Monday, February 27, 2017

Envy!!!

Tia & Raj were classmates in college. Gradually, they became closer and fell in love and committed to marry after Raj settles in job. Their love story was popular in college and many envied their relationship.

After bagging the job, Raj married Tia and they settled in Hyderabad. Initial years went out smoothly but after few years, Raj felt hurt when people remarked on his looks. Tia was very beautiful whereas Raj was simple & dark. Tia loved him a lot and never ever his looks concerned her...but what can be said about the insane onlookers...their regular remarks jilted Raj and a feeling of envy crept in the relationship.

There was tremendous change in his behaviour. He started arguing with Tia for no reason, sometimes, in a fit of rage, he hit her...as such he was crossing the limit of the relationship.

Tia understood the reason and chose to keep mum and thought that with time, it would diminish and she openly flaunted her love for him in her actions and words.

But nothing changed him...rather the relationship grew worse.

One day, Tia was in kitchen, boiling milk on the gas stove. At once, she was hit so hard that the boiling milk splashed on her face and burnt her face badly.

It was Raj who did it deliberately and walked out of the house, leaving Tia alone.

The neighbours overheard her scream and took her to the hospital for further care.

Her face was badly disfigured and she was in great pain.

She took the entire blame on herself and didn't mention Raj's name...such was her love for her man and what a man, Raj was. For few petty remarks by people, he jilted her lover and it was his envy that made him take such drastic step of burning Tia.

It would have been better for both Raj & Tia, if he would have parted his ways instead of damaging Tia to such an extent that she lost her voice and still she didn't want to hurt her love.

Envy can be disastrous to a great level if the resentment is at height.

My perception is that if ever you feel envious in your relationship, sit calmly with the person and coolly discuss your feeling and clarify your doubts.

Envy is like a termite which slowly eats the person.

Don't let envy eat you, rule out the reasons for yourself and clear the gloom of doubt and if you are unable to do, seek help of parents, friends, life-partner or spiritual guru.

Socrates truly said, Envy is the ulcer of the soul.

This post is written for #ClickAndBlogAStory’s prompt “Envy” for Week # 7. Linking it to http://www.slimexpectations.com Zainab and http://www.allaboutthewoman.com Bushra’s blog.

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Mother's Guide!! #Exam Stress!






The word “Examination” creates a fear in the minds of school going children, to some extent, it’s healthy because it creates an attention to do better in the subjects and bring good scores in the exam. Even the studious child, who is regular in studies and keep himself updated, still the word Exam has an effect on him to concentrate on his subjects…but if exam disturbs the child to such an extent that he runs away from appearing, then that’s a concern and he needs attention of his parents and if still he is unmanageable, then opinion of counselor should be taken to drain out the fear from his mind.

My kids are no more in this stage, they are settled in their jobs, but in my society, there are many school going children, so I get opportunity to watch the reactions of the kids and their parents.

Since a decade or more, I have been observing that the exam pressure is not only built in the minds of the children but their parents too are much tensed and they are after their child to mug up all the answers to score high in class. I too took care of my children & sacrificed my Me time investing in their study hours but I never got tensed nor never ever did their homework or project work….These days, I find the parents completing their children’s project and homework and they spoon-feed their children.

I find few reasons behind this behaviour…they have fear instilled in their minds that their child won’t score high if they invest their time in doing homework…for project work, they think that they will mess the house so they better do it to maintain cleanliness around and further, they feel that their parents didn’t spoon-fed them and they take spoon-feeding in right notion.

But here, I wish to say to the parents of this age to drop fears from their mind & take care not to instil fears in the minds of children. Their children can do much better if he is left to do it on their own…Man learns through trial & error method and by the mistakes, one corrects himself…same way, if you let your child do his project on his own, there are certainly chances that he will mess the house but he will learn how to do it skills and his creativity will bloom…same way, if he does his homework on his own, the contents will remain in his mind and he won’t need lot of extra time to learn….Stop spoon feeding…let him evolve, learn & use his intellect.

I observe that the parents are quite easy going before the exams and when exams approach, they confine the kids and themselves and start forcing the child to complete the assignments & the portion that is due to be asked in the examination…but this practice should be stopped.

