Special Bonding – Sibling Love! #SiblingStories

Life is one, yet we are connected with so many people. I too have #SiblingStories and I am eager to share….and Yes, I got a chance to share.

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We are 3 siblings. I am the youngest and pampered one born on Valentine Day 14th Feb, J moody at times, childlike at heart.
My Great Brother



I am blessed to have an elder brother who pamper me like a kid. He has always been naughty among all three of us. Our parents gave us great values that have nurture us not only as a person but overall as a good human being. Thanks to them for their love and unconditional support.

Among all three, I have always been a pampered child. I was young in the family so everyone used to listen to my wishes.  I used to have pillow fights with my brother, He used to pull my hair and run away. Then I used to cry louder and seek everyone’s sympathy.

 And then do I need to tell you?

Hahaha. My mummy used to do what… Brother Ki pitai. To honi he thi…
Kabhi Chappal, Kabhi Belan …

My parents used to scold him and ask him — is it a way to treat a younger sister and I used to feel aahhhhh. And wow… “Fir Kya” bas patch up. Happy ending with gifts and chocolate J

I remember when I had my school board exams, my brother used to drop me at board examination centre and he used to wait for full 3 hours till my exam gets over. That time it was a normal thing for me. But now when I think, I feel happy and blessed to be loved by all. That is all about #siblinglove
My Elder Sister

I have an elder sister too who is more like a mom to me, then a sister. She used to live with my granny (nani) more often and visits during weekends. So when she used to visit us, she was given a special treatment. My mother used to make special dishes.

She has always been responsible and favorite of all. Very respectful, sincere, caring loving and affectionate. In brief, I have inherited from my sis being a social and well-mannered child.

I am blessed to have a sister like her. There were times when I used to feel little annoyed with her over my mom’s inclination towards her. Because she is very understanding, so obviously, mom’s favorite. But over a period of time, I began to realise that there is nothing wrong in it. Parents love all their children alike.

Parents love is unconditional. They never demand anything from us in return.
I remember I was in class VII preparing for my history paper. I was so nervous that I fell ill. I was confused about a few chapters. My sister had helped me at that time. She explained each and every line of the chapter. That made me so confident that I never felt nervous again. I learned the technique of learning.

From that day onwards, I clearly understood that mugging up things won’t help me in the longer run. It’s better to understand the concept and then write on it…it was her guidance that proved helpful in my life.

It’s all about sibling love and the bonding that we 3 share. It’s so beautiful to do write up on this topic that I am feeling short of words. Sibling love is beautiful. Lots of fights, tears of joy, ocean of emotions and happy endings. All that matters when comes to #SiblingStories #SiblingTalk #Siblinglove.

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Pooja Budhiraja, a working mom, a blogger, social media influencer and a homemaker. I believe one should follow his/her dreams religiously and never say No before trying. Life is about Khatta-Meetha experiences and through this post I would like to bring back a few bits of lost innocence.


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Relationships are Fragile!

Relationships are Fragile, Handle with Care. 

Been proactive on social media and included in
many groups within social media acquaints me with the issues faced by the
people. Relationship management is not an easy task and it requires patience
and perseverance.  We need to remember
that the relationships are like the sacred thread which needs the care to be
handled and maintained. Too much of expectations and alterations might affect
and the thread can be snapped. Once snapped, it is not possible to come back
into original shape, how hard you try. A knot will always be there and it
suffocates the relationship.

रहिमन धागा प्रेम का, मत तोड़ो चटकाय।टूटे से फिर ना जुड़े, जुड़े गांठ परि जाय।

The
Doha of Rahim is apt to understand the essence of a relationship.

If we remember the words of Rahim, we can be true in maintaining long-term
relationships.

Today, in one of the groups, hot discussion of the day was,

“How
to handle Relatives & Friends who sprawl or sit on the sofa with feet up,
Should they be asked to sit properly or ignored?”

The answers thronged the platform and maximum were of the view that they should ask their relatives and friends to sit in a proper way.  If it sounds rude, they did not feel to be bothered and negligible were of the opinion, अतिथिदेवो भव and we should refrain from being rude and offensive.

I too plunged in the discussion with my own opinion.

I hold the view that the relatives and friends that visit our place are because they nurture love and care for us and we should respect them.

In today’s scenario, people lazily sprawl on sofas while watching TV or time spent with family. When you yourself do the same then you don’t feel the need to be questioned then how come, you feel like asking family members and guests to avoid.

