smile and sparkling eyes were the witness.
“Wow…you celebrated in a big way…that’s nice, so caring are your children.” I said.

After an hour or so, as I was about to leave, her Mom-in-law came in to meet me and she reciprocated with warmth.

“Is Mother’s Day celebration for new generations Mommies, Swapna?” She asked me.

“No Aunty, it’s for Moms of all ages. Every day is Mother’s day because we are the witness of her art. Father too has the credit in bringing us to the earth but the nine months hectic journey is solely on the shoulders of a Mom. Why Aunty, what made you ask?” I said.

“Nothing beta.” She replied.

Ria came to see me off.

As I was about to put on the ignition, Ria said that her Mom-in-law expects gifts and celebration on Mother’s day and that’s why she queried.

“There is nothing bad in it, Ria. It’s quite natural.” I said.

“Budhape main shaukh jag gaya hai.” She said and laughed.

I felt hurt and drove off without sharing words further.

I couldn’t digest her double standard.

The whole excitement of meeting Ria melted and the only query haunted my mind.

“Why this Double Standard? Can she not feel the feelings of her Mom-in-law, she too is a Mother as Ria is.

There are many instances in life when you wish to speak out but you can’t always express and remain in guilt.

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Saturday, May 13, 2017

Gifts for Mother's Day!!! #LoveandRelationships



Mother's Day is round the corner and the market is flooded with various gifts, flowers, schemes in restaurants and pizza hubs.

Since a decade or so, the celebration of this day has kicked the market and the children's emotions are satiated by celebrating this day and the market does a brisk business on such celebrations.

When we were young, we weren't aware of the celebrations but thanks to technology and globalization, now we too ardently wait for the celebration on this D day.

My idea is to gift something which can be readily used by the receiver and a Mother, a symbol of love craves for love and care from her offspring and though at the time of the birth, the connection is severed but the connection of hearts remains intact throughout life.

Gifts for Mother's Day:

1. A beautiful saree or the latest trend of sober dress can be a great gift for the Moms. Buy a dress of her color choice and give her a surprise. She will be very happy for your concern for her and I am sure she will turn emotional while accepting the gift.

2. Perfume can be one of the best gift for Moms. Before buying, introspect her dressing table and find her choice and give her a surprise.

3. Trendy Jewelry: Women and jewelry are indispensable, so buy it for her as your pocket allows. If she is longing to have some piece of jewelry but aren't able to make it, buy for her. She would be touched. Generally, Moms are more concerned about their children and save for them and in the run of saving for the future, at times, they sacrifice their wishes. If you are earning, gift her the piece that she longs for.

4. Lady Purse: A purse as a gift can be wonderful and the size of the purse should be in respect of her profession or wish. A child well knows their mother's choices, so gift her accordingly.


5. Cosmetics & Skin care Products: These days market is flooded with cosmetics & skin care products of all range. Gift her according to her skin type and cosmetics as per her choice. Women love to dress and maintain her style and her favorite product will tickle her soul.

 6. Coffee Mug: Gift her a coffee mug with her image imprinted on it. She will love to have coffee and if you are staying long distance, this small token of love will always be cherished by her.

7. Book a table at restaurant: Take her out to the market and surprise her with her favorite cuisine. She always presents sumptuous meals, throw a party on this eve.

8. Cook her favourite dish and melt her heart by your hard work and love.

9. Gift her a voucher of spa and she will be delighted to relax at spa rejuvenation program and will feel fresh and lively.

10. Gift her a bunch of flowers of her choice, sing a song for her and submit yourself fully on this day.

Mother's day is not a day to be celebrated. Celebrate everyday by showering love and concern for her keeping tantrums aside.

Women love to flaunt their wardrobe and are conscious about her looks and persona and these gifts will help her to maintain her style and a gift from her children are really heart warming for her.

Happy Mother's Day!!!



Mama was my greatest teacher, a teacher of compassion, love and fearlessness. If love is sweet as a flower, then my mother is that sweet flower of love. Stevie Wonder








Sunday, April 23, 2017

More Indian than you think #Indicontest



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I am proud to be an Indian....Vande Mataram.

