An Ideal Gift for a Father! #FathersDay



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As the Father’s Day date was approaching nearer, I was scratching my head for the gift ideas on the eve of Father’s Day.
A novel idea sprung in my head and thought why to always go for materialistic gifts.
Why not surprise him with something special?
The day, a Man becomes father, his way of thinking and doing things undergo major transformation. His priority changes and he feels proud to be gifted with a tag, Father.
His life’s motive becomes to perform better in life to provide all comforts and luxuries to his child and wish to fulfil his unfulfilled aspirations.

He searches for happiness in all the tiny acts of his child and a sweet smile makes him weak at heart.
Throughout life, he craves to see his children flourishing and when they grow up into responsible adult, he is satisfied that his dreams have reaped fruits of his labour.
Now, he is retired, old and gradually becoming fragile in frame and at heart.
What actually, he requires now?
Whole life, he strive for the children happiness and now, it is the turn of the children to reward him with care, attention and affection.

I am doing my part by devoting my time in care of my father, who is suffering from Parkinson. Once a dashing personality has been squeezed into a spoilt brat, who adores attention and requires attention classes from us to play with him, to make him write and indulge in coloring and drawing.
The things that he did for us in our kindergarten days are now been repeated by us for him. He behaves like a child and he needs to be tutored and tamed as a child.
While doing these activities, feeling of nostalgia grips me. The situation is same as it was 45 years before but the roles are reversed. Now, I have taken seat of a father and he has become my child.
When we were kids, we used to wait for him to come back from office and tours and now he desperately waits for his children to come back to his nest and gets anxious as a child.
I feel that the care and attention is the greatest gift that a child can give to his father in his old days, when he is deteriorating with age or disease. At this juncture, materialistic gifts are of no importance but a helping hand boosts his morale and confidence and the tender touch will be the greatest gift and healer for a father.
Luckily, my father is bestowed with sufficient for his needs and even 24 hours caretaker is employed to take care of his chores but without his children care, he will be hurt and unhappy.
I feel proud to say that my father is lucky to have 5 children and all are caring in their own ways and are available for him in his old and degenerating age.
I feel Care is the best gift option that we can provide to our Fathers on the eve of Father’s Day.
Isn’t this an ideal gift for a Father from his Children?
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Ways to Make Summer Holidays Interesting for Kids!

Moms get scary & restless at mere thought of approaching summer holidays of kids, whether she is a working mom or stay at home. Both dread at the thought of a long summer vacation of kids. Children are overjoyed & go berserk.
The children plan a long To-do-list in vacations. One month ahead, they start dreaming how to roll out their plans in coming holidays.
No issue of getting scolds from Mom & Pa for not getting off bed in early mornings.
No tension of daily homework.
Fewer Studies, More Playtime, Watching TV Shows, Playing virtual games, visiting friends and families, excursion, blah, blah, blah.
They are so busy in their own world of celebrations, not able to sense growing dread on the faces of their Moms.
I have created the scene which happens around especially in nuclear families, where Mom has to tackle lot of things, home, kids, office, external & internal affairs. These days, Pops do share the responsibilities, still Mom care is a large & hectic business.
Rewind, go back in your childhood days. You too was same as your kids, rather I would say, kids of today are more civilized compared to our childhood days. Hope, you all agree with me.
Chalk out feasible routines, easy for you as a Mom and the best for your kids.

Plan an Excursion


Plan an excursion with family. Book the tickets just after the vacation resumes…you will be wondering, why am I suggesting to start the vacation with an excursion.
Reason, kids are full of energy to celebrate their vacations. If they stay back, it will be tough to manage them indoors.On outing, their untapped energy will be exhausted in a positive way. You both will get break from your regular chores. Whole family will have great fun together, stress will disappear.
When you return after excursions, you will be filled with zest to do something better. Mind will be relaxed & fresh, kids can test your patience.
Kids will slowly settle down after fun of excursion and can be manageable.
For Working Moms

If you are working, pack your kitchen with readymade or homemade snacks, children need some delicacies to munch.

