Reminiscing those days of childhood, a plan struck to start a blog train on #SiblingStories and 36 Bloggers of them amalgamated to share their sweet, salt and pepper encounters of #SiblingTalk. Brand Angtatva collaborated with me to give a new shape to this beautiful blog train journey.
This Blog Train has been hosted by Ila Varma and sponsored by brand Ang-tatva in a bid to unravel the past memories of childhood, Khatta-Mitha experiences and to unearth the glorious times spent with our siblings. The time to recall those times and bring back a bit of innocence in our life…After all, Dil to Bachcha hai Jee.
Mrinal Madhukar shares his unusual experience reminiscing the time spent with his younger bro. Let’s hear his story in his own words.
“ Because brothers don’t let each other wander in the dark alone.”– Jolene Perry
When I feel low or defeated, I look for his assurance that all will be well. On the emotional front, I am emotional and his lookout is quite practical. He guides me on these moments where I feel stuck.
May this compatibility and partner in crime remains the same throughout life.
“ Nothing can stop me from loving my brother.”– Brandy Norwood
Read next series of #SiblingStories contributed by Misha Jain.
“Shhh…Don’t tell anyone”…I overheard the voice from the back of bushes while I was returning with my friends from the playground. I checked my watch, it was 7 pm. The Sun was ready to set, birds were flying back to nest and the cows were retreating to their shed.
I was startled to hear the voice and it echoed inside me. I had moved few steps but an inner instinct stopped me from moving further and I smelled something fishy about it.
“Hey Guys, wait…there is something going on behind the bushes…we should check it out,” I said to my friends.
“What happened Pranav? Are you okay?” They asked me in unison.
“Yes, I am ok…see while crossing that spot near to playground, I heard someone saying Shhh…don’t tell anyone…I think we should go and check.” I told them.
“Come on Yaar, Don’t be too judgmental & curious. It said Don’t tell anyone and you are the one spilling out the beans…let’s go fast, we are getting late for the classes.” They said and took fast steps towards the hostel.
I was in a shock and could not move further. My friend Jai waited and others retreated towards the hostel.
I and Jai went back near the bushes. We could hear a faint cry coming from behind the bushes.
We tiptoed towards the spot and the scene that I saw with my naked eyes stopped our heartbeats.
There were two men in the age group of 40’s and they were busy in molesting a boy of ten years. The boy was shivering with fear and crying in the faint voice.
“Chup Raho…else you will be eliminated if you don’t cooperate. If you cooperate, we will give you lots of gifts.”
I had heard in news but never ever confronted with such incident.
We were in a state of the fix. What to do next?
Anyhow, we managed to move out from the place without making any noise and after going few furlongs away from the site, I called up my friends and briefed them about the incident and the place and asked them to inform the police.
I called my mother and told her about the incident that I saw. She got nervous and told me, “Beta, Shhh, Don’t tell anyone about this incident. Don’t go out of the hostel.”
“Why Mom…why you don’t want me to tell anyone? Someday, I can be the victim. Just feel the pain of that boy and how his parents will react if they come to know. There is nothing to hide. I have informed my friends and asked them to inform the police so that he can be spared.” I said and tears welled in my eyes.
PS: It is a piece of fiction but the incident illustrated is sad truth and the social perspective to hide such incidents are actually encouraging the morons and such incidents are on spree.
across a beautiful project made by a lady. I loved her project and
congratulated her for her creativity. But her reply dampened my mood.
made the school project of her child who was a student of Class I.
prepared was not a match for a student of Class I. It was far ahead of his age.
and I right away told her that her concept was not approachable…she should not
do it…unconsciously she was clipping the creative wings of her child.
not possible for her child to prepare the project all by himself, so she made
to indulge in creativity and if she has inclination towards it, she should
pursue wholeheartedly using her creative ideas to decorate her house, prepare
gifts for special occasions or can also take up as professional commitment…but please
don’t clip the wings of your child.