When I was in school and when too many constraints were put on us then I thought that we are living in the conservative society and the Americans are the better. They have liberal attitude and parents and society don’t coax much as India. Gradually when I grew up and discovered more about foreign countries then I concluded that I was living in one of the best country where we have freedom to choose our religion and faith, doctrine and dogmas and no religion is imposed on us.

The traditions and cultures are unique of our country and is quite scientific. In primitive days, people were not educated so the scientific process to be followed was presented before the people in the name of religion. Basically, it is the science that has positive effects on human body.

I believe India is the only country which is diverse and there is Unity in Diversity and together it is a myriad of hues. The traditions, food & dressing habits and cultures differ from one place to another and the lifestyle adopted is according to the local climate and weather of the place.

In North, people keep the broom on floor whereas in South, people keep the broom upright. Upright broom in North is regarded as inauspicious and South people consider inauspicious if broom is kept on the floor. The basic reason behind this custom, I feel that it is due to the weather of the place. In South, the weather is moderate so keeping it on the floor will damage the broom. This is one example.

The Ayurveda had its advent in our land and the herbs used are mainly found in our country and today, Ayurveda healing is practiced all over the world. The people in abroad come to India to learn Ayurveda medicines….This is what India is.

Family system and stable marriages are the virtues of Indian thought. In many parts of the world, family system does not exist. As soon as the children attain the age of adulthood, they move to live independent and are not bothered about the welfare of their parents. No doubt, excellent facilities exists to take care of the ailing and needy but personal touch is missing whereas in India, relationships exist on personal touch.
In India, it is believed that Marriages are made in heaven, hence it is seen as a sacred institution and the marriage is not just the affair of a couple. Marriage is between the two families and all are connected with each other. The couple and the family leaves no stone unturned to save the marriage in case there is conflict. The marriage is disintegrated when there is no way of reconciliation…Indian mentality so concerning and so pious.

Despite urbanization and joint family disintegration, still the family members take care of each other when someone is in financial crisis or emotional disturbance. This personal touch adds grace to relationships and the bond of connection is strong.
Even one is ill or is suffering from chronic illness, family members take care of the ailing person. Money can buy nursing care but the care by the relatives boost the morale of the person and the person is healed in less time.


I am proud of my country and I feel proud to be called Indian. And we are more Indian than we are thought to be.






Friday, April 21, 2017

Safe & Pleasurable!!! #Condom usage in India



Sex is essential for procreation as well as recreation. To enjoy safe sex and for sexual wellness, one need to adopt method of contraception and one of the safe method is usage of condoms to be free from worries of conceiving or transmitting STD diseases.

Condom is regarded as one of the safe methods and its simple application makes it more popular among the masses across the globe.

This method of contraception is not new, it’s in vogue since 400 years, though it was not sophisticated or easy to use as it is today, but still there are lot of inhibitions and stigma attached to it. It is not very easy for the people to procure from the shops, though it is easily available at most of the shops.

There is a taboo attached to the purchase of condoms. Everyone is familiar with it but if still one tries to buy or enquire about it, many faces turn up towards the person who asks for it and the person is regarded as bad or immoral and that’s the reason that people evade from buying from outlets near to their home or in neighbourhood.

Many times, people walk miles to buy condoms for themselves as people feel embarrassed to buy one.

Our society of today is literate but still the matter of sex is discussed in hushed tone and people turn crimson on discussion of the same; even the outright person avoids such circumstances.
Finally, the Online Condoms Shops have come to the rescue of the masses from where they can purchase any brand of condom without turning pink or evading the eyes of onlookers.

This online portal offers varieties to choose from according to their wants and desires and affordability. There are range of products available of Sexual wellness and one has ample time in privacy to choose the products of their choice.

This online portal of Online Condom Shops has brought cheers to the couples and menfolk where they can place the orders without any embarrassments or fears and the best part and parcel of this portal is that the identity of the buyer is withheld and the packing is so discreet that onlookers can’t make it that it carries condom till it is not opened…so now no grins and no glaring eyes.
It is directly delivered to the address of the buyer and the buyer does not need to disclose its personal details for procuring online condoms.