My thoughts differ from the crowd of today and I wish that all parents of today should adopt & inculcate healthy habits in their children and keep their life in routine in normal school days and not to pressurize them during exams.


  • Regular in Studies: Inculcate habits in your children to revise the taught lessons. The child should cover up all the portions of every subjects on daily basis. If the child is regular in studies then he don’t have to invest lot of time during exams. Regular study & revision is a must to minimize exam stress.


  • Stop Spoon-feeding: Already mentioned above, Stop spoon-feeding. Out of affection, parents indulge in this practice but with this technique, your kid won’t be able to explore his ideas or use his creativity. Dropping this practice, you will find immense improvement in your child because using his own brain, he will become independent & his quality of thought will improve too with the passage of time.


  • Give him healthy Diet: Mommies instead of fretting & fuming over exams or mugging up lessons of your children, concentrate to cook healthy diet for them including much of green & protein & avoiding junk or readymade food….I hear mother’s saying that she couldn’t cook due to kid’s exam nearing or getting the homework completed & ordered from market. This practice will stunt physical & mental growth of the child and a school going child needs enough nutrients to boost his growth in all spheres.


  • Assign time for Extra-activities: Assign fixed time for watching TV, playing computer or video games or any hobbies that your child has. Extra activities release the stress of the children and it refreshes their mind…Even during exams, they should be provided time for these activities.


  • Proper Sleep: Adequate sleep is a must for the growing children. Don’t let them over-stress during exams, rather they need to be peaceful during exams so that they can write the exams efficiently…at times, overstraining leads to nervous breakdown. Sleep is essential to repair the cells of the body.


  • Boost the morale of your child: Instead of saying, “You can’t do it”. Boost them that he can do it…It has a very positive impact on the child’s mind and his confidence builds up.


Exam time can be fun if the child is regular in revision. I have followed the above practice with my children and it yielded positive result and it reduces exam stress to a great extent.

Try this & you will see wonderful change in your child’s behaviour pattern.


It’s solely my take and my observations.


Linking this post with #MondayMommyMoments hosted by Deepa Gandhi and Amrita Misra

Saturday, February 25, 2017

Skills That I learnt! #Motherhood

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A day a woman becomes a Mother, she is reborn. As she holds her bundle of joy, a sense of maturity creeps in and she is no more a carefree girl…She transforms to a doting mother where her child becomes her priority…and all love & affections flow for the child.

I too was not an exception…motherhood changed me completely…I careless and bindaas girl transformed into a caring mother, the moment I bore my first child…and the joy to hold my flesh in my hands cannot be put into words…words can’t elaborate the feelings that I went through…I was amazed to watch my child with the features resembling me…I couldn’t believe my eyes that I had carried him for complete nine months in my womb…the feeling was surreal and it fetched me immense happiness & satisfaction….it took time to accept that he was my fragment, incarnated by me.

Motherhood transformed me completely. The journey to motherhood wasn’t easy but I readily accepted all the physiological, physical and emotional changes within me and the pregnancy blues with happiness just for the sake of my child and when the doctor put me into my arms, tears of happiness welled in my eyes & that day itself, I promised with myself to rear him a good human with good values…I think all Mom’s feels the same.


Motherhood blessed me with Patience & Tolerance: I was the impatient one and I was not well- acquainted with the word patience. I never got irritated even if he kept me on toes whole night rather I managed him solely with happiness emerging within me. I used to give him five times massage in a day, all by myself after C-Section. I fed him on time at regular intervals as suggested by doctors & mums at home. Never ever I felt tired or low while attending my son, even I was amazed at the change in me and never knew the hidden potential within me…the relatives & onlookers eyes were widened watching me handling the things with ease…I believe the virtue of motherhood teaches us well. Now my toddlers have outgrown my lap, but with time, I have grown more patient and calm and lend them my ears whenever they need my guidance.


Motherhood transformed me to Early Bird: Never in my life, I had woken up at 4 am in the morning not even for the final exams, but just a vague cry of my son early in the morning broke my slumber and I was alert to do his chores…normally, I never woke up before 8 am and if ever I did, I took half an hour or more to be alert but becoming mother changes within me came in drastically.