hurt her but to show her the right path.
child the liberty to use his imagination in school projects and let him prepare
the things all by himself.
one Mother…there are many Mothers who do the same.
and extended family, there are many parents who do the same.
they are not helping their child rather blocking their imaginative power.
such parents who spoon feed their children, I object to it firmly because I don’t
approve this idea.
budding parents not to nip the creative ideas of your children.
power will improve and will give wings to creativity.
bid, they may scatter things around or may spoil the things, but they need that
space to develop.
you too went through the same phase, so keep the patience with your kids.
them take the initiative, guide where they falter.
own hobby and use it for yourself…don’t impose them on your kids.
then the teachers too understand that it is the parent’s skill and child does
not receive due credit.
work is not appreciated.
always be in a lookout for ready-made solution.
high on their own ability.
and in school time, they achieved high marks in all subjects but later in life,
they could not clear any competition. I had watched them closely. All the
homework and school work was done by the parents and the kids mugged up. The
school projects were either bought from market or made by parents. I too was a
kid and watching them achieve feats of success in school, I grew envious of
them n at times despised my parents for not helping. Later in life, I realized
their parent’s mistakes and feel sorry for the children.
mistakes that my relatives did. I accompanied them but never imposed my skills
and the result is that I am satisfied with my children skills, few they have
inherited from us and some they have developed on their own.
the stake of clipping their wings…Watch them soar heights…you will love to
watch their achievements.
patience & perseverance on the part of parents while addressing kids. Each
child is unique in its own way and accordingly the parents need to take care of
require less guidance while some are shy and meek and they need more attention
of parents are quite different in personality though they are brought up in
same atmosphere been given same privileges and comfort…Their characteristics
and vital statistics vary because each kid perceive things differently…so it is
the duty of the parents especially the Moms to unearth their kids potential and
weakness and deal them accordingly.
some knew me as Introvert while others knew me as a full package of life and
vigor and over Extrovert.
personality. In our times, parents were loaded with so much of responsibilities
that they did not had enough time to spare to delve into such fine details.
They had the huge responsibility of extended families, five children and
looking after the house.
myself out of the shell with passing years and now, I am introvert where I
choose to be…it’s my choice else I am extrovert, ready to pour my ideas and
beliefs and even give sermon where required.
personality and at times, we lose best opportunities…though my been introvert
rewarded me with writing skills because whenever thoughts gushed inside me, I
poured it raw on the journal and this was my bright side and today I am a
gainer choosing blogging as my profession…my been introvert made me Creative.
limited choice…either to play in the playground…indulge in some creativity or
study…but the scenario of today is quite different.
children have access to multiple gadgets and if they are left alone, it will
hamper their personality.
personality of kids are not at stake.
with the kids of their age group, he needs your attention. Rule out the reason
for this behavior and encourage them to be active and participate in group
them to participate fully.
if something is bothering them. At times, children don’t open up because of
some unknown fear or inadequate knowledge.
visit your house and introduce them to your guests, gradually he will develop
habit of conversing with strangers and it will boost their personality.
and give them liberty to arrange special programs on festivals and special
occasions…it will add creativity in them.
friends, at times, they may be reluctant but slowly it will interest them.
Computer because these activities nips the creativity and imaginative skills of
activities, encourage them to indulge. Study is important but they need
assistance in carving a niche in their field of interest. Discouragement too
make kids introvert.
on their activities.
of your child at school or with friends, it will help you to know how he is
performing with others.
things should not be pronounced especially when your kids is approaching teens
as they are quite vulnerable at this age and they need utmost care.
silently. I involved them in all extra-curricular activities and in
their areas of interest.
members, friends or neighbors.
down with them and discussed openly what was bothering them.
shell and enhanced their personality.
threats & murder, rapes and incest paints the newsprint, ho halla on
multiple channels steal the serenity of our mind and at times, we question with
of turbulence in an educated society?