Further, people love to be in the comfort zone and because they feel at home at your place so they tend to get informal on their visit.

It is better to refrain from asking friends and relatives to be formal and not to sit with feet up or lying on the sofa. It will hurt the sentiments. Why be so concerned about the things that are perishable? It is far better to save the relationships because the relationships are delicate and fragile and need lots of care to flourish. The things damaged can be amended or replaced but a relationship cannot.

People don’t remember us through our articles and commodities, we are remembered for our good and bad deeds.

My sincere advice was that overlook these petty things and rise above these materialistic things to maintain the sanctity of our relationships.

Moreover, if your conscience does not allow to accept the informal behavior of the people, who visit you, then there are a few ways that you can adhere to and maintain silence.

Change your habit and keep the rules uniform for the insiders as well as the outsiders
Don’t allow anybody to break the rules
It is better not to restrict, instead use sofa covers that can be frequently washed or sprawl cotton thin comforters on the sitting arrangements. Wash them weekly.
People loved my idea and I too follow the same at my place. I don’t pinpoint if visitors, friends, and families live informal at my place because I believe that the relationships are above these petty things and why to mar relationships.

I am a firm believer of Rahim Doha and I support it heartily.


Readers, share in your views. Honest views will be appreciated.

Disclaimer: The post is written solely on my experience with the open discussions in various forums. I don’t hold any grudge against someone nor I want to offend someone. I believe in healthy open discussions and I don’t get offended, rather I believe that the open interaction helps us to know many new things to learn and improve.

Rebellious Me, I Broke the Taboo Connected with Period!

In our
country, attaining puberty is a matter to hush and is wrapped in covers, just
like sanitary napkins delivered in opaque packs or newspapers.
Decades
before, there were many myths and taboos attached to periods (monthly cycle in fertile girls or women). It was
considered impure and there was a long list of BIG NO’s that the girls and the women of the family had to follow
in practice.
I was raised
in a large family with three generations staying under the same roof, sharing
the common kitchen. Each generation had their own set of rules and formulas and
the kith and the kin had to follow silently. Raising a voice was next to
impossible even in wildest dreams and questioning elders were out of the
question.
In my early
years of childhood and early teens, I could not understand why the weird rules
were followed by my immediate siblings, aunts, mother and other young females
of the family.
The weird
rules were uniform for all young woman though the dates differ. One thing I
could make out that it lasted for 5 days for a single person.
What were the Weird Rules?

Sleep on the Floor or a Cot – Exclusive
bedding was allotted and no one else shared the bed with her on her special 5
days in a month.
No Entry in Kitchen Zone – She, the
poor soul could not enter the kitchen zone, neither she was allowed to cook or
take food for herself.
 Don’t Touch Pickles – She was not
allowed to touch pickles. It was believed that they will rot if touched.
No Hair wash – On the 5th day, she was
allowed to wash her hair. It was believed that she will catch a cold or her
flow will be affected.