Pack your fridge with their favourite fruits, Mangoes are the favourite of children, squashes, sauces, jelly and ice-cream to spend their hot days with cold delicious delicacies.
For Stay at Home Moms



Keep grocery stock ready at home, the children can relish on the savories prepared by you. Here, I am being bit partial, giving freedom to working Moms to choose readymade stocks.  Mama. Be ready to display your culinary skills, this vacation. Normally, during school days, stress is more of studies and keeping up with the time-table, for both Mom and kids. During vacation, toss the time table, use the relaxed schedule to cook your children’s  and self-favourite dishes. It will be fun if you engage your kids to help you in chores, such as baking, laying down tables or any other fun activity. To make the vacation memorable, throw a small picnic party with their friends & neighbours. Wide smile on their faces will steal your heart.
Engage in Fun-Activities

Arts & Crafts Classes





Discover the interest of your child, make them invest in their favourite art & craft activity, such as painting, sketching, dancing & music, gardening,& other hobby classes. If you are adept in any art and craft, tutor them else admit them in summer hobby classes.

If your child has inclination in any art, he/she can explore on their own, encourage indulging. It will be a good pastime, energy being channelized in a  positive direction.
Summer camps



Nowadays, summer camps are arranged for the children during summer vacations. Sportive and interesting activities are taught with fun and play. The children learn up the things easily, medium of instruction is to learn via play. They enjoy and find engaging, grasp easily. I know of many summer camps where they teach how to take care of plants, first-aid, personal hygiene and self-grooming, how to arrange room and keep surroundings clean. Through play and skid, they are encouraged to weave interesting stories and enact on them. The activities are in sync with the age of the children. I have seen positive results in children attending summer camps, particularly the introverts shed their skin after interaction with summer camps, learn many new activities and etiquette at summer camp.

Word of caution, visit summer camps to see how they involve children in their activities before getting them enrolled. Summer camps are cropping up, so before getting them admitted, inquire about their credentials and authenticity.

Swimming Classes





It is fun for kids to play in water. Enroll them in swimming classes, it is one of the best exercise and fun and frolic for school going kids.

Encourage Reading Habits


In digital world, paperbacks are taking backseat but still I feel, children should be encouraged to read books. Reading books enriches vocabulary, instill interest, instigates creativity & imagination power. Buy books as per their age & interest, allot minimum one hour of reading hour every day. To make reading hour interesting, make them read in group of friends.
Encourage to Complete Summer Projects & Assignments


Ask them at what time they are comfortable to carry on their summer assignments and make them complete their assignments. Guide them but don’t write their projects and assignments. Let their imagination run and let them learn through trial and error. Make them understand that completing them throughout the stretch of vacation is desirable and easy instead of attending it at the last moment and getting stressed. Regular studies are beneficial for children.

Disclaimer:

The views expressed are my own, gained from my own experiences and observations. If anything offends you, do share, I am open to corrections and suggestions.

Save Marriage! #OneLinerWednesday

“Love for him did not let her go
Lust for her did not let him go
Gradually, Love & Lust United
    Giving Birth to Faith in Each Other!”

Every now and then, I come across news of marriages failing and people moving out of relationship breaking them forever.
My experience and view say, 

“Give time to marriage, initially, Men are hooked to women through lust and love & faith takes time to build and grow. Don’t react if he ignores you at times. Remember, it’s easy to break but tough to build relationships.”

Written for One Liner Wednesday

Musings of Ila Varma.
19-05-2018

Surprise Your Mom with Gifts on Mother’s Day!


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“God made Mother’s because He couldn’t be Everywhere” quote is old one and I know this since teenage but never bothered to understand, what it really meant.
When I was bestowed by the grace of God to be a Mom of a beautiful creature, then I realized its real meaning and found it cent per cent true.