Motherhood made me Overprotective & Faint-hearted: With the passage of time, I found that I had become overprotective and possessive about my son and feared something untoward when for a fraction of second, my eyes missed him…such was the impact of becoming a Mother. I never left my son with support staff or helpers, an unknown fear gripped on the thought of leaving him to strangers and preferred that he be around me most of the time.

Motherhood graced me with DIY skills: Never before, I had knitted sweaters or stitched any cloth but after becoming a mother, I learnt all the skills and guys, you will surprised to know that my kids never ever wore ready-made sweaters till Std. XII. It was my passion to make sweaters for them and this passion led me to learn it in depth & afterwards, I started tutoring people who had flair for knitting. Same was the case with stitching, I stitched all the napkins, caps, frocks and bed rolls for my kids. I derived happiness indulging in stitching and knitting and I gain mastery in these subjects especially knitting. Even I updated my knowledge in Homeopathic medicines & learnt the techniques of first-aid, which comes handy when the child hurts while learning to walk or crawling. I became well versed in Do-It-Yourself Techniques.


In my eyes of my children, I am their Role model and they follow me and their trust is built upon me, so I have to keep myself updated so that I don’t ever disappoint them. Becoming mother, once again, I revised all the rhymes of kindergarten, updated my general knowledge quotient because in their eyes, I am a Supermom, who knows everything at the fullest.


Becoming a mother is challenging but once you cuddle your sweetheart in your arms, the world looks small and we feel our wings strengthened ready for any ride, be it on smooth plains or on roller and coaster ride. With babies, we enjoy each moment of life and the tough ride appears easy. The best thing is that they keep you busy, you don’t get time to brood over disappointments of life and their cute smiles & the way they reciprocate to your lullabies makes your day beautiful and you profusely thank Supreme power for gifting you a cute child, a part of you plays in your lap.


                                                                       Copyright Ila Varma, 2017

It was my share…What you learnt as a Mom, Do share.





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Thursday, February 23, 2017

Silent Gratitude!!!

It’s quite true, “Silent Gratitude isn’t much use to anyone.”

But expressing gratitude only in simple words is not only the solution. One should have a deep feeling for it.

The word, “Thank You” has a great meaning attached to it and if real emotions are strewn with it, the impact is much more.

My experience says something else.

I am watching this world since four decades of my life with eyes & ears open, deciphering each & every emotions and gathering experience from the miniscule to large variation of emotions. Been a keen observer, I perceive a lot and decipher it as per my perception…I may not be right at all times…my perceptions may differ.

Change is the law of nature and the world around is on constant change.

Change for the betterment would have made the world a better place to live in…but sorry to say that with the huge advancement in technology, even Man got affected to a greater extent and the emotions too got mechanized…people are forgetting the importance of emotions in life…the emoji’s have caught hold of expressing emotions.

I would have been happy if emoji’s too delivered real emotions…mostly, it’s Superficial.

In today’s world, most people around are wearing masks…they act like machines and the words spoken are superficial…it flows out but they don’t hold much meaning to it and if these people extend their gratitude in just two words, I feel chagrined.

They speak out because they think that they have to utter but if you watch their faces, no amount of gratitude you will read on their faces…rather aapko lagega, wah aapka mazaak bana raha hai.

Don’t think, I’m misleading, it’s a fact that I have read from my experiences…I am giving few instances and I’m sure few of you might have encountered such experience in life.

Once one of relative was in distress and asked for financial help. I too was in tight fix still I spared the amount feeling his urgency…I think he forgot to return & I too did not remind him…I felt belittled asking for the sum…After one whole year, he appeared out of the blue to pay the amount back and the way, he said…I was shocked…He said that he never ever borrows money and if in urgency, he does, he pays back without reminder…nowhere he mentioned that he was thankful that I stood beside him in distress…nor his face showed that he felt the gratitude…What you will say for such people?

The world has gone turtle. In the arrogance, whim and fancies of the world, people have forgotten disbursing small joys of life.

I feel it’s important to feel the weight of gratitude and then only convey in words and if you don’t feel, don’t chuckle out for the sake of saying…it’s worthless.

Positive attitude brings positivity in your life and Superficiality brings in negativity in life and deprive one to flourish.