The portal is very user friendly and the condoms and sexual wellness products of all the brands are available on this portal and at the click of the button, you can choose from the drop down menus and get it delivered at your location. It is a hassle free procedure.

Online portal has been introduced to overcome the inhibitions that men & women went through while procuring the sexual wellness products and in lack of it, there was great progression in termination of unwanted pregnancies & high incidence of AIDS & STD and men are more vulnerable to it owing to unprotected sex in India.

To counter the embarrassments & lack of knowledge, online portal has been introduced to counteract the issues and to ensure that Indian men get habituated to this concept of safe and pleasurable sex without any worries or fears.

Other than Condoms, to add zing in your sex life, one can purchase lubricating gels of different brands which aids to heighten the excitement in sex among males & females and vibrating rings are available for the females which helps them to arouse and attain orgasm in females easily and both the partners can equally cherish the ecstasy of sexual life and this online portal is of immense help for the Indian youth and couples who are more in numbers in our country compared to other countries.

The Lubricating gels are available in different flavors and in different sizes for both male and female counterpart and it can be used while indulging in foreplay, an important affair before getting ready for the copulation. These gels are basically formulated to arouse both the sexes.

The vibrating rings are designed to arouse females during foreplay to enjoy sex thereafter.

The Condoms comes in different colors, designs, size and flavors and one can secretly choose their choice and enjoy the act with no inhibitions.

The Condom makes the sexual act safe and pleasurable with no fears of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.

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Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Are you Just With Your Children? #AtoZChallenge





Many times, we come across such parents who favour one child more than the other. I feel very bad for those kids and I believe that been unjust, the parents are creating a strife between the siblings.

It is not healthy for the children, it stunts their emotional growth and inferiority complex envelops them.

Many times, I wonder as to why parents differentiate between their children when all are their own offspring.

In many families, younger ones are more pampered and elder one is shelved with responsibility though the difference between the siblings are only two to three years.
At times, the sincere or studious kid is pampered or is the centre of attraction.

Through my article, I wish to address to all the parents to be JUST with their kids.

All are your offspring, the same pain you have undergone to bring them to this world, so justified treatment should be given to all.

Treat all the kids alike and give them the same opportunity.

Don’t compare the children, complex develops within the child and it affects their personality. Even sibling rivalry develops among the children.

Parents or other members of the family should take care to treat all alike in spite of differences in their persona & presentation.

I believe the kid who is weak needs more care than the sincere ones. Push your child to do better.

Your encouraging words will bring in a lot of positive changes.

Don’t bully them or discourage them.

The elder one is too a kid, two three years difference doesn’t make him a man, hence responsibility should not be loaded rather it is should be well distributed among them and they will take as a challenge to complete n will rather enjoy doing it.

A child who fetches good numbers in class or is a bright student is more cared by the parents than the other one who is average in studies. The disparity among children should be abolished.

Parents, do justice in sharing your love towards your children.

Justified treatment will enhance the persona of the children and they will grow into independent entity with healthy mind & positive thoughts.

Children with positive thoughts are an asset to the society too and we can hope for safe environment in society.

I believe that the frustrated souls are the species who create nuisance in society by indulging in eve teasing, murder, rape etc.

Parents love and care is the important ingredient in the life of a child and the basic care and affection moulds their personality.

Do you support my view?


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Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Independent #AtoZChallenge






How to make your child Independent?

Independent child is a virtue to the parents and society if it is used in a right manner. A parents gives the right to independence to the child with a belief that the child will use it in a right manner. The responsibility lies on the child to keep up the faith.

Recently, I visited one of my friend and saw that she was busy in taking care of the chores of the child, who was near about 14-15 years.

I was quite puzzled and thought for a while whether to give sermon to my friend or not on the way she was treating her child.

She was over protective and over caring and this over care had spoiled the child, he was totally dependent on his Mom for all of his activities.

