Blue Whale Challenge Proving Suicidal for Players! #SaveKids #VirtualGame

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The Blue Whale challenge game has created furore in the virtual world and many children of different places around the world have become victim of it and they have lost their precious life.

It is continuously in news and the young parents are at their wits end and are scared about the safety of their growing kids especially the younger ones.

I googled to be apprised of the game and the harm that it is doing to the children and came to know that this game has been designed with the motive to clean the earth from lazy children.

I feel the mastermind behind the game is a lunatic and his wild psyche has created menace and is taking lives of the innocents. The children are becoming prey to it. They are hypnotizing the children and there is even a news that they threaten that if the players don’t abide by the rules, their families will be eliminated…this fear deepens in the minds of children and they follow the dangerous rules sincerely.

The timings to play the game too is at odd hours and the various steps to be followed are quite scary and it asks the playing kids to harm themselves and send their snaps in which they have inflicted themselves and the child gets so much engrossed in the game that they blindly follows what they are been asked to do and finally, the child is trapped.

So far as reported, there have been more than 100 deaths of the players who indulged in taking the Blue Whale challenge.

The reports generated have created unrest in the minds of parents. This calls for a clear discussion with the children and the parents and guardians need to make their kids aware of such challenges and how to keep themselves away from it.

In my opinion, parents should not give mobiles to children and in situation, where parents are working and the children are staying on their own, then provide them with simple handsets without internet facility so that they can be in touch with their parents.

Make them aware of the virtual menace that is doing rounds on internet and warn them not to indulge in such sorts of game. Even they should be warned not to download any unknown link, howsoever they are insisted or not to disclose any personal information or identity on the site.

Be frank and take your children in confidence and ask them to inform you about each and every movement, whether it is their personal life and virtual life. Make them understand that they are at vulnerable age and they need proper guidance to secure their future.

Check their devices regularly and check their history to know about their virtual movements and the site they tour.

These days kids have their own room. Do allot their room but not allow them to lock their room and inculcate in them the habit of playing or indulging in leisure activities in the living room of the house.

Do check their bags and belongings time to time and whenever you find your child a bit indifferent, do knock him and try to intrude in his privacy and make him spill out the beans if something is bothering him.

Explain the ill effects of game and of the people who are behind this game and brief that they are mentally ill bunch who wish to hurt people of the society and their sadistic nature derives pleasure from such activities.

Encourage them to indulge in physical activities and offline games and be an active participant in their game. This will use his budding energy in a fruitful way and will satiate him.

The parents and the children should share the things with each other and the parents need to be more vigilant about their child’s movements.

Maintain friendly relation with your children and be in their reach when they need you.
Note for parents, don’t hook yourself in the virtual world, your children needs you. Pass time with them and take them for outing on holidays and acquaint them with the beauty of nature.
Show the real world and its beauty and teach them that virtual life is only for studies and getting the tasks done easily.
Incline them towards spirituality.

How to make an Introvert Child more Friendly? #MommyMoments

Parenting is a skill and it requires lots of patience & perseverance on the part of parents while addressing kids.
Each child is unique in its own way and accordingly, the parents need to take care of them…
Some are outspoken, fearless and daring and they
require less guidance while some are shy and meek and they need more attention from parents.
If you see around, you will find kids of one set of parents are quite different in personality though they are brought up in
the same atmosphere has been given the same privileges and comfort…Their characteristics and vital statistics vary because each kid perceives things differently…so it is the duty of the parents especially the Moms to unearth their kids potential and
weakness and deal them accordingly.
In my childhood days, I was a mixture of both; some knew me as Introvert while others knew me as a full package of life and
vigor and over Extrovert.
I myself don’t know the reason for such a dual personality. In our times, parents were loaded with so much of responsibilities
that they did not have enough time to spare to delve into such fine details. They had the huge responsibility of extended families, five children and looking after the house.
Still, I am a pack of both but certainly, I pulled myself out of the shell with passing years and now, I am introvert where I
choose to be…it’s my choice else I am extrovert, ready to pour my ideas and beliefs and even give an uninterrupted sermon where required.
I know that being over introvert mars the personality and at times, we lose best opportunities…though my been introvert
rewarded me with writing skills because whenever thoughts gushed inside me, I poured it raw on the journal and this was my bright side and today I am a gainer choosing blogging as my profession…my been introvert made me Creative.
In our time, we did not have so many gadgets…we had limited choice…either to play in the playground…indulge in some creativity or study…but the scenario of today is quite different.
Children of today are hooked to gadgets, as today’s children have access to multiple gadgets and if they are left alone, it will
hamper their personality. Parents need to be vigilant so that the
personality of kids are not at stake.
Parenting Tips:
 