Don’t just spell out the word, “Thank You”, show the gratitude in our actions and behaviours…it will raise the bar of your life and you will prosper…Don’t demean the word, Gratitude.

Show your gratitude to keep yourself happy first…if you are happy then only you can bring happiness in other’s life.

I’m the person, who don’t show Agarbattis to our gods on daily basis but do try to be of help to people who need my help in anyone, because I believe more in Karma than Dharma.

Karma can improve your Dharma but only Dharma cannot have impact on Karma.

The views are solely mine and it’s my take, Do share yours.

Ila Varma, 23-02-2017

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Sunday, February 19, 2017

Friday Foto Fiction Week 13.

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The huge palatial bungalow where we grew stood today, dark & dingy with cobwebs hanging all around.

Tears welled up in my eyes, this was the place where Maa-Pa lived with dignity and kept the ancestral property neat and clean...and what we did?

In race of earning high, we uprooted our roots.

Now, I have to visit Oxygen pubs to breathe in fresh air, hit back to gym to maintain fitness...and here we have all in plenty.

I took the decision.

I resigned from the job and moved here with the family.

Once again, life regained & I felt rejuvenated.

(100 words)

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Saturday, February 18, 2017

Review of Mama Earth Baby Products!!! #Childcare

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 Mama Earth Asia’s 1st Made Safe Certified Toxin Free Brand.



The founders of Mama Earth is Varun Alagh & GhazalAlagh. They were one of the carefree couple but when they were expecting their first child, they became conscious of the safety of the baby and they started the research of the baby products. They discovered that most of the baby products contained toxins which is harmful for the health of the babies. They were not only concerned about their own baby but for all the babies they knew in their friend circle. There, their journey began to create products which were completely safe and certified toxin free. A brand which develops products from world class research after heavy trials in an attempt to solve the little problems that each parents face. With this projection, they ambled forward and in this way, Asia’s 1st Made Safe Certified Toxin Free Brand Mama Earth was born.








Mama Earth’s 4 Core Values

  • Safety:  Mama Earth are first made safe certified toxin free brand and they take care that each product is clinically tested and trialled in Europe.

  • Honesty: The ingredients used in the products are clearly mentioned on the packaging for the parents to know what all are been used & even on the website, the products are rated & details mentioned therein, so transparency is there.

  • Mum-empowerment: The best part is all the products are by the mom, for the mom & through the moms.

  • Best of the earth: They choose the best available ingredients be it natural, plant-based or synthetic and the concern is both for safety & efficacy of the product.



The well-being of the Baby matters most, its equivalent to Baby’s love.

The product of Mama Earth is free of all the below mentioned harmful chemicals.


  • No Parabens
  • No Sulphates
  • No Phthalates
  • No Mineral Oil
  • No Petroleum
  • No Synthetic Fragrances or Dyes.


In Feb.2017, I received a Travel kit of Mama Earth products by the brand and was enamoured by its packaging, it’s quite comfortable to carry during outing with your baby.

The travel kit comprised of 4 Daily use baby products:

  • Moisturizing Daily Lotion for Babies.
  • Gentle Cleansing Shampoo for Babies.
  • Deeply Nourishing Body Wash for Babies.
  • Soothing Massage Oil for Babies.




When I received the product, at first, I used on myself before trying on my niece, Rose to be sure of the efficacy & safety of the product and found it very soothing and toxin free and then my cutie, Rose tried on and we thoroughly enjoyed using the baby products.


Come on, let me tell you in detail about the ingredients of the products, one by one and the experience with Mama Earth Baby Products.




Moisturizing Daily Lotion for Babies: consists of Shea butter, Aloe Vera, Calendula extract, Almond & Jojoba Oil, all ingredients pulled out from nature and it’s a light weight blanket of moisture and it protects the skin from dryness and skin irritation. It isn’t greasy, so the baby feel fresh and velvety soft and the mother’s don’t need to bother about staining. As I have already said it is a product which both Mom & baby can use it and enjoy the blend of mild fragrance of nature. My sis-in-law & Rose is using it profusely and at times, I use it for myself.

I insist the mothers to buy this product for their babies and enrich the skin with the mildness of natural products, free from toxins.