No Entry in Puja Room or Temples – She was not
permitted to perform any religious rites or enter into the area of worship.
On the 5th
day, all her clothes, beddings and washable belongings were separately washed
and she had to wash her hair to be allowed to roam freely throughout the
premises. It was believed that she was clean after the 5th day of periods.
This
separation was noticed by all the male fraternity of the house as well as the outsiders.
It appeared as if she was an outcast and in exile.
I found these
rules weird, unhealthy and humiliating for the people who had attained puberty
and thereafter until She was fertile.
I, the
rebellious raised voice against such practice. I wasn’t a rebel but on watching
these atrocities against women fraternity, emotions stirred. I could not raise
voice to my other two generations in the hierarchy but the immediate hierarchy,
My Mom had to face my tantrums.
My periods
started later than my siblings and friends of near my age and women of the
house were planning to take me to the lady doctor. I was 15 plus and well
understood all the things related to periods and ovulation.
I kept a
condition to my Mom that I would not see the doctor if these weird practices
are not abolished from the house. Further, if my ovulation starts, I won’t
disclose to anybody because I find these practices humiliating and
unacceptable.
I even added
that my periods were delayed just because of watching these tantrums…it was my
pace of emotional blackmail to evade emotional
atayachaar
.
My mom and
granny had a discussion under the covers and they disclosed that the day, I am
blessed, they will stop these malpractices (It’s
my way of saying to taboos practiced).
God heard my
words and I did not have to visit the doctor for the investigations and I was
blessed within a quarter of discussion. It declared that I was fertile and
healthy.
All the
practiced taboos vanished except for two weird rules that still existed. My
prayers were heard by them and so I too had to hear and accept two rules, which
did not prove to be a hurdle in my life.
Don’t Touch
Pickles
– It did not bother me because I am not fond of pickles, so it hardly
mattered.
Don’t Enter
Puja Zone or Temples
– I believed in God and could not strive courage to break
the barrier, being God fearing. Still, I don’t enter Puja zone.
The rest weird
practices were non-existent and it gave freedom to all women of the family and
even my Mom and Aunt were benefitted. All congratulated me for the courage
shown and the lives of all women fraternity improved, it was women liberation.
No more exile
period and it added glow on their faces and they thanked me profusely for the
bold step.
Attaining
puberty for a Man and a Woman should be celebrated as a moment of pride. It
proves scientifically that they are fit, healthy and fertile.
These days,
various platforms have started to create awareness about ovulation and periods.
Now no more, it is considered a subject to be kept under covers or discussed in
a hushed tone. It is a natural process and adequate hygiene should be
maintained. Various departments are working towards it and are arranging
sanitary kiosks at public places for the women fraternity.
Still, the
practice exists in many regions and families and the women suffer. People need
to understand that it a moment of Pride and nothing to be ashamed of.
More and more
awareness programs are required to educate the bizarre and rural population
and the movie Pad Man proved to be useful to promote period awareness.

Media, Change the Style of Reporting to Improve Health of Our Nation! #News

The newspapers, social media and TV news is flooded
with the nuisances, such as murders, killing, rapes, eve teasing, molesting,
kidnapping, cheating etc. All evils are reported and we take for granted that
Humanity has disappeared from our Planet.
When I gave some time and explored on other
aspects, I concluded that the news of rogues are reported. The positive news
aren’t explored and reported because media don’t feel like reporting nor we
people ever discuss.
If a murder takes place, it goes around and the
news is on the tip of the tongue and spicy stories are embedded along as it
moves from place to place.
If some acts of goodness are done, they aren’t
even discussed in community gossips or in personal conversation because people
don’t pay heed to it.
“Mr. X ka beta is grounded for taking bribe” is
the hot topic of discussion.
“Mr. Y has helped his maid with a good sum in her
daughter’s marriage” don’t do rounds, rather the news is nipped with a grumpy
comment, “Unke paas hai to diya, kya bada kaam kiya.”
In a population of billions and billions, the
level of crime, torture, murder, rape is quite low and good deeds do exist on
this planet.
I am not against evil reporting but my wish is
that we should include positive and inspirational reporting too so that the
faith of people don’t wear and tear. People don’t get filled up with negativity.
The positive news will have positive signs on people and people will try to
compete with goodness, doing rounds of goodness by extending help to needy,
stand for disable, speak out for the downtrodden and exploited and on more and
more subjects of humanity, positivism and goodness.
I request all to bring a change in reporting style
and state facts to people. Unearth news that shakes the faith and simultaneously
unearth the news that sends the messages of brotherhood and fraternity among
people.
Faith of people will grow in humanity and people
will move towards positive goal been encouraged by positive acts of others.
Hope all who read my post do agree with me and
plan to sign a cause to improve reporting in our country building a positive
nation.
Share your views and your comments will show how
many people voice my opinion and agree that HUMANITY IS EXISTENT IN THIS WORLD.
Disclaimer:  It is my sole opinion and no biasedness against anyone. I felt like sharing my feelings and my inner voice took form of a post that I penned down.

A Film Packed with Lessons Learned from Life – Sanju!


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A week before, I along with my friend went to watch Sanju…a biopic of Mr. Sanjay Dutt, directed by Rajkumar Hirani and the role played by Ranbir Kapoor as Sanju.

There are wide difference of opinion regarding the role of Ranbir Kapoor, some agree that he has justified his role as Sanjay Dutt and some are disappointed…divided opinions and it has to be…millions and zillions cannot hold same view…perception of each individual differs.

I have never been a fan of Sanjay Dutt nor have I ever tried to watch his movie on priority…watched if got a chance.

This time, I watched Sanju on preference as I was eager to see his biopic and what was it that had made people crazy for Sanju.