  •  If your child is dull and doesn’t want to mingle with the kids of their age group, he needs your attention. Rule out the reason for this behavior and encourage them to be active and participate in group activity.
  • Find out their field of interest and encourage them to participate fully. Have open discussions with your kids and inquire if something is bothering them. At times, children don’t open up because of some unknown fear or inadequate knowledge.
  • Invite them to your living room when some guests
    visit your house and introduce them to your guests, gradually he will develop the habit of conversing with strangers and it will boost their personality.
  • Encourage them to participate in the social activity
    and give them the liberty to arrange special programs on festivals and special occasion, it will add creativity to them.
  • Take them along when you visit your family and
    friends, at times, they may be reluctant but slowly it will interest them.
  • Fix hours of watching TV and playing games on
    Computer because these activities nips the creativity and imaginative skills of a child.
  • If he is more inclined in extracurricular activities, encourage them to indulge. Study is important but they need assistance in carving a niche in their field of interest. Discouragement make kids introvert.
  • Don’t leave them alone for long hours…keep a watch
    on their activities. Time to time, try to find out about the activities of your child at school or with friends, it will help you to know how he is performing with others.
  • Keep a silent vigil on your child’s movements. All
    things should not be pronounced especially when your kids is approaching teens as they are quite vulnerable at this age and they need utmost care.
What I did as a Parent?
While raising my kids, I followed their movements
silently.
  • I involved them in all extra-curricular activities and in
    celebrations.
  • Brushed their skills and encouraged them to polish
    their areas of interest.
  • Never bullied them in front of other family members, friends or neighbors.
  • Whenever I found their energy levels low, I sat
    down with them and discussed openly what was bothering them.
These tips encouraged them to come out of their shell and enhanced their personality. Open discussion helps to develop confidence in children and they are fit to discuss and sort out issues.
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Death of Humanity! #GorakhpurTragedy #Death

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On the eve of coming Independence day, I had planned to write about the
achievements of our country and feel pride in mentioning about it…but the deathtoll of innocent infants & kids who did not even get the opportunity to recognize
their parents who brought them into this world after toiling hard with
pregnancy blues, rising to 70 plus…did not give me courage to scribble about
the goodness of India.

There are valid reasons to be proud of but this setback of
massacre affected me to such an extent that all the best efforts vanished from
my mind and I am left sad and numb.

Loss of one life stirs us so much and subjugates distress to
such level that we are not in a position to think of something else and this
huge loss is indigestible.

When I think of it, I get restless, so well imagine the
blank eyes of more than 70 odd pairs who lost their bundle of joy in seconds.

When a woman becomes a mother, she is reborn and she
conquers all pain just to hold her flesh in her own hands.

All her dreams that she day dreamed throughout nine months
got washed off leaving her in pain…the loss is irreparable…Reason
clear…IRRESPONSIBLE HOSPITAL AUTHORITIES.

Even it is the defeat of the State & Central government
who is ignorant of the issues flaring in the hospital running under their nose.

Who cares?

The battle goes on for Ram Mandir and killing of cows. The
people join the protest for these flimsy causes but where is the protest today
for the innocent lives that have been butchered in full public view.

People visit hospital with a faith to be blessed with good
health but this hospital of Gorakhpur turned to be butcher house for the
parents who lost their loved ones.

The literacy rate has flared up, awareness is around but the
greed is at its height to grab more & more killing the throats of humanity.

I am not convinced that the kids have succumbed in unavailability
of oxygen.

Can anyone answer me?

Were all the kids hospitalized on Oxygen?