Every day is a Mother’s Day for a child till he is totally dependent on her and both, Mom and Child cannot assume separation even in wildest dreams, the bonding is so strong. With the passing years, dependency dips and the children fly leaving the nest empty. The umbilical cord bonding is strong and no storm can wither but the children get busy in their assignments and life.
The Mother’s Day celebration stormed in to remind Mom’s importance in life and surprise her with the greetings of love and care.
So Guys, what have you planned for this Mother’s Day?
Surprise her and watch her eyes gleam with joys of motherhood. She endured bone wracking pain to bring you in this world and she deserves a day with you for Special Celebration.
Cook for Her


Cook her favourite dish or bake a special dish for her showing your culinary skill. You don’t require to be a great cook but you should know the basics and can take assistance from your friends and family. Delicacies smeared with your love would be sumptuous for her. Bake a cake for her decorating with the quotes of Mom or you can buy one for her.
Flowers Bouquet


You must be acquainted with your Mom’s choice. Prepare a beautiful bouquet of her favourite flowers and decorate her room with it. Click a snap of her surprising looks as her eyes fall on your surprise.
Dresses


Since your early childhood, she has always bought dresses for you. Now, it’s your turn to gratify her with surprises. Add a collection in her wardrobe. Women are fond of clothes & a surprise gift from her child will rush her adrenaline to peak level.
Toiletries & Make Up Kit


You can gift her a makeup box, lipsticks, nail polish, fragrance & deodorants, or something new item of toiletries. At times, women sacrifice her choice to run her home, so this time, shower gifts that she yearned to use but could not due to shortage of finances. Her twinkling eyes will share her happiness level.

Bags & Pouch



Varieties of bags and pouches are available in the market. Gift her one that she is useful for her and she can easily carry on her errands and local shopping. Women have weakness to carry her personal things in her bags and purses, so keeping this in mind, choose one for her.
Artifacts



Women starts living her life in full swing when she is free from the job of raising kids.  She has a time to devote for herself and presenting spiritual artifacts can be a better choice. There are marvellous artifacts available in the market to decorate Puja room and home décor. Choose one that you find useful and attractive for her.
Aquarium



If Mom is a pet lover, you can gift her an aquarium. She will love to indulge in fish rearing and it can be her favourite pastime. They don’t need much care and Mom been a source of love and affection can find Aquarium amusing.
These ideas are mine but you can run your imagination and can try something new and interesting.
Trudge down on the memory lane and figure out, what your Mom yearned to have in these years and still her wishes and desires remains unfulfilled. Cover up those desires to give her real happiness.
Money matters in gifts and presents but presents given with true love and gusto is more meaningful. Gift her within your spending limits, don’t oversize or under size.
When kids are small and Mom is tied with the duties of home, hubby and kids, she overlooks her fantasies and believes that one day, she will be able to fulfil her overwhelming desires, when her kids grow up.

Grown up kids, attend and fulfil her unfulfilled whims and desires. Now, it is your time to deliver.  

Count your blessings on this Special occasion of Mother’s Day.

