News of eve-teasing, attacking, outraging the modesty,
groping etc. has become common news broadcasted on channels, newspapers and
social medias and lot of hue n cry are raised against the crime, slogans are
written & everywhere there is a murmur to punish the culprit. It subsides
with time and all remains under cover.
How can one believe on judiciary when the culprits of
Nirbhaya is not given final verdict wherein the law was reformed to provide
justice in the heat of the situation? The law got amended but the scenario of
women getting insulted or molested did not deter.
What happens to victims?
The victims lives in fear, many get into depression and lifelong,
it is etched in their memory, she is not able to come out of it. Few end their
life or succumb when attacked.
Who are they?
They too are the sisters, wife or mothers of
Whom to blame…Society, parenting, schools, family?
If the occurrence happens with the family then boys are
blamed and if the same occurrence takes place with others, girls are blamed. Is
From my point of view, all are to be blamed. Amendment of mind-set is
required for both the sex; males & females.
I have seen mothers citing an example in front of her son that the girls dressing or moving alone is the reason for spurt in crimes. While giving
instance, she is actually instilling negativity in the minds of boys, so mind
it what you are saying in front of your boys. Being a woman, she criticizes another woman then how can she expect that the boys will learn to respect
It’s my request with the mothers to instil good and healthy
virtues in the minds of your son & don’t encourage gender inequality. It’s
not that each and every son will become a rapist or stalker but he may not develop
respect for his wife and daughter.
Mothers, raise your sons with good values and you will be a
proud mother when they grow into healthy individuals with positivism and it
will be a proud moment for you.
Ask your son too, where he goes, what he does? Check his
friend’s antecedents. Be friendly with your children and befriend their friends
too, this way you will know, how is his group and you can be more aware of his
Never ever ignore small mistakes of your children, punish
them then & there and warn them not to repeat in future and you too need to
be watchful of his day to-day activities. Nip the bud before it blooms into an
How to handle daughters?
Mothers, be friendly with your daughter and ask her to share
everything with you and for creating a bond of trust, mother, you need to take
the initiative and work on it.
Teach her about the good touch and the bad touch and help
her to differentiate between the two. Never ever hush up the matter, if any
comes to your notice. Defend her and speak out to the concerned.
Teach her to speak out if anyone tries to misbehave with her
or offend her.
Teach her self defense mechanisms to save herself.
Single rule book for the children.
Mothers, don’t make different set of rules for sons and
daughters, this causes much rift in the minds of daughters and they feel deprived
of the privileges that the boys get.
Timings to go out & return should be uniform.
Where to go and where not to venture should be same for
Both should be encouraged to respect each other irrespective
Few words for the girls.
Listen to elders. Track time when you are on an outing.
Avoid dark spots, unknown places and deserted lanes.
If you go for some celebrations or parties, inform the
venues to your parents, inform them when you reach the venue and when you
leave, so that they are informed about your movements and they can be alert if
you are late.
Never trust strangers of any age nor listen to their
Move in group of friends to the theaters, late night parties
or while taking cab drives.
If possible, ask your parent or guardian to pick up, if you
feel estranged at any place or someone is following you.
Raise alarm if someone tries to hurt or harm you and run
away to the nearest house or shop to save yourself from untoward incident.
Many girls feel offended that why should we be careful.
Dear girls, you are the best creation of God and you are the
best one to protect yourself.
This view is solely mine and I follow the tips to raise my children as I have written. This is my Mantra, What is yours?