There is something more in the backdrop.

The reality is trapped.

I feel there might be issues in the supply of medicines
administered to the patients admitted which has caused so many deaths.

Authorities, wake up and search the real cause.

I know the lives that are gone cannot come back but as a
human think how many lives got roped in dark….think about the poor parents.

How they will come to terms and lead a normal life?

Deaths do happen every day, some lose lives naturally, few
in accidents and calamities but this tragedy has instilled fear in the minds of
people and people will lose faith in medical fraternity and hospital
institutions.

I know investigations won’t bring back the lives that
vanished but at least the culprits will come to light and the reason of
conspiracy.

The people who have erred need to be booked under law under
the fast track court.

I would request all my countrymen to join the league of protest
so that this act is not repeated again in our country.

All our shows and achievements went underground in the wake
of this dreaded incident.

My prayers for the departed lovely and innocent souls and
wish that God gives courage to the bereaved parents to bear the loss.

It’s easy to say but in practice…it is the most
difficult task.


Amen.



Disclaimer:  It is my sole view and I haven’t followed any statistics regarding figures. watching the news and reading the news left me bewildered and I penned down my raw thoughts.

Funny Habits! Thankful Thursday

In all of living, have much fun and laughter. Life is to be enjoyed, not just endured.       Gordon B. Hinckley

Life is unpredictable…no one knows which day, the hour or second will turn out to be the last day of life so why to carry the burden of enduring the precious life…Better enjoy the hours that we have in our hands…who knows…Kal Ho Na Ho.

I may sound philosophical but this is the fact of life that we all know, still, we bury ourselves in grey and accumulate hassles and worries.

Lead a Bindaas life.

Choose and adopt the habits that give you goosebumps & frills and you feel rejuvenated and contended with life.

I love being busy and I keep myself occupied most of the time until I am awake…either my mind is on errands or I am physically mobile. I can’t sit idle and been multitasked, I lay my hands on several things in one go.

What I enjoy most?

Music is my first love and I breathe Music. It is the essence of my life and it keeps me going. It’s fun to listen to songs and even after four and half decades of my life, I still tap my feet on fast numbers and family members are in awe…finding me totally engrossed in Music. Music refreshes my mood and it calms me from within…Nothing can beat Music and I cannot live without music. While listening to music, I enter into the realms of trance and it imports me to another world of serenity. It is very soothing to my ears, mind, and heart.

My second love is Gardening…I invest my important time into gardening and it gives me complete satisfaction to watch my nurtured babies grow. The sight of watching my plants grow and flower…really leaves me happy to the core…It is soul satisfying.

Since childhood days, I used to give time to gardening and prepared compost manure by burying all the plant wastes in a pit and covering for few months and when the wastes transformed into soil, I used them in my garden. At that stage, I was not so conversant about gardening tips but my science book helped me to use and test my knowledge and it turned out to be successful.

Till a few years, we had a huge bungalow and large piece of land was there for sowing and rearing and I indulged in it actively. Now we have shifted to apartment style but still, I take utmost care of the garden in the basement and balcony garden inside our flat.

Watching them grow and flowering is very soothing to the eyes and it gives immense satisfaction and happiness.

My third love is Cooking. I adore to cook and serve people. I never take it as a burden rather it is fun for me to cook and serve.

I cook a variety of Vegetarian & Non-vegetarian dishes, Desserts and Cakes and love to spread out for my guests, family n neighbors.

The happiness that surfaces on others face after having my preparations leaves me satiated and contended & boosts me to indulge in cooking & serving.

In my leisure time, either I am busy taking care of my plants or trying new dishes developing my culinary skills & in the backdrop Music flows.

I love my habits and wish to retain till the last breath of my life.

It adds spices to my life.

I never get bored of my habits rather I am continuously in a lookout to develop my skills and expertise in these areas.

Many might wonder what is funny about these habits…They might frown.

I love indulging in these acts and it gives me pleasure, so obviously, these are my funny habits and I am thankful to the Almighty to bless me with this expertise.

My habits are a treasure to me and my family.

Music heals bruised souls.

Gardening fills us with happiness to prosper & grow.