Unforgettable Years Spent With Grandparents! #GrandparentsDay


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As I saw the post of Blogadda inviting us to write on the theme Love Jatao on the eve of Grandparents Day been celebrated on 10th of September, 2017.
                                                 Selfie of Our Time 
I turned emotional and tears welled in my eyes and the past memories and all sweet times spent with them flooded before my eyes and I missed them more today. My soul got impregnated with millions and zillions of fragrant memories of the times spent around them. In our times, each day was a celebration and one who has enjoyed the fruits of living together under one roof can well understand. Lots of memories are such that we can feel the warmth of it but cannot scribble into words but still there are heaps with me which I can share.
Now, I have lost both of my grandparents. I carry their memories along and through this post, I am paying tributes to the departed beautiful souls who carefully nurtured us watering us with the manure of love and care and what I am today is the real parcel of their care.
My parent’s responsibility was restricted to raising, feeding and imparting education and other basic components were under the jurisdiction of my grandparents and they were ever ready for us with wide smiles on their faces. Their cute smiles and affection filled me with lots of reverence for them.
Since early days of life when I could acknowledge people around me, I opted for my Daadi and my heart beat for her only. I could not live without her so the result was that she carried me wherever she went. I acknowledged her presence even in my sleep by touching her umpteen times at night to be sure that she is with me and her body scent was so familiar to me that she could not fool me in my sleep. My mother wanted me in her bed but I preferred to sleep with my Dadi-Maa. At times, they were at cross just because of me.
I was close to both of my grandparents but shared a close pact with my granny.
She made beautiful dolls out of old clothes and sew it so immaculately that ready-made dolls failed in front of those dolls…I regret that in those days camera was rarely used so I don’t have any snap of it but it is intact in my memory and those dolls were my sleeping partner in my childhood.
Her bedtime stories were so interesting and we had fixed hours at night to hear those stories of the fairies, monsters, animals etc. and in all stories, moral was embedded though in the early years could not understand much but now when I recall those then I understand the message that she passed on to us through her stories. She was not educated, only knew to read and write letters but her insight was impeccable.
In the morning hours, before going to school, I used to spend few hours with my Baba. He was good at making paper toys and every day he made one for me using old newspapers. In rainy days, he made paper boats and we two sailed them together in the nearby puddles of water. He caught fishes for me in rainy season and we two kept them in bottles and together we made dough balls to feed the fishes.
My granny waited for me to come back from school and she shared the plate. She fed me each morsel weaving stories and I picky eater threw lot of tantrums while eating but she never lost her patience. She was a cool type and she did not show any reaction.
During tea time, I sat with my books in my grandfather’s room. After completing the homework, he used to tell rows of General knowledge and briefed about the history and of the times during British rule.
I was poor in tying my hairs properly so my granny oiled them and plaited them nicely. Every day, she gave me a foot massage at night when I went to bed till the time I got married.
My granny was well versed in preparing different types of Aachaar (pickles) and I learnt all the techniques of making them in her presence. Since early teens, I used to help her in the preparations and this invoked my interest in making pickles and today, I continue her legacy and I prepare varied types of pickles.
Since early years of my life, I followed her footsteps so I learnt a lot from her in matter of religion, morality, etiquette, customs and traditions…I imitated her styles and adopted lot of her teachings in my life.
The grandparents were our saviours too who saved us from bad moods of our parents and they stood in front of us if any one of them tried to scold and at times, they hid our wrong doings and took the blame on them…in those times we felt happy but now at times, I feel guilty that they were so weak in our love that they took the blame on them if we indulged in some mischief. 
Afterwards, they used to explain us where we were wrong and corrected us but they did with lots of patience and even they made us understand why parents lose their patience.
They explained us that in young age, there are lots of stress and that’s the reason that the parents react with much intensity.
They inculcated good habits in us and taught us to respect people.
They did not read textbooks to us but their sermons had beautiful messages and they taught us through examples.
In our days, grandparents were indispensable with us and we had much respect for them and their Love jatao and ours Love jatao was mind-blowing. 

Reciprocation from both the sides was beyond words as we all know, “Actions speak louder than words.”

In our time, we did not required a special day to celebrate Grandparents day. Each day was the day for both of us. The love bonded us together and we had due regards for them.
Today, I miss them but I am happy for them that they lived life king-size with us and they left the world at a ripe age and did not face much issues of health and loneliness.
They had the privilege that whole life, they were surrounded by us and in later age of their life, we stood for them whenever they were in need of a support and they left the world contended and their blessings helped us to reach the pinnacle.

  “A grandparent is someone with silver in their hair and gold in their heart”

I believe that their blessings have helped me to reach where I am today and I teach my kids too to create a close bond with their grandparents as I know the virtues of grandparents been in one’s life.

I look forward to hear from you how would you celebrate Grandparents Day. Do share a selfie with your grandparents on Sept. 10, 2017 on Twitter or Facebook with #LoveJatao & tag @blogadda to win a goodie from Parachute Advansed.