Gentle Cleansing Shampoo for Babies: constitutes of coconut based cleansers & conditioners & Lavender essential oil, products extracted from nature and it cleanses the scalp, leaving the hair soft & silky and it lathers easily. Few drops are enough for your baby. The best part is that been toxin free, it doesn’t irritates the sensitive eyes of infants, so Mumma you can use for your baby without making her cry & even it is gentle on the skin.





Deeply Nourishing Body Wash for Babies: is prepared from coconut based cleansers & conditioners, Aloe Vera, orange essential oils, all by products of nature. Nature is in abundance in each and every formulae of Mama Earth Baby products. Give your baby a bubbly bath and enjoy the freshness of it. It gives complete cleansing to the skin from head to toe and keep skin soft, supple & nourished. It is friendly to eyes & skin.




Soothing Massage Oil for Babies: is prepared of pure almond, jojoba, cold pressed sesame oil, coconut and olive oils. It is very soothing to the baby’s body & regular massage with this oil will improve the girth of the baby, strengthen their bones and keep them fit & healthy. It is easily absorbed in the skin. Baby loves massage and with natural oils, you & baby both will fall in love with it. It pampers the skin of the mother & baby.

My sis-in-law & niece Rose are loving the mild fragrance of the Mama Earth baby products and she thanked me profusely for briefing her about the product and she bought 200 ml packs of all the four products from online store and she has vouched to use it always for her baby and herself.


Even it is cost effective, and it is safe and efficient. Realizing its efficacy and safe, I am grateful to the couple Varun & Ghazal Alagh, who came up with the best product.
Kudos to the team of Mama Earth.

You can buy the products online from Amazon, First Cry & Nykaa portals.



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Friday, February 17, 2017

Five Vices!!!

How can one be thankful for the vices? Never heard of it before nor had ever tried, but The Thankful Thursday asked me to jot down the vices for which I am thankful to Almighty.

Even the Supreme power will be astonished as what I am upto.

I racked my brain and finally closed to Five Vices for which I am thankful...let's see whether readers agree with me or not...if I would have been asked virtues, there would have been a long list...anyways, let's start.

  1. Been Online: Common complain of my close associates to far one, friends & foes, they find me online and even their walls are flooded with my posts & comments...Yuck...many feel that I am busy in chatting...and me...I hate chatting. I am online researching on the subjects to write, reading opinion of others, writing on my subjects and for all these, I need to be online.
    This vice can be annoying for many but for me, it has yielded good results and my identity as a blogger, twitteratti has increased manifold.


2. Present in Most Social Networking Sites: One more complain, I hear from my family & close associate that I am omnipresent on all social sites and they fear that my account can be hacked or manipulated or sharing information is not beneficial...I just smile because I know that this vice has proved productive for me as my writings have wide audience and I learn so many things from the circle of social friends & I have drawn a fine line of ethics so that none can use me in a wrong way.

3. Shopholic: Since teenage, I shop a lot and my cravings are for fabrics, which includes dresses, bedsheets, curtains & cushion covers; books & magazines and music...nowadays, it's been more easy with online shopping and nowadays courier people are well aware of my shopping habits and the connectivity "ne mere vice ko chaar chand laga diya hai"..now at the click of the button, I purchase what I wish to...sometimes, I am caught in impulsive buying ...still I am thankful for this vice and at this stage when my nest is empty, it acts more as therapeutic and keeps me fresh & lively.

4. Music: I am lover of music...I  put it this way, I breathe music, I am in love with music and with music, I can stay lonely in any isolated island. I am thankful for this vice because it makes me independent in thought and actions and I feel full of life. Elders at my house sometime gets irritated with my loud music but finding me happy & busy, their gussa vanish off often.

5. Emotional Attachment: I get attached very easily and can't endure to watch people in pain and I can go to any extent to provide help to the needy...in this course, I help a lot of people...often, I stretch my limits but there has been incidents when people were good enough to extract from me by feigning...but still my this vice is in continuation because I believe in that one can dupe only once but for thousand times, he won't get the love & support when he is actually in need of it.

I call these vices because at times, people get irritated at me for indulging in these vices but I am at ease indulging in them and I am grateful to the supreme power to have blessed with the most that I can avail these easily.

It was my take, Do share yours.