His school was nearby home, still she accompanied him in the morning and recess hours. She would feed him, helped him in his school work and again accompanied to play ground.

I couldn’t stop myself and blurted out in front of her child.

“What are you doing Maya? You are spoiling Yash. Raise him as an individual entity and let him grow and handle things on his own. He is no more a small child, give me some space. Even the moms of small children don’t follow their children as you do.” I said.
“It’s my love, Dear.” Maya said.

“This is not love, love gives freedom to be independent, this is your fear and it has made you over possessive. Even I love my children more than my life but have given space to grow and have made them so independent that even if I am not in house, they can manage themselves well.”

I told her the ways to handle growing child and how to make them independent.

As the child grows, start giving him responsibility and freedom to handle things on their own. They will learn through trial n error method and in that process they may keep you on toes to clean the mess but gradually they will pick up the habits and settle.

Once they start kindergarten, ask them to keep their tiffin & water bottle in their bags and while returning ask them to stack at the designated place.

This habit will help him to arrange their books in next classes and be methodical.

If the school is nearby, let them go by themselves when they reach the age of 10. At this age, they are matured to cross the road and manage themselves. Initially, if you have fears, follow them and watch how the child is managing and gradually wean him out of the habit.

Stop feeding them. Give them their food and let them eat on their own. Your work of cleaning may double initially but slowly, he will get into the habit.

Ask them to do their homework on their own. Help them where they stuck. Don’t provide the answers, teach the technique to reach at the answer, this way the child will use his brain and be independent.

Teach them activity of outside world too with age. 

Slowly teach them how to interact at Post offices, Doctor’s Clinic, Banks etc. They will learn how to transact and will become independent and confident.

Teach them to iron their school uniforms and arrange their bags and beds.

They will grow into confident individuals and you too will have time to pursue your hobbies or take rest after hectic schedule.

Maya understood my point and promised that she will abide by the same and transform Yash to a confident and independent child.

Moms…ensure to teach your child the practical life and make them independent in thought and actions and guide them on the right track to ascertain their happy future.

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Hacker #AtoZChallenge







The woman is reborn when she becomes a mother. Howsoever careless she was, the day she cuddles her bundle of joy, she becomes responsible, caring and her heart is full of love. Her day starts with the child and her night ends with her child. She is so obsessed to give her child all the wonderful things of the world.

She is always on the spree how to make her motherhood enjoyable and devises ways to achieve them and there she becomes Mom-Hacker.

To spend more time with her child, she discovers shortcut method to comply with the demands as a Mother, wife and at times as a daughter-in-law.
God made woman very strong from inside and she is used to multi-tasking. Woman power is often associated with Devi Durga and she has the ability of Devi to handle multiple things at one time, still she desires to apply few shortcuts to meet the demand of the situation.

The morning hours are hectic when the kids are young, you need multiple hands to juggle between school and office timings plus getting oneself ready to leave the kids to the bus stop. One has to run around packing tiffin’s, getting them dressed and fed, taking out the office dress of husband.

KITCHEN HACKS.

To manage those errands in a smooth manner, I adopted few kitchen hacks to get relieved in the morning hours and to control my temperament which gets on high on pressure of too many work at the same time.
In the night, kids slept early and I had ample time to arrange the things for morning chores.

  • I prepared the dough at night and stored in the fridge.



  • The vegetables to be prepared next morning were cut and washed at night.



  • Ironed the dresses of my kids and hubby and hung in the designated wardrobe from where they could take themselves without troubling me.



  • The shoes were polished.



This organised structure eased my morning schedules and I was cool n happy watching things run in a smooth manner. My cool temperament kept the family members at ease and they remained happy.


GUESTS HACKS:

A homemaker is in trouble when uninvited guests pour in and it adds more distress if your maid is absent. To encounter it coolly, I store Cold drinks & juices in refrigerator. I prepare Aam panna and store in bottles, ready to serve with mint. It is refreshing drink in summers. I store ready to make coffee blends to prepare hot and cold coffee as per the climate.

