Monday, August 27, 2018

Relationships are Fragile!


Relationships are Fragile, Handle with Care. 


Been proactive on social media and included in many groups within social media acquaints me with the issues faced by the people. Relationship management is not an easy task and it requires patience and perseverance.  We need to remember that the relationships are like the sacred thread which needs the care to be handled and maintained. Too much of expectations and alterations might affect and the thread can be snapped. Once snapped, it is not possible to come back into original shape, how hard you try. A knot will always be there and it suffocates the relationship.



रहिमन धागा प्रेम का, मत तोड़ो चटकाय।टूटे से फिर ना जुड़े, जुड़े गांठ परि जाय।


The Doha of Rahim is apt to understand the essence of a relationship.

If we remember the words of Rahim, we can be true in maintaining long-term relationships.

Today, in one of the groups, hot discussion of the day was,


"How to handle Relatives & Friends who sprawl or sit on the sofa with feet up, Should they be asked to sit properly or ignored?"


The answers thronged the platform and maximum were of the view that they should ask their relatives and friends to sit in a proper way.  If it sounds rude, they did not feel to be bothered and negligible were of the opinion, "अतिथिदेवो भव" and we should refrain from being rude and offensive.

I too plunged in the discussion with my own opinion.

I hold the view that the relatives and friends that visit our place are because they nurture love and care for us and we should respect them.

In today's scenario, people lazily sprawl on sofas while watching TV or time spent with family. When you yourself do the same then you don't feel the need to be questioned then how come, you feel like asking family members and guests to avoid.

Further, people love to be in the comfort zone and because they feel at home at your place so they tend to get informal on their visit.

It is better to refrain from asking friends and relatives to be formal and not to sit with feet up or lying on the sofa. It will hurt the sentiments. Why be so concerned about the things that are perishable? It is far better to save the relationships because the relationships are delicate and fragile and need lots of care to flourish. The things damaged can be amended or replaced but a relationship cannot.

People don't remember us through our articles and commodities, we are remembered for our good and bad deeds.

My sincere advice was that overlook these petty things and rise above these materialistic things to maintain the sanctity of our relationships.

Moreover, if your conscience does not allow to accept the informal behavior of the people, who visit you, then there are a few ways that you can adhere to and maintain silence.

Change your habit and keep the rules uniform for the insiders as well as the outsiders
Don't allow anybody to break the rules
It is better not to restrict, instead use sofa covers that can be frequently washed or sprawl cotton thin comforters on the sitting arrangements. Wash them weekly.
People loved my idea and I too follow the same at my place. I don't pinpoint if visitors, friends, and families live informal at my place because I believe that the relationships are above these petty things and why to mar relationships.

I am a firm believer of Rahim Doha and I support it heartily.


Readers, share in your views. Honest views will be appreciated.


Disclaimer: The post is written solely on my experience with the open discussions in various forums. I don't hold any grudge against someone nor I want to offend someone. I believe in healthy open discussions and I don't get offended, rather I believe that the open interaction helps us to know many new things to learn and improve.

Saturday, August 25, 2018

Kerala Razed by Natural Disaster!







 


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Science and technology have advanced and continuous research are on to improve life on the planet. None can fight against the natural disasters and these are the only factors beyond the means of a human mind. The natural calamity stakes thousands and thousands of lives and ransacks the place in its own disastrous way. Man becomes a mute spectator and can only raise hands in prayers to the Supreme Power to control the overpowering of nature.


This time, nature fury gulped beautiful state of South India, Kerala, and “God’s OwnCountry” thronging the place with the alarming flood, devastating lives, crops, farms, infrastructure and place. The heavy continuous rainfall played havoc in Kerala displacing the equilibrium of Kerala.

We believe whatever action the Supremo takes is always right and a benefit plan is tagged with it, which human eyes cannot see through. I am not sure how true it stands for the present situation of Kerala.