Normally, I prefer weekdays to watch movie and that too noon show is preferred because this time of the day, I am free with all the family and self-obligations and there is less crowd at the venue.

The scorching heat did not deter people and the Cineplex was packed with young brats, hopefully many had left their classes and studies to watch the movie.

Been a psychology student, I view and perceive things differently and I did the same with this movie, rather I got a chance to prove my point through my subject.

I discovered that there are umpteen lessons to be learned from the movie, Sanju. The lessons are for the teenagers, for the parents and the society.

The story of Sanju revolves around the real life of Sanjay Dutt, how he got into the habit of drugs, how the indifferent attitude of parents affected him and how he went deep into the abyss falling into bad company.

Let me start from the angle of Teens.

Teenage is the most vulnerable age in an individual’s life. There are number of changes within, physio and psycho and are the cynosure of socio eyes. The individual in this age is volatile, daring and energetic and weird dreams and desires keeps him occupied. The movie shows how Sanju is allured by the people, who are into drug business. He is a known figure in society and people knows his affluent background. The indulgent in the business introduces him to drugs that starts with fashion, gets into passion and finally, he lands as a drug addict.

It is a lesson for the Teenagers to be away from the strangers or friends, who provoke them to booze, use drugs, smoke cigarettes, or any type of abuse which initially takes them far away from the real world. If ever any teen comes across such people, confide in your parents, guardians, siblings or well-wishers and acquaint them with the incidents that is been confronted by you. They can take the stock of the situation and can weigh all the pros and cons and tell you the veracity of the incident.

Teenage is the age, where you cannot trust yourself and then how you can trust the world…you need a guide, a mentor to pass through this phase.

Next comes the Parents.

Paresh Rawal has enacted the role of Sunil Dutt and Manisha Koirala is in the role of Nargis. The movie shows that Sanju was emotionally very close to his mother. Father loves him a lot but there is an emotional barricade between them. He does not exhibit his love openly and the son feels that he is been ignored. There is immense pressure on Sanju to perform to carry his father’s legacy in Bollywood. He is perplexed and not able to concentrate on his role. In the meantime, his mother gets diagnosed by cancer and leaves the world forever. Sanju is devastated. His drug addiction leads him to drug rehabilitation centre and it is a tough time for him. He gets weaned out of drugs but has to pay a heavy price for it. When he gets out of drug addiction, he comes into contact of underworld mafias and he gets framed with the charges of a terrorist in the severe bomb attack in Bombay. Arms and ammunition are discovered from his possession and once again, trouble seethes him and his family. In the beginning, father is unable to come to terms with it but the unconditional love for him makes him blind and he wants to wash the charges of a terrorist from his son’s life and for that he is ready to give up his high held principles.

Lesson for a Parent

Never overburden your child with your desires and ambitions. Don’t discourage them or build grudges against them. Exhibit your love and concern openly because your child cannot foresee your wrapped love and emotions. Further, if your child is proven wrong, punish him for wrongdoing so that he understands his mistake. Make your child comfortable in your company so that he can share all that he goes through or want to share. Be friendly with them and discuss everything under the sun. Educate them with right and wrongs of life. Befriend their friend and watch their company, the child is in. Been a parent of a teenager is not easy, you have to walk an extra mile to watch his mood, behaviour, perception and they need to be handled with care. Never ever suggest them to take a wrong path or a short cut to save their skin. Don’t wash their dirty linen in public but confide in them and take required action so that they repent their wrong doing.

It was an emotional moment for the people watching the movie when Sanju read the letter on the demise of his father. The boundaries raised between the relationships held him back to exhibit his concern and love for his father in his lifetime.

A Worthy Friend



The movie Sanju has portrayed the character of a worthy friend Kamli, who stands by Sanju & his family through thick and thin of life. He tries by all means to correct Sanju and shows him the path of righteousness. He is there with Sanju in the days of his addiction and his wrong doings but moves apart when he comes to know that he is framed under the charges of possession of RDX. The trust in Sanju and his family is breached and he cuts off his relation with Sanju, though feelings exist for them. I am not sure whether such character do exist in real Sanjay Dutt’s life but such friend is a possession in one’s life. The reel character is played by Vicky Kaushal. The character of friend Kamli is so positive in the film that the people has fallen in love with the character of Kamli.
When you are stuck on wrong path, it is difficult to return back on right track. However, hard you try to rectify yourself, the media, the society and the onlookers starves you and makes the path all the more difficult. The bad elements poke in their nose so that you don’t return back into the world of consciousness.