For winters, I store homemade cookies, both sugary & salty and besan laddoos to serve the guests.


PARTY HACKS:

On birthdays & anniversary, I believe to throw a party with homemade servings. I love cooking and serving, it’s quite refreshing for me. I feel happy to entertain people with my cooked food. But we need a proper planning to make the guests & oneself comfortable.



  • Cut the required vegetables and store neatly in the fridge

  • Fry the kebabs twelve hours before the party.

  • Marinate non-veg 12 hours prior to party.

  • Knead the required dough for puris.

  • Prepare custards and ice-cream a day before to serve cool servings.

  • Check your kitchen store and buy the lacking items one to two day before. Don’t wait for last minute.

  • Grind the required masalas and fry them 12 hours before the party.

  • Wash the cutleries a day before the party.

  • Change the linen and prior to the covers two days party day.

  • Decide your dress a week before and if you need something, buy. 


If the above things are done before the D-day, you and your guests will enjoy the party. Your smiles will give warm welcome to your guests and your organised party will be appreciated by all. My style of throwing party is mentioned above in detail.


HOME MAINTENANCE HACKS:


  • Cleaning and maintaining cleanliness is a tough job and needs a lot of planning. 
Instead of doing all the things in a day, divide the cleaning jobs.



  • I have divided my cleaning chores throughout the weekdays excluding Sundays. Sundays are for family and the kids have freedom to mess.



  • One room is cleaned every day and it goes in rotation.



  • In morning hours, there is a lot of rush so I run my washing machine in noon during winters and in late evenings in summers.



  • I clean my bathroom daily and the rest of the family members do the same. This way the bathroom is always clean n dry.




  • Dusting is done every day to ward off dusts and mites.




These hacks reduces the burden and the work is done with ease. Scheduling and doing things in routine eases troubles and we tend to leave a stress free life.

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*Ila*


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Monday, April 10, 2017

Mama Earth Products Reviews. #Childcare









Once again, I am back with more range of products of Mama Earth for the babies and for the moms and even senior citizens can use.

A unique product which caters the need of all generations and especially the product is derived from nature, thereby reducing the risk of the ill effects of synthetic products.

The efficacy of the product is astounding.

This month, we got Three products of Mama Earth to review.


  • Mama Earth Natural Insect Repellent Spray. 

  • Mama Earth Diaper Rash Cream.

  • Mama Earth Mineral Based Sunscreen for Babies.





 I don’t believe in using sprays for bugs and mosquitoes for the children or myself but when I read the leaflet of the product, my worries were at bay and decided that it can be used during the change of seasons and on the onset of summers to save them from bites from insects, gnats & mosquitoes.



Product Description:  This product contains natural essential aromatic oils, Citronella, Peppermint & Lemon eucalyptus and the smell is great for the babies though pungent for the mosquitoes and they swiftly run away after spray. The product is free from Deet, parabens, sulfates, phthalates, mineral oil, petroleum, synthetic fragrances & dyes.



Usage:  Shake well before every use. Do not apply on cuts & wounds.





The next product that is used abundantly is the Mama Earth Diaper Rash Cream. It comes to rescue in the initial years 0 to 2 years when the babies use Diapers and rashes appear on the soft skin of the babies. Diaper Rash cream smoothens the skin of the babies and it leaves the skin soft & supple. It should be used twice or thrice a day, after wiping the nappy area dry. The action of the product is very fast & it provides rapid relief.


Product Description:  This product is zinc oxide based, non-petroleum, natural goodness of Shea butter, Calendula extract, Wheat germ, Almond & Olive oil. The product is free from the harmful chemicals, that is, it has no parabens, sulfates, phthalates, mineral oil, petroleum, synthetic fragrances or dyes.







The last product that I am reviewing today is Mama Earth Mineral Based Sunscreen for Babies. It has come up with the sunscreen lotion for the babies which can save them from getting sunburns or skin been damaged by the sun heat. Now the baby can enjoy outings on the beaches by getting covered by this product. While going out in the sun, apply a layer of the product on the face of your baby and you.