The heavy rainfall added woes to the family residing mismanaging lives and property worth infinite crores. Kerala faces heavy rainfall every year but this year 2018 saw unusual rains, which the place could not absorb. The water bodies swelled abnormally and the dams were not in a position to hold water. Finally, the authorities had to give in by opening the shutters of 35 dams out of 42. The unusual rainfall aggravated cases of landslides, resultant, the whole state is in its worst condition.


No doubt, Kerala has a high literacy rate and even poverty level is lowest among all the Indian states. The major literate population works abroad and there is an excellent flow of international cash in the state. The current flood plundered the state and the people have lost their precious belongings, buildings, livestock and the state has lost its amenities and infrastructure as well as agriculture and farming prospects.


Watching the areas inundated, it gives a feeling that it will take years to regain its glory and come back into shape.




It requires complete renovation and the state and the residents of  Kerala is in dire need of huge finances and aids from the government, NGO’s, private agencies, industrialists, socialists, and individuals.


Normally, after the massive flood in a state, there are chances of spreading deadly diseases, waterborne infections and epidemics.


Now the floods are receding and the state need support and assistance to build their fortune and bring their life back to normalcy.


It is my sincere request to all who can afford to extend financial help to Kerala, do reach out to them by sending money, food and grains, medicines and flood relief material to help the deprived and unprivileged.


Send funds to the authentic addresses as mentioned on several websites and newspaper. The conman, hooligans, and other trespassers are also active to mint money in the name of Kerala floods, so refrain from getting stuck into transactions with them. Cross check before extending help so that it reaches in right hands and it is utilized in a proper way.

The Quartz India has provided links to donate and contribute to save Kerala and its people from financial crunch and for state restoration, Click here


The newspapers and the news channel say that Kerala is in need of the huge number of mechanics, laborers, technicians and other support staff to restore life and facilities in Kerala. There are immense opportunities and people operating in these fields can contact administrative people in Kerala to extend their help to restore the glory of Kerala.


The natural scenic and landscapes will be taken care of by nature and the Supreme power albeit…men start their actions in restoring Kerala.

Kerala is in distress…extend financial cooperation to help the state and its people overcome the tyranny caused by nature.



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Thursday, August 23, 2018

Rebellious Me, I Broke the Taboo Connected with Period!







In our country, attaining puberty is a matter to hush and is wrapped in covers, just like sanitary napkins delivered in opaque packs or newspapers.


Decades before, there were many myths and taboos attached to periods (monthly cycle in fertile girls or women). It was considered impure and there was a long list of BIG NO’s that the girls and the women of the family had to follow in practice.


I was raised in a large family with three generations staying under the same roof, sharing the common kitchen. Each generation had their own set of rules and formulas and the kith and the kin had to follow silently. Raising a voice was next to impossible even in wildest dreams and questioning elders were out of the question.

In my early years of childhood and early teens, I could not understand why the weird rules were followed by my immediate siblings, aunts, mother and other young females of the family.

The weird rules were uniform for all young woman though the dates differ. One thing I could make out that it lasted for 5 days for a single person.


What were the Weird Rules?

Sleep on the Floor or a Cot – Exclusive bedding was allotted and no one else shared the bed with her on her special 5 days in a month.

No Entry in Kitchen Zone – She, the poor soul could not enter the kitchen zone, neither she was allowed to cook or take food for herself.

 Don’t Touch Pickles – She was not allowed to touch pickles. It was believed that they will rot if touched.

No Hair wash - On the 5th day, she was allowed to wash her hair. It was believed that she will catch a cold or her flow will be affected.

No Entry in Puja Room or Temples – She was not permitted to perform any religious rites or enter into the area of worship.

On the 5th day, all her clothes, beddings and washable belongings were separately washed and she had to wash her hair to be allowed to roam freely throughout the premises. It was believed that she was clean after the 5th day of periods.

This separation was noticed by all the male fraternity of the house as well as the outsiders. It appeared as if she was an outcast and in exile.

I found these rules weird, unhealthy and humiliating for the people who had attained puberty and thereafter until She was fertile.