This movie is with a strong message for the youngsters and the parents, both should share a strong relationship and confide in each other.

My take: The teens are vulnerable, illogical, blunt and daring, use their burning energies tuning them into positive energy. Let them speak out their thoughts so that you can read their mind and their thoughts they are sailing through.

Read Baar Baar Dekho movie review.

Disclaimer: The views are solely mine and I wrote what I felt and liked to share with my readers and peers. It is my point of view.

                  

Small Steps to Curb Pollution & Go Green!

Pollution is on high
on our beautiful planet Earth.  Nature
gifted us with majestic greenery, clean water bodies, flora, and fauna and
maintained the equilibrium of the planet.
Population inflated
and majority got educated. Their degrees proved wrath for the planet,
Earth….because their day to day inventions & discoveries to ease the life
of people snatched the glory of the planet.
Literally, the earth
has transformed into a garbage due to drastic changes in weather and climate
and water-bodies polluted to such an extent that the aquatic bodies are
suffocated to death. The world is facing global warming and water-bodies are
shrinking and the large glaciers are melting. Nature has come in a mood of
fury, resulting in unexplained weather conditions, floods engulfing towns and
cities, storms uprooting life and trees, increase in severe earthquakes, bad
monsoons, wildlife and birds nearing to extinction etc. And, the high
intellectual Man uprooted trees and greenery to install industries and increase
production.
The planet did not
lose sheen in a day or year, but the continuous attack on Earth resulted in
Garbage earth instead of Green Earth.
The major reason for
pollution of all types is due to human brain, which applied all its
intellectual powers to use and did not think a little for Nature. Nature
bestowed a majestic gift to all lives on earth but Man jeopardized in the race
of achievements.
Now, when every now
and then people are facing nature fury and have an inkling that the life on
earth is at risk, then they have started blowing the trumpet to Save Earth and
Work is in progress to save Greenery on 
Earth.
It will take years to
combat the issue of pollution. Working towards it will be like a drop in the
ocean but the continuous effort can bring hope to regain lost glory but in the
meantime, many lives will be devastated. We should not lose Hope, it gives
reason to Perform & Dream for a Better Future.

How our minimal
efforts and lifestyle changes can bring back nature glory


Plant plants, herbs,
and shrubs in your balcony or garden. Rear them well. In open land, plant trees
and even roadside area can be used for planting trees. It balances the Eco
balance of nature. Even you can grow kitchen herbs and kitchen garden using an
open patch of areas of your house.

Don’t throw wet or
dry kitchen garbage
. Store them in a large earthen pot or bury under the soil.
It will transform to bio-manure and can be used for your plants. You save money
because you don’t need to buy manure and kitchen wastes is recycled and garbage
pollution controlled to some extent.
Don’t throw water
which has been used for washing vegetables and grains. Use them to water
plants, water-wastage will be controlled and plants will receive good
nutrients, which will enhance their growth. If garbage wastes are recycled,
then we don’t need polythene to discard wastes, in this way, we are saving
money and planet.
Stop using plastic
bottles and containers
for water storage and ingredients. Plastics are neither
good for health nor for the planet. It adds to garbage pollution because it
does not perishes and adds filth to the soil. Replace them with glass or steel
bottles and containers.




Use jute or cloth
bags
to carry articles, for shopping groceries and vegetables. Initially, you
will feel botheration to carry, but gradually it will come into practice. Our
forefathers did not use plastics and polythene, they carried “Jhola” and WE trying to boast our modernity brought non-degradable plastics in our daily life.
Discard plastic bags and save drainage from clogs and getting choked, and from rivers and seas
been soiled.
Avoid overuse of cars
and bikes.
Stroll to nearby markets to buy goods, fruits, and vegetables. It
will save oil consumption, your hard earned money and the walk will keep you
fit and healthy. You don’t require extra time to venture out for a morning walk
or hit a gym. If maximum stick to this line, then there will be less jam in
neighborhood market and it will take care of health and air-pollution…so only
gain and gain…no losses.
Some people asked me,
“Is small portion of green balcony and patch of land in the basement going to
add greenery to the planet?”




My reply, “If in one
society, all apartment people use their balconies into green spaces, then
naturally, we can add greenery to a great extent. If a single drop thought that
it was not enough for the ocean and if it would have dripped on the hot land,
its existence would have perished, then and there. So, the effort of all is
required to revive the majesty of our planet.”