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Thursday, February 16, 2017

Family #Unconditional Love

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Where can one find unconditional love?

Parents are the pillars of unconditional love and their love for their kids never ceases and the child is always a child in the eyes of their parents...they outgrow their lap but they never outgrow their hearts...that's the beauty of love where there are no conditions, no boundaries...it is the love that is never tired of giving.

The day, woman comes to know of her pregnancy, her attention & focus shifts to the life that she is carrying in her womb and she tackles all the pregnancy blues to have a glimpse of the baby...the token of her love.

She goes through bone wracking pain for the sake of bringing a child...a mother knows of the pain that she undergoes to bring a life in the world...and the day she bears, it is her rebirth.

Parents are attached to their child but the intensity of attachment is at maxim in mothers, the reason is that she carries for nine months in her womb and the umbilical cord is severed to bring out the child, so the attachment is deep.

Parents are quite protective towards their children...it is not seen only in human...but you can see this attachment on all life on this earth who can bear offspring.

Watch the birds...how they feed their children, teach them to fly and how they protect their eggs & babies from enemies...even in animals, you will find the same unconditional love towards  their children and how beautifully they rear them, making them independent.

Why is Family important?

Man is a social animal and he needs people around to share and care and in the initial stage of life, family is the backbone of an individual and one is fully dependent on their parents, grandparents & siblings. The child learns the basics from family through trial n error and the family stands by through thick and thin to guide and hold when you stumble.

After blood relations, the role of friends in our life is appreciable and the good friends are not less than own siblings...we share our joys and sorrows and by sharing joys multiplies and sorrows gets divided.

When we are settled or completed education...we settle with the companion to share and care and procreate...at every juncture of life, we need family at the back end to support us mentally, physically, emotionally & financially and we pay the debts of our parents by bringing the child into the world and taking its responsibility.

Life is a circle...we reach at the same point we started our life though the characters & the characteristics change with time.

We all need a family to share our good & worst things of life and a shoulder to cry.

At one instance, family makes you powerful & courageous to fight against the odds of life and in another instances, this family  makes you weak and you are scared to lose someone.

Can't fathom a world without family?

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Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Valentine Day Celebrations








Once Upon a time, Valentine Day was a Greek word for Indians but thanks to the world of media that even the old pairs who have completed their golden anniversary too are busy with the celebrations….then what to say about the young pairs….they are anxious and their expectations rise high.

A month before 14th Feb., cards & gifts are decked up for the occasion, tables booking is on in restaurants and varied discounts & add-ons are added by the hotel industry.

The town is painted red in the anxious wait for the Valentine day and all swear their love to their partners and those they don’t have, they are in ardent search to express their love…with the advent of Feb., love starts brimming.

I too get high in Feb, but I am poor in expressions and so my heart fails to propose or vow and the same is the condition with my partner.

We are an ideal couple who are poor in expressions.

Further, my take is that love is not a thing to be celebrated only on a specific day.

Love is a fire which kindles when eyes and soul of two meet and decide to carry on and the passion for each other increases with each passing day, building trust upon each other and it reaches the zenith where even the biggest mistake of love is pardoned…such is the intensity of love and it can’t be erected in a day, it takes a lot of time, patience and perseverance.


Falling in love is easy but to remain in love is promising and when it reaches the zenith, the love turns unconditional where it only believes in giving with no expectations…but all relationships or love don’t reach to that extent.


Still, I don’t disagree with the celebrations but my choice is a bit different.

I don’t celebrate but still I have a list of choices where materialistic things are missing, it’s more to enjoy the day with spending less & enjoying more concept. It would be fulfilling too, it’s my view.

Start the day with a kiss planted on the lips of your love, it will revive the lost passions and you will feel fresh and present a beautiful red rose promising to stand by each other through thick and thin and just as the thorns manage to keep the rose petals safe; same ways you two vouch for each other.

Ask to wear the dress of your choice and prepare breakfast for each other. Even one of the partners can surprise showcasing their culinary skills and table management.

Decide to be together…if there is no urgency at office, take a day break and enjoy the leave with your partner, indulge in sharing and caring and love making as mood of both desires.