I, the rebellious raised voice against such practice. I wasn’t a rebel but on watching these atrocities against women fraternity, emotions stirred. I could not raise voice to my other two generations in the hierarchy but the immediate hierarchy, My Mom had to face my tantrums.

My periods started later than my siblings and friends of near my age and women of the house were planning to take me to the lady doctor. I was 15 plus and well understood all the things related to periods and ovulation.

I kept a condition to my Mom that I would not see the doctor if these weird practices are not abolished from the house. Further, if my ovulation starts, I won’t disclose to anybody because I find these practices humiliating and unacceptable.

I even added that my periods were delayed just because of watching these tantrums…it was my pace of emotional blackmail to evade emotional atayachaar.

My mom and granny had a discussion under the covers and they disclosed that the day, I am blessed, they will stop these malpractices (It’s my way of saying to taboos practiced).

God heard my words and I did not have to visit the doctor for the investigations and I was blessed within a quarter of discussion. It declared that I was fertile and healthy.



All the practiced taboos vanished except for two weird rules that still existed. My prayers were heard by them and so I too had to hear and accept two rules, which did not prove to be a hurdle in my life.

Don’t Touch Pickles – It did not bother me because I am not fond of pickles, so it hardly mattered.

Don’t Enter Puja Zone or Temples – I believed in God and could not strive courage to break the barrier, being God fearing. Still, I don’t enter Puja zone.

The rest weird practices were non-existent and it gave freedom to all women of the family and even my Mom and Aunt were benefitted. All congratulated me for the courage shown and the lives of all women fraternity improved, it was women liberation.

No more exile period and it added glow on their faces and they thanked me profusely for the bold step.


Attaining puberty for a Man and a Woman should be celebrated as a moment of pride. It proves scientifically that they are fit, healthy and fertile.

These days, various platforms have started to create awareness about ovulation and periods. Now no more, it is considered a subject to be kept under covers or discussed in a hushed tone. It is a natural process and adequate hygiene should be maintained. Various departments are working towards it and are arranging sanitary kiosks at public places for the women fraternity.

Still, the practice exists in many regions and families and the women suffer. People need to understand that it a moment of Pride and nothing to be ashamed of.

More and more awareness programs are required to educate the bizarre and rural population and the movie Pad Man proved to be useful to promote period awareness.



Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Defamation - One Liner Wednesday!





One Liner





justice

The sad reality of our society and the lady with her eyes covered holding a balance in hand depicts the helplessness of our social structure.

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Friday, August 17, 2018

Pre-Launch of Lockdown -Badshah on ZEE5!





Aditya Prateek Singh Sisodia would have never dreamt that one day he will be popular with his stage name, Badshah. Born to a father who hails from Haryana and mother from Punjab. He did his schooling from Delhi and during school days, he participated in the school choir. The gene of music was in him since school days, but the exposure was limited. Later on, in college tenure, he got exposure in the realm of Punjabi music, and it emerged as a turning point in the life of Aditya Prateek Singh. He transformed into a relevant Indian Rapper and music composure in Punjabi, Hindi & Haryanvi music and today people recognise him as Badshah.

His stage name Badshah suits his personality and voice. He is an engineer by profession and confesses that if lady luck had not favoured him in the field of Music, he would have been in administration niche as an IAS Officer. His brilliance showed up in music.

Badshah got a break in music career in 2006 with an upcoming rapper Yo Yo Honey Singh of Punjab. He joined Yo Yo group band Mafia Mundeer, and their music was recognised by the youth and both gained name and fame.

Badshah’s independent Haryanvi number Kar Gayi Chull gained popularity, and later on, it got adapted into Bollywood movie. Since then, no looking back, his music numbers has been a ready choice for the Bollywood movie makers. His distinguished numbers found a place in Bollywood movies, Humpty Sharma Ki Dulhania and Khoobsurat, The numbers proved to be a hit and added laurels to his career.

Badshah gained remarkable feat of excellence by his debut single, "DJ Waley Babu" featuring Aastha Gill. It ranked number one on Indian itunes charts within 24 hours of its release and crossed a million views on YouTube within 30 hours of release.