I have done my take
and here are the snaps, which proves my honesty towards Curbing Pollution &
Saving Planet.
What I have adopted
in my lifestyle, it is easy to strike and improve the health of the planet. Our health is proportional to the health of Earth.
Let’s pledge today,
on this World Environment Day to do our bit to save Earth from Pollution of all
Kinds.
 
We may not gain instantly but in due course, our posterity will be
benefited and will worship their ancestors for their kind deeds.



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Unbeatable Blues!


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Sure, Life is Unpredictable. You plan something and something else turns up instantaneously. It is not always, but yes, it is at times. God adores to test our endurance power and watch our spontaneous expressions and reactions.

Same happened with me in last few months.

Life was going as smooth as it should be, I was busy with my tasks and writing, along with my roller coaster life.

I explored Food Contest for my Blog, shared with my friends, well-wishers, and bloggers. Used resources to maximum in my social circles and platforms.
Idea was big, it appeared to me interesting and bright, and so I called for a Food Contest, the Traditional Indian Dishes. Direct motive behind this was that that if I receive a good number of Indian cuisine from different parts of our country, then I would go for e-book publishing and paperback publishing.
I have keen interest to revive old delicious dishes, which were cooked by our “Daadi Maa” and “Naani Maa” which have now totally disappeared from the scene. Reason is nowadays, most of the people don’t love cooking, and they just cook because they don’t have any option. The crowd that has option have started employing a cook and the cook is so professional that she delivers her duty, so the essence of culinary treat is missing. I want to revive and enjoy each home-cooked morsel with Indian spices and groceries.
I did receive number of entries but not in huge numbers as I had expected. I wanted to tap the entire Indian market and squeeze most of it, few people wanted but due to their own commitments, many could not participate.
I was ready to post on my blog everyday under the heading, Food but God embarked another plan for me.

I had to participate in the initiation of shifting of my sister from Mumbai to Ahmedabad.
People can understand the blues of shifting and our unique gifted family added more to the crisis.
Father suffering from Parkinson, sister affected by cerebral palsy and old aged mother, all require good amount of care. Thank God, all siblings arrived to care of their needs.
The whole situation became grim in absence of efficient workers to attend to the disabled, suffering and old. Literally, how months passed, I could not figure out and could not zero in on my target of posting Indian cuisines, received participants.
As I was trying to wean out myself from the settling situation, another blow shattered my thought-process.
My better half fractured his patella and within 12 hours, I reported back to Patna…high unexpected air-fare expenditure n lot of botheration’s pierced my mind. Thankfully, by grace of God, it wasn’t a severe blow but still it was a matter of concern as he fractured his leg for the fifth time in 5 decades of life.
Orthopedic advised plaster and rest for six weeks. For whole six weeks and after, I was glued to him. It wasn’t his demand but you cannot ignore. It was tough for him to spend more than a month within the four walls of home, he felt exiled.
Anyhow…time passed peacefully.
Now, I have ruled out time for myself and ready to roll the recipes one after another from tomorrow. Planning to post every alternate day, so that my readers don’t have to rush.
I took time to publish, now you take your time.
I sincerely apologize to the contributors, who took so much of pain and interest to gather recipes.

The scenario was out of my control or you can say that God had his own plans…we, mere puppets cannot move a bit without his nod.

Let’s drop the grudges and anguishes and give blogging journey a new start.

Readers, you all are my lifeline. Always be there for me so that I can bring loads of surprises for you in coming time.

Ways to Make Summer Holidays Interesting for Kids!

Moms get scary & restless at mere thought of approaching summer holidays of kids, whether she is a working mom or stay at home. Both dread at the thought of a long summer vacation of kids. Children are overjoyed & go berserk.
The children plan a long To-do-list in vacations. One month ahead, they start dreaming how to roll out their plans in coming holidays.
No issue of getting scolds from Mom & Pa for not getting off bed in early mornings.
No tension of daily homework.
Fewer Studies, More Playtime, Watching TV Shows, Playing virtual games, visiting friends and families, excursion, blah, blah, blah.
They are so busy in their own world of celebrations, not able to sense growing dread on the faces of their Moms.
I have created the scene which happens around especially in nuclear families, where Mom has to tackle lot of things, home, kids, office, external & internal affairs. These days, Pops do share the responsibilities, still Mom care is a large & hectic business.
Rewind, go back in your childhood days. You too was same as your kids, rather I would say, kids of today are more civilized compared to our childhood days. Hope, you all agree with me.
Chalk out feasible routines, easy for you as a Mom and the best for your kids.