How to make an Introvert Child more Friendly? #MommyMoments

Parenting is a skill and it requires lots of patience & perseverance on the part of parents while addressing kids.
Each child is unique in its own way and accordingly, the parents need to take care of them…
Some are outspoken, fearless and daring and they
require less guidance while some are shy and meek and they need more attention from parents.
If you see around, you will find kids of one set of parents are quite different in personality though they are brought up in
the same atmosphere has been given the same privileges and comfort…Their characteristics and vital statistics vary because each kid perceives things differently…so it is the duty of the parents especially the Moms to unearth their kids potential and
weakness and deal them accordingly.
In my childhood days, I was a mixture of both; some knew me as Introvert while others knew me as a full package of life and
vigor and over Extrovert.
I myself don’t know the reason for such a dual personality. In our times, parents were loaded with so much of responsibilities
that they did not have enough time to spare to delve into such fine details. They had the huge responsibility of extended families, five children and looking after the house.
Still, I am a pack of both but certainly, I pulled myself out of the shell with passing years and now, I am introvert where I
choose to be…it’s my choice else I am extrovert, ready to pour my ideas and beliefs and even give an uninterrupted sermon where required.
I know that being over introvert mars the personality and at times, we lose best opportunities…though my been introvert
rewarded me with writing skills because whenever thoughts gushed inside me, I poured it raw on the journal and this was my bright side and today I am a gainer choosing blogging as my profession…my been introvert made me Creative.
In our time, we did not have so many gadgets…we had limited choice…either to play in the playground…indulge in some creativity or study…but the scenario of today is quite different.
Children of today are hooked to gadgets, as today’s children have access to multiple gadgets and if they are left alone, it will
hamper their personality. Parents need to be vigilant so that the
personality of kids are not at stake.
Parenting Tips:
 
  •  If your child is dull and doesn’t want to mingle with the kids of their age group, he needs your attention. Rule out the reason for this behavior and encourage them to be active and participate in group activity.
  • Find out their field of interest and encourage them to participate fully. Have open discussions with your kids and inquire if something is bothering them. At times, children don’t open up because of some unknown fear or inadequate knowledge.
  • Invite them to your living room when some guests
    visit your house and introduce them to your guests, gradually he will develop the habit of conversing with strangers and it will boost their personality.
  • Encourage them to participate in the social activity
    and give them the liberty to arrange special programs on festivals and special occasion, it will add creativity to them.
  • Take them along when you visit your family and
    friends, at times, they may be reluctant but slowly it will interest them.
  • Fix hours of watching TV and playing games on
    Computer because these activities nips the creativity and imaginative skills of a child.
  • If he is more inclined in extracurricular activities, encourage them to indulge. Study is important but they need assistance in carving a niche in their field of interest. Discouragement make kids introvert.
  • Don’t leave them alone for long hours…keep a watch
    on their activities. Time to time, try to find out about the activities of your child at school or with friends, it will help you to know how he is performing with others.
  • Keep a silent vigil on your child’s movements. All
    things should not be pronounced especially when your kids is approaching teens as they are quite vulnerable at this age and they need utmost care.
What I did as a Parent?
While raising my kids, I followed their movements
silently.
  • I involved them in all extra-curricular activities and in
    celebrations.
  • Brushed their skills and encouraged them to polish
    their areas of interest.
  • Never bullied them in front of other family members, friends or neighbors.
  • Whenever I found their energy levels low, I sat
    down with them and discussed openly what was bothering them.
These tips encouraged them to come out of their shell and enhanced their personality. Open discussion helps to develop confidence in children and they are fit to discuss and sort out issues.
Linking this post to #MondayMommyMoments hosted by Deepa Gandhi and Dr. Amrita Misra.

Parenting Journey! #Parenting #MMM

The journey of Motherhood was very satiating and each moment were so captivating that I don’t wish to change anything.
Why I don’t wish to Change?
 