He has also collaborated with artists including Gippy Grewal, Diljit Dosanjh, Manj Musik, Raftaar, Navv Inder and Aastha Gill among others.

His song with Navv Inder fetched the 2016 Punjabi Music Awards for best duo/group and most popular song of the year award.

Badshah’s strong footing in the arena of music inspired him to plunge into television production. He says that this domain enticed him and he wanted to explore this field. Badshah’s production house name is After-hours, and it will curate content for web, Film and TV niches.

Finally, he is ready with the launch of his first production web series ‘Lockdown’ on ZEE5. He has collaborated with 19 extraordinary singers to stir a musical extravaganza.

Lockdown will showcase music icons such as Raftaar, Kailash Kher, Sachin Jigar and Monali Thakur collaborating with digital sensations such as Shirley Setia, Jonita Gandhi, Raja Kumari and Mickey Singh.

The format of Lockdown is a brand new flavour for the audiences, and it will stir interest in the participants as well as audiences. It proposes to recreate 20 iconic songs in a ten episode series. Each sequence will comprise of two singers, and they will recreate two music videos in a given time of 48 hours.

ZEE had the concept of Lockdown and Badshah got the opportunity to illustrate his dream as a debutant producer under his banner Afterhours.

Lockdown is a web series to promote and showcase the exclusive talent and hence no competition and winners in the series. Everyone gets the opportunity to recreate a sensational song elucidating their ideas and concept.



Badshah is simultaneously nervous and excited for the premiere of Lockdown Zee Entertainment’s app ZEE5 proposed on 17th August 2018.







We wish Badshah a huge success on his entrepreneurial endeavours and Lockdown proves to be successful in all spheres bagging laurels for One & Only Badshah.

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Monday, August 13, 2018

Undoubtedly, Mother Sparsh is a Better Choice to Keep My Baby Skin Smiling!







Motherhood arrives with a lot of responsibilities and the same was for me. I had transformed into an extra careful and over possessive Mom, from the day my angle arrived in my womb. A phase of hasty decisions and carelessness vanished. I took decisions after verifying and cross-checking all the pros and cons of any article to be used for the baby care.


There are umpteen things that have to be taken care of for our bundle of joy. They are so cute and delicate. We require to be extra vigilant in their care, whether it is concerning their feed, clothes, bedding's, toys and body care. They require our utmost attention and a bit of ignorance and negligence can add to their discomfort.


The baby skin is very soft and sensitive and requires a lot of attention and care. The products used should be thoroughly studied and researched. We Moms have the advantage of the digital age; we can readily check in the details and veracity of the company from the comforts of our home. We can easily analyze the product’s key ingredients, their efficacy and side effects. It aids us to decide the brand suitable for our cutie pie from among the different available brands in the market.


Infants, toddlers, and kids mess a lot due to their erratic routine of the potty, pee and eating habits. We Moms have to be on our toes to maintain hygiene and cleanliness.


For cleanliness, baby wipes come handy whether we are at home or on an outing. It is used profusely and we need to be extra cautious in making an appropriate choice. It should be one that is soothing and comfortable on the baby’s skin.


There are multiple brands of Baby wipes soaring in the market but I was in a search of something eco-friendly, bio-degradable and soft on the skin of my baby.

I explored the market and came to know about the brand MotherSparsh, which has exclusive products for baby care and boosts about Ayurveda ingredients in their range of products. I read the details of the key ingredients and studied in detail…still, I was not so satisfied because every organization tries to prove their product best in the market by attractive promotional strategy.

I read all the reviews of the Moms who had used the product, Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes. Most of the reviews defended the product and there was positive feedback. My confidence soared but as I told you earlier that after being Mom, I have transformed into an over-possessive and over cautious Mom…the inquisitive character of a Super Mom.


I wanted to confide in my peer group – a pack of wonderful Moms. Their suggestion would be impartial and near to 100% correct information. I pinged on them on our What Sapp group and the positive messages flowed from them, who had tried their hands on Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes. Now, I agreed to buy Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes for my cute angel.
I instantly placed an online order on Amazon and within three days, the pack was in my hands.