Serving people is next to Godliness.

Thank You, buddies, for choosing such a beautiful prompt for this Thankful Thursday.
I loved writing for this Prompt, “3 Funny Habits you are Thankful for”

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How to Conquer Anger? #MMM #AngerManagement #Moms

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I could not compete with the timings of Monday Mommy Moments and could not write on time due to other commitments but still I wished to write on this topic…Anger Management for Moms.

Here is my take on this topic.

Been sensitive, I don’t believe in yelling at children. I
know how it hurts so I never went to the extent of yelling or going mad with
anger while raising my kids.
From the very beginning of my life, I am cool with kids and
old but all hell break loose on adults…the reason that I sort out is that what
kids do, they do in innocence but adults deliberately indulge, so I lose
patience with grown-ups…though to some extent, I have managed controlling.
I had great share of anger outbursts in my childhood days
and I had promised that I won’t commit the same mistake with my kids.
And the day came, when I conceived and my happiness knew no
bounds and I got busy with the preparations to welcome my bundle of joy and
finally, the day arrived when I was holding my flesh in my hand…and the feeling
was surreal and no words can suffice to express my feelings.

I kissed him on his forehead and promised to him that you
will never be a victim of my anger and I will try my best to explain the things
when you are wrong, avoiding yelling at you to get rid of my frustrations.

I believe that the kids are fragile and we need to handle
with care.

His arrival in my life made me responsible and patient and I
knitted numerous dreams and all revolved around him…though as a wife…I
justified my presence…so I was successful in managing the both ends and both
were Happy.


Their happiness was my happiness and I felt contended.

Soon, I was Mom of two cute boys and my patience while
raising them proved to be a wonder. They turned out to be well-behaved kids. It
doesn’t mean that they were not into mischief, they were but within the purview
of limits or you can say that my No reaction on their mischief treaty helped
them to be docile.

The kids are smarter than Moms. When they find their Moms
losing their temper, then they deliberately involve themselves in mischief to
enjoy the tantrums of Mama…it’s my perception.
After finishing their chores, I used to sit with them n let
them play with their toys and puzzles and never went eccentric even when they
messed around, just watched them in silence that they don’t hurt themselves
hard…rest I hardly cared…Over caring too poses issues.

The early years were very relaxed but when they entered in
primary school, an unknown pressure built within me and I started losing my
temper at slightest pretext and they poor were victims of my wrath.

One fine day, I pondered over the situation and discovered
that sub-consciously, pressure was building that they study well and do well…so,
I was becoming over-ambitious. I stopped myself then and there…checked my
outbursts.

But there were instances where I had to do drama of been
angry to control their tantrums in their growing stage and it worked out…I
never yelled much rather explained them in their context to discipline them and
my silence worked in moulding them.

They too are my flesh and they  abhor yelling and been
spanked.

Few times, I spanked them when they were really at fault and
need to be corrected.

They were able to assess for what my anger built up and they
learnt how to avoid those instances…so our co-ordination was perfect…I was
their sole guardian while raising them and there was no interference from my
husband’s side…while I scolded them or checked them…It proved to be a liberty.

Normally, I see that while checking kids, the couple get at
loggerheads and their views on disciplining differs and this difference is
taken as advantage by the children, who are not at an age to judge, rather they
get hooked to the person, who is liberal and encourages even when he is wrong.
I never spanked or yelled at them in frustration or in mood
swings.

Where they need to be reformed, I never backed out, I was
there to correct them.

I wish to share my suggestion.

Many times, it happens that if we are in good mood and the
kid has done seriously something wrong, we overlook them in our fun time…and if
we are in bad mood and the kid is demanding something genuine, we spoil the
play because of our anger outbursts…and the innocent has to face the music.
This mood swings of Mom’s blots the kids for no fault of
theirs.

Remember a golden rule, however good mood you are in and
your ward needs to be corrected, don’t back out, then n there pin point their
mistake and ask them to correct sternly…and never make them victim of your mood
swings.

Give them a chance to distinguish between Right and Wrong.

My silence played wonders in raising them…now they are
grown-ups individuals and now if they deliberately go out of way, I yell at
them on top of my voice. They frown at me but never reply back rather when I am
cool they explain me patiently.