There are valid reasons.
Stress & Fatigue: The time I gave birth to my cutie pies, I was very young and sturdy and no amount of stress tired me rather it energized me. If I go through once again, I will not able to cope up with the stress & fatigue of a Motherhood.
 
Impatient with Age: I was careless when I got married but as I conceived, I was transformed with lots of patience. I enjoyed their tantrums rather getting exhausted and never lost temper…no shouting…no yelling…no beating. I silently accepted their mistakes, follies etc. Now, I can’t control my temperament and get irritated easily and I hold growing age is the factor responsible for being impatient & irritable.
 Enjoyed Cooking & Creating things for them:
Now, I want them to help me with my chores and create ideas for my
blogging. I am in no shape to restart the journey of parenting. Still, I love to cook & bake for them but can’t figure myself running after kids to feed them.
Satisfied with my journey:
I am totally satisfied with my parenting journey and don’t wish to alter a single block of it because the consequence of my parenting proved rewarding and watching my big boys fills me with confidence and pride. If I restart, I may not give my best what I gave to my kids in past years.
I did not miss as such something very important to think of restarting the parenting journey but certainly, I look forward to enjoying the bliss of grandmotherhood and would love to indulge with them to revive my childhood.
I missed capturing the beautiful moments in my mobile as the camera wasn’t as handy as mobile. I would love making videos and short movies via Handycam when I am blessed with grandkids.
I am fully contented with my parenting journey and would not like to modify anything.
I am proud of my boys for what they are and they are the rewards of my nurture.
Linked with #MMM
 
 
 

Happy Memories! #Motherhood!

The word,
Motherhood” brings lots of memories with it and I believe those are the
happiest moments of life in the life of a woman. The journey isn’t easy rather
it is a roller coaster ride but we face the upheavals of motherhood with smiles
on.

The day
pregnancy test comes positive, she jumps with joy and start weaving dreams about the
life that she is carrying the womb. She faces lots of mental and health traumas
but she bears all happily just for the sake of her flesh. During those nine
months, her dreams revolve around her baby and watches her movement and kicks
within. She readily accepts the bodily changes with each month.
She
undergoes nerve wracking pain to give birth but the cry of a baby soothes her
pain and she is overjoyed to see the face whom she nurtured with her blood.
She
treasures each moment of motherhood capturing in her albums, notebook, tape recorder and in
her treasure box.
She notices
each small movement with joy and she is overwhelmed to watch baby growing with
each month.
My boys have
outgrown my lap but still the memories of motherhood are intact and fresh and I
cherish those memories to keep myself happy. Those are the precious treasures
of my life and with each moment, number of stories unfold and it feels as if it
is the incident of yesterday.
Two decades
before, there was dearth of digital media but the Kodak camera and scrapbook
came to my rescue to store those moments of life.
Camera: I am
fond of photography since childhood. When my baby was born, I kept the camera
in my purse and captured each moments into it. In those days, we had to take
prints of the captures so tried to finish the reel in one go as it was
difficult to wait for long. There was curiosity to see them and stick into the
albums. So all memories of my motherhood was captured by Kodak camera and
several albums are stacked in the shelf. Whenever, I feel lonely, I spend time
with the albums. Now I have started scanning them to preserve in my laptop,
because the snaps are losing its sheen in albums.
Scrapbook: I
maintained a scrapbook in which I jotted down my feelings from the day of
conceive till they passed the boards. All the results, moments of pride when
they won contest etc. are preserved in it. When I read them, I feel as if my
kids are around and memories are refreshed.
Laptop:
Since few years, I started scanning the snaps and maintaining a folder of each
year of my boys. Whenever, I miss them, I go through them to recollect memories of the past.