educated for the sake of acting barbaric?
a ten year old girl giving birth to a girl child left me shattered and
thousands n thousands of queries stirred me from within…and I can feel her blank eyes.
in our community?
kids are raped and sodomized. The kids who go through carry the scars with
themselves forever and nothing can help them to erase these unfortunate
What are the people up to?
man be so cruel with her?
able to judge her innocence while outraging her modesty?
boiled when I came to know that a close family member was involved in this heinous crime…the man stole her childhood forever.
know whether this case is the first case of such incident but in my life of 45
years, I have heard it for the first time and this incident challenges all to
be vigilant towards their kids.
has been floored that she is not informed about the pregnancy & childbirth but
the pregnancy blues are not so easy to digest for a responsible n grown up
woman…how she faced the trauma so silently…She didn’t understand when the man breached
her virginity but carrying baby for so many long weeks…she might be aware of
all the transformations within…even the hushes around are loud enough to make
immense physiological & psychological changes, how can it go unnoticed
under her nose?
know her nor have I seen her but my heart cries out for her at the thought of
so many unfortunate incidents that saddled her life and never can she be a
normal child again.
ignorance of her parents jeopardized her life forever.
Mother could not notice her physiological changes?
illiterate chunks are well aware of these basic things.
our country proved futile for her…leaving her at the risk of giving birth to a
child when she herself was a child, who saw only ten springs of her life.
harsh n stern but it would have been far better to terminate her pregnancy
risking her life…even this take was a real threat to her life.
into this world, who got abandoned on the very first second of life; how she
will cope with her life later on…this question haunts my mind.
world where technology is so advanced still such child are born who are consequence
of lust and are abandoned…indeed a very sad facet.
Mother ignore her daughter’s missed period?
with your child and let them open up in your presence, especially Mothers need
to be careful.
about good and bad touch.
confidence so that they share each and every piece of information….good or bad.
for both; Sons and Daughters.
surveillance is more towards the girls of the family and this creates a rift
between siblings and the girls don’t share their feelings fearing they might be
when the child is wrong but in normal cases, be friendly in your approach.
your children timid, strengthen their innate qualities and be in reach when
they need you.
them about Puberty so that they don’t get traumatized when they face and inform
the bare truth of Puberty.
in your child but check their movements, friends & social circle.
them when they are going for outing.
the antecedents and movements of the extended family who are your regular
visitors or staying with the family.
incident can be a real lesson for many parents who ignore their offspring’s,
keeping them over busy in professional, personal and social commitments.
remember, your child needs your presence much than your gifts.
argue that the commitments that they are involved in are for their children…it’s
true it is, but don’t ruin their childhood…their safety also comes under your
jurisdiction so the parents needs to keep their eyes and ears open and time to
time evaluate the situations.
find your child low, don’t ignore.
openly the reason and try to solve and bring back their smiles.
folly stole her smiles forever.
God that not again such incidents take place…it’s very tragic for the child,
family and the society.
is at stake.
society, people are more vigil for girls and ignores the male community but
such acts is the amalgamation of both the sexes, so parents, teachers and
guardians should be vigilant towards both the sexes so that they don’t get involved
in such mistakes where repentance cannot change anything.
a habit of scribbling my emotions; be it happy ones or the hardening facts. I
wrote to diffuse my struggles and escalate my happy moments.
with people rather found solace in writing…still in a habit of
scribbling…previously, the diaries shared my good n bad moments of life and now
my lappy laughs at my overtures.
lines. Now with blogging, to reach out to more n more audiences, to watch my
page views stumbling to new numbers, followers n friends increasing, I can’t
stop myself from venting out my experiences & varied hues of my life.
and emotions in the form of prose and poetry, fictional short stories. When I
gained momentum on my blog, an idea buzzed to share my experiences with Moms of
past, present and future and chose to become a Mommy blogger.