Go for a long drive with the favourite music playing in the backdrop, it will entice your passion.
Grab the hours to use in your own way as you desire to be with your partner.
Decorate your bedroom, light colourful aromatic candles, play music and enjoy the hours of close proximity.

If you indulge in with pleasant mood, I can challenge nothing better can replace these moments and no amount can fetch you these small pretty , invaluable, precious joys of life.

Don’t wait for one long year to celebrate the valentine day, take a break from fast life in a quarter and enjoy the leisure time with your partner….this way, the couple come closer and the fire of love rekindles.


This is my choice of gifts on the V-Day…what is yours? Do share & care.

Writing this for #MondayMommy Moments prompt


Once Upon a Time!

Watching this old snap when I was born, how his firm hands held us tight and his calm touch vanished our fears.

I watched Pa resting on the rocking chair, the robust personality withered with age & Parkinson.

His deep voice held thousand people but now he could be hardly heard.

Once he held me whenever I stumbled while learning to walk.

It was a joyous moment when he taught me to walk but now my heart comes into my mouth when I ask him to take one step at a time & balance his gait.

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Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Uff, Yeh Blogging & Tum!!! #ILoveBlogging



Since childhood, I have a habit of scribbling…in those days, papers were used for writing and I scribbled my outbursts both healthy n jovial ones as well as disastrous ones…it was my way of venting out my emotions which I didn’t share easily with anyone. Papers and pen are my companions and I trust them.

I am not an introvert or extrovert, a blend of both…at times, one can find me loud and at another time, they may find submitted to myself. Many see me as the snob or of proud nature…and generally in initial encounters, very few are able to understand me…maximum misunderstand me and get to know me better with times.

I cleared my battles of life with scribbling my emotions on paper and kept them properly tucked in a file. I have a habit of re-reading it a number of times. With time, the mode of scribbling changed and became digitized and I moved to system & keyboard leaving my favorite pen & paper…but the process of venting out remained the same.

Soon, I deciphered the world of blogging and gradually started posting my emotions, experiences, and observations that I daily encountered in my life and now, it has become a habit to post daily, if perchance, I miss…I become impatient and wait eagerly to venture in my world of blogging and on this valentine day, I admit that I am in love with blogging.

Don’t ask me When, Why & How I fell for blogging….I can’t describe figuratively but I can assure that my heart yearns for blogging.



The reasons are ample and realistic…the first and foremost is that my mood swings make me a writer, a poetess, at times, I act as a journalist and in few instances, I pry in others privacy, so I become spy…and handling numerous professions are making me versatile with each passing day.

My emotions don’t bottle up…through blogging, I emit all the foulness brewing inside me and I feel fresh and light and the readers’ comments boost my confidence and at times shakes with bitter comments…unwanted comments give us space to improve…my experiences of life say so.



I paint my blog red when my passion and love speaks loud and in those best moods, I write poems of love and giving the form of compositions makes me more passionate and it rekindles the rage of love inside me.

The incidents that I encounter in & around my life and the experience that I derive from those moments, I instantly give it a form of prose or poetry and it helps me to learn from those small things of life…the good ones rejuvenates me and the bad ones gives me a lesson to learn….and jotting down is wonderful.

The captivating moments of nature, is captured under my lens and I love to share on a blog.

The habit of scribbling remained the same but there was a great transition…when I wrote on papers, it remained under the cover and only I had the permission to read but the world of blogging brought tremendous transformation and the outbursts are now on the public platform and people are free to read, comment, appreciate or criticize.

The most appreciable quality of a blog is that by reading the notions of others, we learn a great many new things, learn to know more about the changing perceptions and reflections of people and this sharing help us to reform our ways. The joy of others adds joys to our life…other tough times comes as a lesson to learn from other mistakes…sharing makes the people caring.

In the world of blogging, you can find answers for every query…the arena is vast and the specialty of one’s character or profession reflects in their blog…you can easily find answers to your query about pregnancy & parenting, cooking & baking, lifestyle & beauty, travel & tour, love & emotions, spellings & grammar and many more.

I love blogging because I love jotting down my emotions, perceptions, reflections, experiences, and observations that I encounter around my life…it has given me a digital identity on various social networking sites…discovered many friends from different niche and we learn a lot exchanging our ideas and love to participate in the ongoing contests in the world of blogging and meeting the deadlines.