Treasure
Box:
holds their small clothes, the first that they wore and of many other
important occasions. They even hold their toys on which they were not able to try
their engineering, certificates of achievement nicely stacked in files. It hold
the small joys of life.
Tape
Recorder:
The first word they spoke, the first sentence they learned was
earlier stored in audio-cassettes, which is now segregated in CD’s. Their cute
baby talks evokes positive vibes within me and in my empty nest, I hear again n
again to bring back the reminiscences of the golden days.
Lots and
lots of memories of Motherhood is stored in my heart and it will always be
intact till the last breath of my life.
The best
thing that happens to a woman is Motherhood and it fills her with unconditional
love and affection.
 Linked with #MMM

My Superhero!!! #Dad #FathersDay

                                                                                       Source

  
Indeed Dad is
a Superhero
for the kids because at the tender age, what he does for us
seems very Big to us and we accept
him as Superhero and try to imitate
his style.
Dad is a dad for the daughters and sons but a
daughter’s affection is more inclined towards her father in her initial years
of childhood and the sons are more influenced by Moms; I think more of
psychology works here…Let’s not delve deep.
I too was not an exception and since I gained
senses, I was more a Papa’s Beti than a Mothers and I remember at times, Mom
felt ignored and neglected.
My father was in Sales job so most of the time, he
was on tours. I missed him badly and would cry often for my Superhero.
When he came back, I tried to spend maximum time
with him and I was pampered by him. He took me along to his office when he was
in town. I accompanied him to market or wherever he moved.
Gradually, I started to imitate his acts and even
kept his secrets.
I went with him on short trips and he puffed outside
home. No one at home had a irk of it. We were in joint family system so my mother
too wasn’t aware though she suspected.
He asked me not to spill the beans and I dutifully
didn’t spill but often blackmailed him for getting new toys or things of my
choice…really, I kept the secret till high school and spelled out to my mother…when
he had left his habit.
He was fond of non-vegetarian foods and cooked
delicious items of non-veg…you can say, he was a marvellous cook…I too fond of non-veg foods
relished his cooked mouth-watering foods.
Being in Sales & Marketing, he often left the
house when I was sleeping and returned when I went to bed…the days he brought raw
non-veg food along, he would wake me up…his one call was enough to bring me
back from slumber…and I would religiously wait for my favourite food that too
cooked by my Superhero.
As I grew up, I tried to follow in his steps and
imitated his dialogues and style (he wasn’t aware of it).
I adored the way he drove behind the wheels and
would day dream to drive one day later in life and I did.
I helped him in the cleaning of the car…we had an
Ambassador, at times, when it did not ignite, he would make me sit behind the
steering and he pushed with others to ignite.
During holidays, I would play badminton and
scrabble
with him and at times, I caught him cheating…it was fair in games.
Despite all fun and pampering, he was a strict
disciplinarian
and his anger was worse.
When he would be at home in my school days, he
helped me to get ready for school, polished my shoes, ironed my dresses and combed
my hair into beautiful plaits…it was indirect help to mother but his small acts
made me happy.
He was good at English and he imparted lessons on
its usage and rectified my language.
We spoke Bhojpuri at home but he made sure
that while speaking in Hindi & English, the flair of the mother tongue doesn’t comes in.
As I grew, I started understanding his ways and I gradually drifted apart and maintained a respectable distance where I could not argue or discuss as I could in my kindergarten days.
He trained us to be independent and do all the
chores inside and outside home which included managing money, billing of
newspaper & milk and banks, school fees and other bills so that I learn the
value of money and be independent.
My mother had unknown fears and she never wished
that we travel alone…but my Superhero gave the privilege to travel alone when
we were at an age where we could differentiate between good or bad.
I hated making chappatis and was not good at making
them but he was the one who insisted me to prepare chappatis for him…it was more
of an order than request…so there was no option to turn down…now I understand
his motive. He believed that the things people hated to do should practice every
day and gradually the people will start loving…The day, I prepared rounded
chappatis, I was relieved from the duty.
He taught me to read books other than text books and
this gave way to writing. He would bring books while returning from tours.
He imparted knowledge about good and bad touch and
inculcated table manners.
It wasn’t a cake walk with my Superhero, at times
our ideas matched and we celebrated and when we opposed each other, we were at
loggerheads…still the journey was good.
What I am today is a package of contributions of My
Superhero Dad & Mom.