I request the existing Moms and would be Moms to work on
patience and anger management and always, remember your childhood days, it will
be convenient to tackle your kidoos.

Silence speaks more than yelling.

Whenever, you feel like yelling, start backward counting and
by the time you will finish the count, your anger will diminish.

Advantages of Not Yelling:

You will be happy and your family will be happy.

Kids will be friendly with you and will share
their secrets.

Your saved energy will kindle your Creativity.

Kids will grow into mature adults and will know
how to handle adversities.

Kids won’t learn to bicker or retaliate.

Many will say, it is easy to say than to be done. I too
agree but we can at least try for the sake of our children.

The image of a Mom is loving and caring then why to spoil
the image by yelling and getting angry on slightest pretext.

What is Anger?

It is a bottled up frustration and when one gets a chance,
they explode hurting themselves and others.
I am quite impressed by the words of Lord Buddha which runs
as under and this quote proved magical for me and it helped to master control on my
pangs of anger.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the
intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
               

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Three Mood Enhancers That Changed My Life!!! #ThankfulThursdays

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When I look back down the lanes then I find myself
more matured with age….or you can say leverage of maturity is more than the
age.
Time is the best planner and healer and if it heals
before outbreak of diseases, then one is lucky and today, I consider myself
lucky.
You will be wondering what I am trying to say.
There was a time when I was very moody and was
always on a search of a booster to spur my mood…my mood was like the rainy
season of Mumbai…the off switch was mostly on and I lingered to search a way to
uplift my mood…and took support of Music, friends, gardening and books but I
never adhered for long and wasted precious phase of life in swinging from one
branch to another and roamed with a sloppy face.
When I stepped on the Sweet Sixteen…age of wandering
& dreams but much did not change for me…I was the same slot.
Then, one day, I sat alone in silence &
introspected.
“What stopped me from enjoying my precious life?”
I was born in a well to do family, pampered with all
the comforts…then why was I wasting my time and energy over uplifting my mood.
Then and there, I vowed, “I will control my mood and
not be controlled by Mood…it’s my kingdom and I am supposed to reign on my
life…no intervention allowed of this shit, ‘Mood’ which was spoiling me and my
mood tantrums affected my direct family and I was been considered a stubborn
brat.
This was the turning point in my life and all evolved for good.
I started enjoying the small joys of life and large
transformations was seen in me.
Few were mistaken by my positive mood swing and
thought that I had fallen in love.
Yes, I had fallen in love but not with any person. I
had fallen in love with Nature.
Gardening:
I was fond of gardening from childhood but never
initiated much.
We lived in independent house and acres of land
sprawled around which was used for flowers & veggies.
I took a patch of  front bed row for myself to try my gardening
skills, which included weeding, seeding, watering and preparing compost manure…it
was one of my best engagement after studies and watching the plants growing
boosted my mood and a level of satisfaction enveloped me. 
Gradually, I started
helping my Grandfather in gardening and took charge of all the flower beds and the bright hues spurred my mood.
Music:

Music turns me on and a heavenly feeling intoxicates me. It
soothes me from within and the feeling that I go through cannot be summed up in
words. I found solace in Music and it proved to be a soul healer. I started singing and started giving programs in school, colleges and in social circle…The music healed me
and the mood swings were nearly over with this practice and I felt lighter and happier…so
I devoted my free time to Music and this aspiration introduced me to friends,
who were music lovers and my social circle enhanced.
Writing:

Since childhood, I was fond of reading and the mood
swings gave way to writing…it was a medium to open up and pour down the
feelings which emanated from the best and the bitter experiences of life. I was
introvert in those days, so I found writing very healing and comforting. In those
days, we wrote Diary. This flair improved my vocabulary, creativity and
imaginative skills. Word power improved a lot and even mood swings improved.
After venting out, I felt relieved and refreshed, it brushed up my woes.
These three medium helped me to control my mood
tantrums and these three bestowed great change in my persona.
I overcame the mood swings and at the age of 17, I
was a new self, who looked at life with a positivism.
No grievance or loss or lows of life screws me
anymore and I became adjustable &adaptable and I never back out however adverse the
circumstance is. I accept the lows of life as a part and parcel of life.
This is me….What about U?