Characteristics of Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes








Attractive Packaging:

MotherSparsh Baby Wet Wipes comes in a plastic packaging of light blue color with an opening on the top, which has a covering of plastic film. The packaging is informative and contains detailed information about the product and a smiling cute baby image on the package steals our interest in the contents of the pack.

Fabric Material:

The material of the fabric is cotton derived from the cotton plant and a bio-degradable product. The best choice of the organization in an event where hoards of campaigns are been launched to save the environment. It is thin, soft and caresses softly to the delicate baby’s skin & bum.

Key Ingredients:

Purified Water, Aloe Vera extracts, Lactic acid, Jojoba oil, and Castor oil.


Organic, Free from Harmful Chemicals, Parabens and Alcohol Content:

Mother Sparsh claims that Baby Wet Wipes is organic, contains 98% of water content and Ayurveda compound. It is free from harmful chemicals, Parabens, and alcohol. The clinical trials confirm that it is absolutely safe for infants, toddlers, and kids of any age and guards babies against getting infected by germs and dirt if used for regular cleaning.

Dermatologically Tested:

The Baby Wet Wipes are dermatologically tested and clinically proven for prevention against rashes. It affirms to be the safest for the use on baby’s skin.

Hypoallergenic:

The wipes are hypoallergenic and balanced pH. It can be undoubtedly used for cleaning and wiping after each feed, pee and poop. It is ideal for face cleaning too. There are negligible chances of allergies, redness, soreness or other skin disorders upon its usage.

Environment-Friendly:

It is a bio-degradable being a natural plant fabric. It is a boon for the environment and it can easily sublime in nature reducing pollution.

Prevents Diaper Rash:

The water content is high in Mother Sparsh Baby Wet wipes and it is smooth on the skin and it prevents diaper rash. Diaper rash is a common problem in babies but the use of these wipes clears the issue of diaper rashes and keeps the baby’s bum clean and soft.

Price:

The wipes are pocket-friendly and we can get a pack of 80 wipes at a throwaway price of INR 175.

Available Online:

It is easily available at AmazonNykaa, Flipkart and other major online platforms.



How I Use Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes For My Angel








Mother Sparsh: As Good as Cotton & Water. Baby wet wipes are my favorite pick and I keep one pack at home and one pack is always there in my baby kit pack. I use it profusely to clean her cute bums after each potty and pee. I use them to clean her toys before offering her to play. I use them to clean her mouth, face, and hands after each feed or meal.
For me, cleaning means baby wet wipes and it is comfortable in use and keeps my angel’s skin glowing and smiling. It has a mild pleasing fragrance and I and my baby adore Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes.

It comes handy for me too. I use every night to remove my makeup and during day hours, when I am tired, I use to curtail my fatigue and keep me refreshed.

I don’t throw them away after use. I collect them in my trash bin to convert it into compost manure for my plants.

We both are happy to use Baby Wet Wipes and I recommend Moms to use and add smiles to the baby’s skin.


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Sunday, August 12, 2018

Friday, August 10, 2018

Imbibe Habit of Regular Studies in Children! #Parenting #Studies





These days’ parents are over ambitious pertaining to studies of their children. They want to see them faring with excellent marks and attaining higher ranks in class. It is the wishes of all to see them excel but how you train them to attain, Matters.


The competitive world gives goose bumps to parents and they fear the uncertainty of getting a good job placement or achieving a feat in their career.


Moreover, in spite of a growing number of educational institutions, still, it is tough for the kids to get admission in better institutions of the choice preferred by the parents.

To get through, the cute little tiny tots are prepared with required courses rigorously to get admission in Nursery classes.



Stress & pressure to compete mounts on the toddlers and the kids from the early age of 3. The overambitious parent’s leaves no stone unturned to get a break in best educational institutions.

What route is followed?

If the child is coaxed and pressurized then there are a lot of chances of a misfire. The child might lose the interest in studies or get bogged down by intense pressure. The child turns into irritant self and at times, they become dull and it plays havoc in their later life.