the days spent with my kids and now in my Empty nest, the memories of past appends
cheerfulness to my life and I reminiscence and cherish those glorious flashes.
once again childhood revisits you and you share it with your child and the
experience of it cannot be summed up in words…those cuddly-googly memories are
so refreshing and your life seems brilliant and meaningful, when you hold the
bundle of joy close to your heart…it can be only relished.
social system, Parenting has become challenging and the Working Moms are on
their wits end, juggling between home, office and baby care. At times, they are
so wretched that they feel that having a child is not a bliss rather a
punishment and they start abhorring parenting.
of a Blessed Mom; how to tackle with the Motherhood blues and enjoy the bliss
of Motherhood; how to handle the growing kids and many queries of which they
who guided them and helped them while raising kids but now, when people are
living alone, no one is there to guide and the articles would be of great value
raised my kids with great enthusiasm and never ever I gave up, in spite of numerous
challenges coming in my way.
overcome the challenges with a wide smile and the kids that you raise would be
Happy Souls and an asset to your life and society.
*****Remember, “Nothing comes easy in Life!”
lot of patience and perseverance to tackle the kids and guide him on right
do the impossible things and Mom is always ready with, “I’M POSSIBLE” knocking
experiences of my life too helped me to fare out well managing both my kids…in
spite of heavy turmoil inside, I am able to be cool outside & I don’t have
the habit of cribbing rather I abhor cribbers.
children should be given immense freedom and after a certain age, start curbing
them. I am against this practice.
and inculcate good values and show them the differences between right &
there to identify and rectify their errors.
catch things easily and if they are left to leave on their own terms, then they
will have great difficulty in later life and to keep them disciplined will be
of their childhood.
children should be educated how to manage efficiently.
does he lose temper. He believed in pleasing them by fulfilling their demands.
I was against this and made him understand that he is pampering them and we
will have tough time to handle them in future. Initially, he did not pay much
heed to it but my constant effort changed his thought and he decided to back
rules to follow to show them the VALUE OF MONEY.
HOW IMPORTANT MONEY IS.
- Never fulfil all demands: The first n foremost
rule is never fulfil all demands of children else they will not understand its
value and how tough is to earn a good sum. Side by side, they will learn the
PRIORITIES OF LIFE.
My Experience: I was brought up in joint family where my Mum didn’t had
the power to tame me and my all demands
Consequences: Till today if my demands are turned down, I am hurt at
heart and I don’t put up my genuine demands also fearing it might not be
- Buy Essential things: I see around that the people
who are affluent and have several sources of income, they gift such toys and
appliances to children which aren’t essential, and rather it’s superfluous.
Parents are spoiling them. Buy the things which are best for him as per his age
and requirements. They will learn VALUE OF MONEY AND THINGS.
- Pocket Money: Fix a specific sum of pocket money
for the children. Initially, fix a sum for a week and later on spread it for a
fortnight & month. Ask them to spend for their toys, stationary, snacks and
younger one in nursery, I fixed a certain amount for a week to spend on ice
creams, cold drinks and snacks. I was amazed to find them saving from that
meager amount and they shared the treat with us, too. I pinpointed to my hubby
who used to readily give in to watch how smart they are in spending their own
money. This habit inculcated in them habit of SAVING & VALUE OF PENNY.
- NEVER DISCLOSE FAMILY INCOME: If you are on
affluent side, never disclose income to your children. At tender age, they
won’t understand the sweat behind the flowing income but will be ready to spend
extravagantly. Parents too have to check their expense style. If you are
extravagant in spending then you can’t ask your ward to be thrifty.
occasions and when they do well in studies or maintain discipline during
vacations etc. Appreciate them & reward them by giving money to buy the
things they love to buy or the parents can gift them that their children love
to have. Even you can gift them a pot of flowers and make them responsible for
watering and taking care. This way VALUE OF CARE will be instilled in your
learnt from my life experiences.
the VALUE OF MONEY IN LIFE.