When I get impulsive, my family asks me why are you so impatient to blog…why so much priority been given to blogging…I give them a smile with a wink and say it aloud, “I am in love with blogging”…hearing this all the three men of my family sing in unison, “Uff, Yeh Blogging & Tum.”



Linked to Thankful Thursday.



Monday, February 13, 2017

Sky Under My Lens #Ooty #Coonoor

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                                                                      Deserted Look +Bandipur Tr 
                                                              



                                                           Skywatch @Pine Forest Ooty







                                                                          Skywatch @Pine Forest Ooty




                                                                On Way to @Ooty



Pic Credits: Copyright 2017 @Ila Varma

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Monday, February 6, 2017

Taj Madikeri, Coorg!!! #MMTLuxuryStays

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The word “Honeymoon” itself gives butterflies in stomach, so you can imagine my status very well. After getting married and heading for honeymoon after a fortnight. You will be amazed why I chose to go for Honeymoon after a fortnight of my marriage. The reason was that I stayed back with parents so that my wife could mix with my family and she’s recognized in the family, few may feel weird. Anyways, each individual has its own way of looking at things.

I will share my secret of our destination. Our Honeymoon stay was wonderful in the lap of nature and peaceful ambiance – Coorg at the famous Vivanta by Taj, Madikeri. The staycation added colors to our trip and the days afterwards.

I will not delve more about my alliance with my beautiful lady but would definitely delve into minute details of the staycation @ Taj Madikeri.

We started from Bengaluru by car in late evening and by morning, we had our eyes gazing at the amazing valley of Coorg from the stunning lobby of Taj Madikeri. We were given a warm welcome at the reception in a regional manner. The start was so beautiful, our expectation rose high and the team of Taj met our expectation without any hiccups. Frankly, the service was much higher than my expectation and imagination. 

The majestic property of Taj mesmerized me from within. Its grandeur, architecture, aesthetic design and the location of the property is surreal and breath-taking. It is tucked into the hills and greenery sprawls all over the landscape of hills and forest.

From reception, we were escorted to our beautiful cottage by a buggy. The Buggy had to basically run down the slopes of the hill and we could see the other beautiful cottages on our way.

As we stepped inside our cottage, the intricate design, aesthetic sense & simplicity simply awed us. It gave us a royal feeling for sure. My wife was mesmerized and we thanked ourselves for choosing the best we could, considering that we did not wanted to travel too far from Bengaluru.

We were asked to visit the Breakfast dining area. The spread was nicely decked up and consisted basically of all types of cuisine – Continental, North – South Indian specials, some special delicacies of Coorg(Kodagu) and wide choice of juices. We tried as much as we could, it was sumptuous.

The lunch and dinner varieties were equally amazing and there are no words to describe how well Taj stands out from the rest. 

The property also has a small museum which reflects on the history of Kodagu (Coorg) along with some plantations of coffee, tea and strawberry.

The lobby of the hotel stands at the best place, offering view of the entire valley. The infinity pool adjacent to it, only make the view stunning. The Barbeque restaurant at the foothills – the Grill along the pool is mind-blowing for what it serves.

We enjoyed the stay at Taj thoroughly and the courteous management stole our hearts – right from the reception, during our stay in the property, housekeeping staff, F&B teams at Ferntree and the Grill were amazing.

The property is immaculately clean and grandeur and they take too much care to maintain the cleanliness of the property.

Due to professional obligations, we stayed for three days & two nights but the memory of the stay is etched in our memory and I look forward to many more stays at Vivanta by Taj, Madikeri to enjoy the lavishness in the luscious backdrop of Coorg.

Rating: 4.5/5.


Here are my few clicks of the Taj property which I managed to click when I was relieved from my newly wedded bride.
Overview of Taj Madikeri, Coorg.








                                                                    View from Lobby



                                                                                Breakfast Joint
                               


                                                                  Internal View of Cottage






                                                             Cottage Decked up #Honeymoon Package





                                                                           Neat Decoration with Warm Wishes




Inputs by Ila Varma, in the voice of my Son.

“I am blogging about my luxury stay experience for an activity at BlogAdda in association with MakeMyTrip