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Teach Your Child to Manage Money! #Experiences

 
 
 
 
 
Parenting is the tough nut to crack and it needs a lot of patience and perseverance to tackle the kids and guide him on right track.
 
 
The unconditional love for our children makes us do the impossible things and Mom is always ready with, “I’M POSSIBLE”knocking impossibilities down.
 
 
Mine journey wasn’t easy. My patience and experiences of my life helped me to fare out well managing both my kids…in spite of heavy turmoil inside, I am able to be cool outside & I don’t have the habit of cribbing rather I abhor cribbers.
 
 
Many people believe that in initial years, the children should be given immense freedom and after a certain age, start curbing them. I am against this practice.
 
 
You have to do the groundwork in initial years and inculcate good values and show them the differences between right & wrong.
 
 
We all learn from trial and error and parents are there to identify and rectify their errors.
 
 
Children are innocent at heart but smart too and catch things easily and if they are left to leave on their own terms, then they will have great difficulty in later life and to keep them disciplined will be challenging.
 
 
Train them with good habits from the initial days of their childhood.
 
 
Managing money is not an easy task and the children should be educated on how to manage efficiently.
 
 
How I Taught My Kids, “Value of Money
 
I am sharing my very own experiences with my two kids. My hubby was lenient towards children and rarely does he lose temper. He believed in pleasing them by fulfilling their demands. I was against this and made him understand that he is pampering them and we will have a tough time to handle them in the future. Initially, he did not pay much heed to it but my constant effort changed his thought and he decided to back out.
 
 
I took the reins in my hand and implemented few rules to follow to Teach them the VALUE OF MONEY.
 
 
We say, MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING but we all know HOW IMPORTANT MONEY IS.
 
  • Never fulfill all demands: The first & foremost rule is, never fulfill all demands of children else they will not understand its value and how tough is to earn a good sum. Simultaneously, they will learn the
    PRIORITIES OF LIFE and how to prioritize. Secondly, they will develop patience to deal odds of life.
 
My Experience: I was brought up in joint family where my Mum didn’t had the power to  tame me and my all demands were fulfilled.  
 
 
Consequences: Till today if my demands are turned down, I am hurt at
heart. I don’t put up my genuine demands fearing it might not be attended.
 
 
  • Buy Essential things: I see around that the people who are affluent and have several sources of income, they gift such toys and appliances to children which aren’t essential, rather it’s superfluous.
    You as a parent are spoiling them. Buy the things which are best for him as per his age and requirements. They will learn the VALUE OF MONEY AND THINGS.
 
  • Pocket Money: Fix a specific sum of pocket money for the children. Initially, fix a sum for a week and later on spread it for a fortnight & month. Ask them to spend on their toys, stationery, snacks and
    refreshments.
 
My Experience: When my elder son was in KG and the younger one in a nursery, I fixed a certain amount for a week to spend on ice creams, cold drinks, and snacks. I was amazed to find them saving from that meager amount. With that little amount, even we both got a treat from our children, such was the power of money management of those kids.  I pinpointed to my hubby who used to readily give in to their demands to watch how smart they are in spending their own pocket money. This habit inculcated in them habits of SAVING & VALUE OF PENNY.
 
  • NEVER DISCLOSE FAMILY INCOME: If you are on the affluent side, never disclose income to your children. At a tender age, they
    won’t understand the sweat behind the flowing income but will be ready to spend extravagantly. Parents too have to check their expense style. If you are extravagant in spending then you can’t ask your ward to be thrifty.
 
  • REWARD THEM: by buying gifts for them on special occasions and when they do well in studies or maintain discipline during vacations etc. Appreciate them & reward them by giving money to buy the
    things they love to buy or the parents can gift them that their children love to have in their possession.  Even you can gift them a pot of flowers and make them responsible for watering and taking care. This way VALUE OF CARE will be instilled in your child. These small acts will motivate them to do better and get surprise gifts.
 