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Life is Best with Friends! #Relationships

Life without friends…impossible.
Friends are for life, some for season and some for reason…but
they are always there in our life.
Many have large circle of friends, some have small circle
and few have limited friends…but friends exists in one’s life.
However large and friendly if you have, still you need
someone with whom you can spend hours without been judged.


It is said, “Friend in need is a friend indeed”.

It’s true, adversities prove who real friends are and all
can’t be real and you can’t sever ties with the ones who don’t stand by you in
gloom…everything can’t go as per our wish and in maintaining relationships, we
have to be adaptable and adjustable to circumstances.
I have large circle of friends and with these social media
platform, the numbers have increased drastically.
I am very emotional and am easily caught in the web of
relationships soon and I continue friendship forever. I acknowledge my friends
and time to time, I knock them, so a relationship is maintained. This virtue of
mine increases my social circle and I give value to my friends.
In this large circle of friends, all can’t be similar. When our
own siblings differ in so many respects in spite of growing under the same roof
and same set of parents. There are stark differences in siblings, so how can we
expect friends to be like minded…One or two can be a bit similar but all differ
in some respect and the friend circle is carried on well with unlike people.
The law of magnetism proves to be true in case of
friendship.

“LIKE POLES REPEL, UNLIKE POLES ATTRACT.”

I am in contact with my friends who are my Chuddy buddies of
kindergarten and I well recognize the potential of all, still I keep my link
with them.
There are three types of friends in our life, some are
seasonal, some are with us for reason and some are unconditional. They stick
with you without any conditions and are mostly there for you.
Unconditional friends don’t look for some gain or loss in
friendship. They bind throughout life and value the ties of friendship above
all relationships and with them, you don’t need to be formal. You can purely be
yourself without any inhibitions of been judged.
In their company, we find solace and both of you know each
other well and recognizes your needs, moods and your likes n dislikes; even
very clear of your merits and demerits and knows to overlook your minus points
n praise you where you deserve.
Telepathy works great in this relationships and many times,
silence conveys all. You enjoy each other company and never get bored. You
share each n everything except your BF/GF…wink, wink.
Some friends are seasonal, they believe in carrying
friendship for short period of time. They are rolling stone that gathers no
moss. They move with time and place and adapt well in all circumstances. Till
he is with you, he is totally yours; once he moves out, you will have tough
time to locate him…Enjoy the friendship with these friends but don’t bring your
heart in between these friendships else you will be hurt. They too don’t play
with you deliberately. It is their characteristic of not carrying relationships
for long and they make friends easily. They don’t wish to be stuck, they
believe in flowing with time. Some are there in my friend list and initially,
it hurt me a lot but with experience and time, we learn a lot and I was no
exception. I too learnt the lessons of life in a harsh way and now I try my
best not to involve my heart with such friends…but this emotional do get hurt
at times in spite of been fully conscious.
Some friends stay in friendship for some reasons which they
won’t disclose but when they will move out of your life, you will know what
reason let them stay back in a relationship. You can’t rely on these people nor
can you change their outlook…a negligible part changes if good thoughts descend
on them but it is rare instance. Enjoy the circle and be ready to let it go.
In my life, friends have been an integral part of my life
and I carry on the ties overlooking the flaws in the relationships….I love to
share and care and my this attitude has helped me to overcome adversities in
life with a smile. Even if I get hurt, I try my best to find a remedy to it and
ready to patch up and my power has attracted people towards me.
I have friends of all ages, some are quite elder to me, few
quite younger. Age disparity is there but we tune well in all circumstances.
I listen to the sermons of my friends when I am wrong and
ready to lecture when I find them in wrong pit and this keeps us lively and
happy. In my group, I have friends of season’s n reasons and few of them have
been transformed to unconditional. My constant yearning changed their hearts
and now they are in my good books.
I know to overlook many things in friendship and this innate
power of mine has bestowed me with a large circle of social circle and I am
indebted to each one of them.

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