Product Description:  It is especially formulated for the babies and it is SPF 20+ and it contains active minerals, Shea butter, Calendula extract, Wheatgerm, Almond & Olive oil and the best part of this product is that it does not contains Octycelene, parabens, sulfates, phthalates, mineral oil, petroleum or synthetic fragrances or dyes.

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My Ratings: 4.5/5

Word of Caution: Before using the product, don’t forget to do a patch test on your baby.

I received the PR samples and I used it on myself & my niece and found the result positive and was happy with the products response.













Reviewed By Ila Varma.


Sunday, April 9, 2017

Growing Up #AtoZChallenge



Growing old means growing wiser with each passing day. This is quite true for the people who have passed the teenage era.

The transition phase of a child from childhood to entry in teens and surpassing teens is very crucial and needs lot of parental care & patience to deal with the child in those phases.

When the kid is below nine or ten, you can handle his tantrums by been lenient or strict as the situation demands but as he steps on to the threshold of teens, the circumstances demand specific technique to handle them.

The reason is that there are so many physiological & biological changes in the child that the child itself is confused at the changes and it is not easy for them to accept the changes and they become irritant and the interference from parents or guardians acts like oil in fire.

Along with the major transformations, they feel that they are grown up individuals and they start demanding attention and they wish that their voices are heard, so emotional outburst are the common phenomena of this age.

It is very difficult to tackle the children at this age and it requires lot of patience and tactics to handle them.

How to handle the growing wizards?

First and foremost, the parents need to be patient and friendly with the child and handle their tantrums tactfully.

Stop nagging and interfering, rather develop the habit of listening what the child need to say.

Even if the child is wrong or you dislike his way of doing things, don’t be straightforward showing your reluctance rather make him understand by citing examples.

This is the age when the interest develops in opposite sex and don’t stop the child from making friends of opposite sex rather persuade him to be friendly.

Persuade your child to bring his friends at home and you too be friendly with his friends, this way, you would know what company your child keeps and you can weed out the unwanted by making him understand things.

Children in pre-teens or late teens are not easy nuts to crack, they need a lot of smothering and the child should have confidence in you.

In this tender age, parents need to watchful; act as a spy but the child should not know that their movements are watched, that is the trick of parenting in this age.

Drop the anger, attitude and rod in this phase of child’s life, your perseverance will help him to grow into healthy individuals.

You don’t need to rush else your child will be on right track.

In this age, child develops interests in sports & movies, start idol worship or can indulge in puppy love.

The parents need to nurture the endurance capacity to watch their child doing cumbersome things and don’t react to it. Your reaction can misfire.

Develop friendly terms with your child, accompany them to movies and restaurants and allow them to interact with their friends.

Any strict rule and regulation can spoil your child.

Allow them to indulge in their hobbies along with studies and discipline him to manage time.

Time management is important.

How I managed my children?

I reared my child in this simple way.

Even if I disliked their ways, I never reacted rather explained them through examples of real life stories and movies.

I gave them freedom to enjoy all the goodies of life but in a disciplined way.

There were fixed hours for playing, regular studies, reading comics and novels, watching TV shows and indulging in their hobbies and in extra time, they helped me in my chores.
I befriended their friends of both the sex, went out for movies, exhibitions and outings in weekends and holidays and gave them their pocket money to handle their monetary affairs.

This way, they learnt financial management and even saved few pennies from the meager amount that was provided to them for enjoying the outings.

Even the days were fixed for playing video games in video parlours and enjoying ice creams once or twice in a week.

I kept my promises, never ditched them.

I gave them the liberty to bring his girl friends at home so that I could judge their equation.

I used to tip toe in their bedrooms as a spy and monitored their each and every movement and guided them accordingly.

My children are my good friends and now they are working and independent but still we three celebrate the bond of our friendship.

I request the parents to handle your pre-teens and teens with great care and give them the liberty bonded by discipline so that they can fully enjoy their life and you too remain calm that your child is on right track.


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*Ila*

*Keep Smiling*