Whereas if the learning is made interesting for the children by allotting them hours for regular study along with the enjoyment of playing and other extracurricular activities. They will do well and develop interests in their subjects and the consequence will be positive…they will become inquisitive and curious, a positive sign of a worthy student.


The parents have to choose the proper path to imbibe habits of regular studies in their children to see that they are transformed into intellectuals. They don’t emerge as a bookworm but an all-rounder with knowledge on all subjects, ranging from textbooks, GK, sports and hobbies.


The pattern of parenting and handling kids have gone under great transformation, these days.


I find the parents are quite stressed, related to studies of their children. They want to give their best and even wish that their unfulfilled ambition is fulfilled by their children. The peer pressure too works a lot because parents wish to show off their pride and status by remarkable feat and grades achieved by their children. They are more concerned that their children should rank above the neighbors and secure higher marks than neighbor’s and colleague’s kids.


During exam sessions, I come across long faces of parents whose children are studying in the nursery, primary or secondary, all reel under great stress. They mount pressure on kids to excel and make them sit for long hours to mug up the lessons. Both parents put in their maximum efforts in preparing questionnaire and answers and even prepare the projects all by themselves with the sole aim, EXCEL.


I find this situation absurd because I never implied these in my parenting style and I used to remain cool and composed during or before the exam.



I believe in Regular Study and there are great advantages to Regular Study. I imbibed the habit of regular study from Day One and made sure that they stick to it. In a few instances, they went astray but normally, they followed the pattern of regular study.

How Regular Study Benefits Children

    Regular study keeps the child updated with the progress of studies at school.

    Every day, the child must revise the lessons that have been taught at school. The contents taught in school remains fresh in mind if it is revised at home and it is easily absorbed.

    Attend all the questions and answers related to the taught chapter.

    Jot down all your doubts and queries and get it cleared in next class.

    Read one extra page or next lesson for the next class. When it is taught in school, it seems that they are aware of the contents of the chapter and the lesson seems interesting and is easy to understand.

    The child does well in surprise quiz taken at school for the chapters taught in previous class. They are on par with the lessons taught.

    It boosts the confidence of the child and he initiates in asking a question in classes to clear his doubts and respond to the questions asked in class.

    During examination time, the regular students don’t require to invest extra time to update their knowledge quotient and preparation.

    They don’t reel under the stress of appearing in the exam.

    They transform into confident students and are happy and curious to appear for the test.

    It inculcates the habit of sitting regularly for the study session.

    The assignments seem easy and interesting due to regular study.

    It induces the habit of self-study. They are not reliant on parents and their confidence enables them to do well and progress.

    Regular study boosts their concentration power and they catch the lessons fast.

    Children get recognition in class for being proactive and alert.

    In a sum, regular study boosts them to do better in studies. They are well versed with the chapters. They develop the interest in studies.


Additional Benefits of a Regular Study

    The health & growth of children is better because they don’t require to stay awake for long hours during examinations.

    There is no stress in the children, exam phobia, and nervous breakdown.

    The parents don’t have to take stress to cover up the chapters for the exams and life at home is peaceful and calm.

    There is a close bonding between parents and children because both don’t stress each other.

    The children enjoy healthy bonding with the teachers at school.

    The children enjoy other aspects of life being regular in a study as they get ample time to invest in their hobbies and sports.


My children followed a pattern of regular study and they never had to sacrifice their play and extracurricular activities to pace up with the studies. It was peaceful for me because I did not have to take extra stress for their studies. The accomplishment has been great.

I never stressed them to stand first but made them understand the power of grade and knowledge in life. I even encouraged them to watch films and other healthy shows, read books and magazines, catch up with their hobbies and regular play.

It plays an important part in their grooming and they come out to be calm individuals because they are not deprived of the benefits and they never feel left out in any niche later in life.

The parents should make the children understand the importance of regular study and try to instill the habit in them.

Once the habit is inculcated in children, they will realize the importance and will follow the suit throughout life.

These are my views in the field of parenting. Do share your views and leave a comment.