I shared my experiences of parenting and what I learned from my life experiences.
 
My children are quite spendthrift and they know the VALUE OF MONEY IN LIFE.
 
Share your experiences.
 
 
 
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Life is Best with Friends! #Relationships

Life without friends…impossible.
Friends are for life, some for season and some for reason…but
they are always there in our life.
Many have large circle of friends, some have small circle
and few have limited friends…but friends exists in one’s life.
However large and friendly if you have, still you need
someone with whom you can spend hours without been judged.


It is said, “Friend in need is a friend indeed”.

It’s true, adversities prove who real friends are and all
can’t be real and you can’t sever ties with the ones who don’t stand by you in
gloom…everything can’t go as per our wish and in maintaining relationships, we
have to be adaptable and adjustable to circumstances.
I have large circle of friends and with these social media
platform, the numbers have increased drastically.
I am very emotional and am easily caught in the web of
relationships soon and I continue friendship forever. I acknowledge my friends
and time to time, I knock them, so a relationship is maintained. This virtue of
mine increases my social circle and I give value to my friends.
In this large circle of friends, all can’t be similar. When our
own siblings differ in so many respects in spite of growing under the same roof
and same set of parents. There are stark differences in siblings, so how can we
expect friends to be like minded…One or two can be a bit similar but all differ
in some respect and the friend circle is carried on well with unlike people.
The law of magnetism proves to be true in case of
friendship.

“LIKE POLES REPEL, UNLIKE POLES ATTRACT.”

I am in contact with my friends who are my Chuddy buddies of
kindergarten and I well recognize the potential of all, still I keep my link
with them.
There are three types of friends in our life, some are
seasonal, some are with us for reason and some are unconditional. They stick
with you without any conditions and are mostly there for you.
Unconditional friends don’t look for some gain or loss in
friendship. They bind throughout life and value the ties of friendship above
all relationships and with them, you don’t need to be formal. You can purely be
yourself without any inhibitions of been judged.
In their company, we find solace and both of you know each
other well and recognizes your needs, moods and your likes n dislikes; even
very clear of your merits and demerits and knows to overlook your minus points
n praise you where you deserve.
Telepathy works great in this relationships and many times,
silence conveys all. You enjoy each other company and never get bored. You
share each n everything except your BF/GF…wink, wink.
Some friends are seasonal, they believe in carrying
friendship for short period of time. They are rolling stone that gathers no
moss. They move with time and place and adapt well in all circumstances. Till
he is with you, he is totally yours; once he moves out, you will have tough
time to locate him…Enjoy the friendship with these friends but don’t bring your
heart in between these friendships else you will be hurt. They too don’t play
with you deliberately. It is their characteristic of not carrying relationships
for long and they make friends easily. They don’t wish to be stuck, they
believe in flowing with time. Some are there in my friend list and initially,
it hurt me a lot but with experience and time, we learn a lot and I was no
exception. I too learnt the lessons of life in a harsh way and now I try my
best not to involve my heart with such friends…but this emotional do get hurt
at times in spite of been fully conscious.
Some friends stay in friendship for some reasons which they
won’t disclose but when they will move out of your life, you will know what
reason let them stay back in a relationship. You can’t rely on these people nor
can you change their outlook…a negligible part changes if good thoughts descend
on them but it is rare instance. Enjoy the circle and be ready to let it go.
In my life, friends have been an integral part of my life
and I carry on the ties overlooking the flaws in the relationships….I love to
share and care and my this attitude has helped me to overcome adversities in
life with a smile. Even if I get hurt, I try my best to find a remedy to it and
ready to patch up and my power has attracted people towards me.
I have friends of all ages, some are quite elder to me, few
quite younger. Age disparity is there but we tune well in all circumstances.
I listen to the sermons of my friends when I am wrong and
ready to lecture when I find them in wrong pit and this keeps us lively and
happy. In my group, I have friends of season’s n reasons and few of them have
been transformed to unconditional. My constant yearning changed their hearts
and now they are in my good books.
I know to overlook many things in friendship and this innate
power of mine has bestowed me with a large circle of social circle and I am
indebted to each one of them.

Hip, Hip, Hurray!!!