Plan an Excursion


Plan an excursion with family. Book the tickets just after the vacation resumes…you will be wondering, why am I suggesting to start the vacation with an excursion.
Reason, kids are full of energy to celebrate their vacations. If they stay back, it will be tough to manage them indoors.On outing, their untapped energy will be exhausted in a positive way. You both will get break from your regular chores. Whole family will have great fun together, stress will disappear.
When you return after excursions, you will be filled with zest to do something better. Mind will be relaxed & fresh, kids can test your patience.
Kids will slowly settle down after fun of excursion and can be manageable.
For Working Moms

If you are working, pack your kitchen with readymade or homemade snacks, children need some delicacies to munch.

Pack your fridge with their favourite fruits, Mangoes are the favourite of children, squashes, sauces, jelly and ice-cream to spend their hot days with cold delicious delicacies.
For Stay at Home Moms



Keep grocery stock ready at home, the children can relish on the savories prepared by you. Here, I am being bit partial, giving freedom to working Moms to choose readymade stocks.  Mama. Be ready to display your culinary skills, this vacation. Normally, during school days, stress is more of studies and keeping up with the time-table, for both Mom and kids. During vacation, toss the time table, use the relaxed schedule to cook your children’s  and self-favourite dishes. It will be fun if you engage your kids to help you in chores, such as baking, laying down tables or any other fun activity. To make the vacation memorable, throw a small picnic party with their friends & neighbours. Wide smile on their faces will steal your heart.
Engage in Fun-Activities

Arts & Crafts Classes





Discover the interest of your child, make them invest in their favourite art & craft activity, such as painting, sketching, dancing & music, gardening,& other hobby classes. If you are adept in any art and craft, tutor them else admit them in summer hobby classes.

If your child has inclination in any art, he/she can explore on their own, encourage indulging. It will be a good pastime, energy being channelized in a  positive direction.
Summer camps



Nowadays, summer camps are arranged for the children during summer vacations. Sportive and interesting activities are taught with fun and play. The children learn up the things easily, medium of instruction is to learn via play. They enjoy and find engaging, grasp easily. I know of many summer camps where they teach how to take care of plants, first-aid, personal hygiene and self-grooming, how to arrange room and keep surroundings clean. Through play and skid, they are encouraged to weave interesting stories and enact on them. The activities are in sync with the age of the children. I have seen positive results in children attending summer camps, particularly the introverts shed their skin after interaction with summer camps, learn many new activities and etiquette at summer camp.

Word of caution, visit summer camps to see how they involve children in their activities before getting them enrolled. Summer camps are cropping up, so before getting them admitted, inquire about their credentials and authenticity.

Swimming Classes





It is fun for kids to play in water. Enroll them in swimming classes, it is one of the best exercise and fun and frolic for school going kids.

Encourage Reading Habits


In digital world, paperbacks are taking backseat but still I feel, children should be encouraged to read books. Reading books enriches vocabulary, instill interest, instigates creativity & imagination power. Buy books as per their age & interest, allot minimum one hour of reading hour every day. To make reading hour interesting, make them read in group of friends.
Encourage to Complete Summer Projects & Assignments


Ask them at what time they are comfortable to carry on their summer assignments and make them complete their assignments. Guide them but don’t write their projects and assignments. Let their imagination run and let them learn through trial and error. Make them understand that completing them throughout the stretch of vacation is desirable and easy instead of attending it at the last moment and getting stressed. Regular studies are beneficial for children.

Disclaimer:

The views expressed are my own, gained from my own experiences and observations. If anything offends you, do share, I am open to corrections and suggestions.

Save Marriage! #OneLinerWednesday

“Love for him did not let her go
Lust for her did not let him go
Gradually, Love & Lust United
    Giving Birth to Faith in Each Other!”

Every now and then, I come across news of marriages failing and people moving out of relationship breaking them forever.
My experience and view say, 

“Give time to marriage, initially, Men are hooked to women through lust and love & faith takes time to build and grow. Don’t react if he ignores you at times. Remember, it’s easy to break but tough to build relationships.”

Written for One Liner Wednesday

Musings of Ila Varma.
19-05-2018

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