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How modern we try to show ourselves but still the people of
today are dwelling in past and are centuries behind in thought of action.

The people around have adopted modern culture in dressing,
cuisine and lifestyle has beamed but the mental level is not so enhanced in
spite of literacy and globalization.

I may sound high but after reading the following incident,
you will realize the truth.
Tia was married in an affluent and socially respectable
family. After two years of marriage, she gave birth to a beautiful daughter.
When she was born, for first few minutes, there was utter silence. The nurses
that came with the child too was upset, (her face conveyed) and they didn’t
demand any ransom to hand over the child as they do at the birth of a son.
Anyhow, the situation was managed by sis-in-law of Tia and relatives present
congratulated each other on the arrival of a daughter or Lakshmi.

After few years, again Tia was in family way. When she broke
the news to her Mom-in-law and her parents, both blessed her with a wish that
this time she is blessed with a son. Finally, the D-day arrived and again Tia
was blessed with a daughter. After the news, there was long silence and none
could muster the courage to break the deafening eerie.

Tia and her husband had planned for tubectomy but her MIL
was reluctant and she asked the attending doctor not to perform tubectomy. Doctor
kept the word of Tia’s MIL.

When I met her, I told her to plan family planning to avoid
further pregnancy but she didn’t listen to me and once again, she was caught in
family way.

Third time, she was pregnant.

When I came to know, I was very upset and called Tia to
abort this pregnancy to save her health from deteriorating further. Already she
had complains of pain & weakness.

But she did not pay heed to my advice and continued her
third pregnancy with a promise that this time, she will get the tubectomy done.

Again, she was blessed with a daughter and her MIL was very
upset and she barged into the OT after getting the news to not perform
tubectomy.

I was annoyed with the attending doctor who couldn’t explain
Tia’s MIL about the complications that she might face in future if she goes on
delivering children after three C-Section.

I take this incident as hypocrisy in society who are mad
after male child considering them fit to be the family heir.

Have we really advanced in our thoughts and actions?

We dream big, we quote of been advanced and modern in
thoughts, but I am doubtful after introspecting these incidents which is taking
place around us.

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Recently, I visited one of my close associates home to meet
them after a long time. There were lots of complains from her for not turning
up.

I too wished to meet them but my routine was packed with numerous
commitments of job n home and I couldn’t take time out for Me time.

Finally, I banged one day.

She was happy to meet me and we exchanged a lot. The meeting
was exciting.
She had moved to a new house so she took me to show around
her interiors. Really, she had kept it magnificently and I felt a guilt inside
for not keeping up so well because of time constraints.

A beautiful collage standing tall in the living room attracted
my attention and enquired about it.

Ria told me that her sons have presented her on the eve of
Mother’s Day and she had received precious gifts from them.

Just to celebrate Mother’s day, they had flown to the town
and while telling, her face glowed with happiness and her wide smile and
sparkling eyes were the witness.
“Wow…you celebrated in a big way…that’s nice, so caring are
your children.” I said.
After an hour or so, as I was about to leave, her Mom-in-law
came in to meet me and she reciprocated with warmth.

“Is Mother’s Day celebration for new generations Mommies,
Swapna?” She asked me.

“No Aunty, it’s for Moms of all ages. Every day is Mother’s
day because we are the witness of her art. Father too has the credit in
bringing us to the earth but the nine months hectic journey is solely on the
shoulders of a Mom. Why Aunty, what made you ask?” I said.

“Nothing beta.” She replied.

Ria came to see me off.

As I was about to put on the ignition, Ria said that her
Mom-in-law expects gifts and celebration on Mother’s day and that’s why she
queried.
“There is nothing bad in it, Ria. It’s quite natural.” I
said.

“Budhape main shaukh jag gaya hai.” She said and laughed.

I felt hurt and drove off without sharing words further.

I couldn’t digest her double standard.

The whole excitement of meeting Ria melted and the only
query haunted my mind.

“Why this Double Standard? Can she not feel the feelings of
her Mom-in-law, she too is a Mother as Ria is.

There are many instances in life when you wish to speak out
but you can’t always express and remain in guilt.

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