My Elder Bro – My Guide, Friend, Mentor & Lifeline! #SiblingRivalry

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The relation of the sibling is a unique one in this world. It starts with confusion when the elder one is suddenly taken aback when he/she sees another kid joining their league, which eventually leads to a lot of fighting and crying while they are growing up and finally ends with immense love and respect for each other. They become each other’s backbone. From keeping secrets to guiding each other for the best, this is my, Mayank Manohar ode to the relation that I share with my elder brother Mrinal Madhukar.

The best memory that I have, which still wanders in the theatre of my mind, is when I was in 4th grade and my brother was in 6th, and we decided to save our pocket money to gift our parents something on their respective birthdays. It was really sweet of him to come up with the idea at such a young age and his will to make me understand. That’s how he is, someone who is always so caring about the people he loves that he will always do something special for them.
My brother has always been sensitive since he was a kid. I remember how when our cousins used to come over and leave, I was the least affected by anyone’s departure. But my brother would start crying from the moment he learned that people are leaving and the vacation was over. A few of my cousins prayed that my brother is asleep when they have to leave but seldom had it happened. For me, it was more disturbing that the vacation was over and it was time to go back to school. For him, people mattered, more than that the relationships mattered.
While growing up though I had my own tantrums, I still remember how we used to play WWE on our bed and always kept on trying to imitate the moves of those wrestlers. He would grab me, lift me and toss me on the bed and it always used to end with our laughter and warning from our mother that the bed will give up soon if we continued practicing the moves…and a day arrived, when planks of the bed were replaced. Mom premonition came out true.
The age when we were crazy about the magnets and would go to any extent to get one…it was easily accessible to get after operating the toy collection, we had. Once, we even ruined one of the soft toys that our mother loved, it was a monkey who used to blabber whenever it was slapped. We operated on him and got that big fat magnet out. We got good slaps multiple times for doing magnet business but trust me, it was worth it.
We have laughed together, cried together and have done a lot of mischiefs together but today both of us are on their respective paths to make something out of the life we have, the best part that exists is we have always got each other’s back. He would lie to our mother when she found something fishy in my bag ahead of my school exams. The way, he made our parents understand how I felt about engineering and how I wanted to do something else in my life.
He has always ensured that I get the best of everything while he would settle for normal things. For instance, I have stayed in many cities for my studies while he couldn’t. He always pushed me really hard for achieving everything that I aspire for. And the reason that I shared my emotions with him about how I felt about engineering was because being my big brother, he used to take my interviews and literally guide me how corporate interviews are supposed to be and how I was supposed to basically put a lot of butter on everything that I say with a lot of emphasis on a few keywords like team player, enthusiastic, optimistic, opportunist etc. It didn’t go well down with me and I realized after getting rejected umpteen times that I was made for something else. But unaware of the fact, my brother was speaking to all of his friends and colleagues to get me a better job on my merit.
That was when one fine day I decided to drop him a text explaining everything which led to one thing to another.  For four years  I am placed in Delhi, pleased and content with my choice of profession and aspiring for more & more.
I have always been on the other side of the shore, where I didn’t share the same aim as my bro to stick to the only study in schools or college. There were times when our teachers used to compare between me and my brother and there were times when I would get really agitated by his aim to study more and more. I received good scolding to concentrate on studies but my mind was always busy doing something creative. My bro has been the best student, best son, best brother, best friend and now a really good husband.
I wish him all the best in his life and hope that he gets the best of everything. I may not have been a good brother at times, but I know I have got your back…that’s my real strength.

Reminiscing those days of childhood, a plan struck to start a blog train on #SiblingStories and 36 Bloggers of them amalgamated to share their sweet, salt and pepper encounters of #SiblingTalk.Brand Angtatva collaborated with me to give a new shape to this beautiful blog train journey.
The Campaign #SiblingStories & #SiblingTalk hosted by Ila Varma in collaboration with Angtatva comes to an end after a month-long celebration of adventurous blog train trip with Siblings. I am happy that it ended peacefully minting excellent relationship with new and old bloggers from across the globe. The articles shared by all the participants are indeed wonderful, emotional and funny instances with our siblings and I am sure it has helped in unearthing new facts about our siblings.

The Mad World of Crazy Siblings! #SiblingStories

 
 
 
 
My life has been a thorough roller coaster ride and had many health hiccups. My inner spirit never bogged me down and I continue to be one, who appears composed but is crazy at heart.
 
Born in a large family with three generations living together, at times, we enjoyed, at times, we got irritated by the intervention of different generations but Today when I look back….I feel lucky to have interactions with so many people of all shapes, sizes and different mental wavelength as we had people in our family born in mid & late 19th century and We classics born in the late-20th century. Imagine our patience the way we dealt with the oldies.
 
 
We had a gang of siblings who were always at some mischief or the other…some were silent in giving consequences and few were loud and I was on the middle path…sometimes caught and sometimes not even noticed.
 
 
 
 
 
The gang of siblings included our first cousins, second cousins and my siblings from the same mother…but mind it, till today, we don’t address as cousins…we count them as own born from different mothers.
 
 
We all lived under one roof and it might appear unusual to the current generation, we shared spaces in one single large room and my granny was our guard to safeguard us when we entered into an alliance to wash & rinse (Dho Daala)  the few that appeared to be our greatest enemy at the moment…it was all momentary…the elders got busy in discussions and we stood in unison….our bonding was so strong.
 
 
 
I am eldest in my five sibling gang born from the same mother…but we hardly got into rough…but with a gang of siblings with different mothers, the pact was strong still it had several dimensions.
 
Many lived with us and few invaded our territory during festivals, family functions and long holidays.
 
Little things added joys in our life. We waited ardently for them to arrive and we had great planning ahead to execute.
 
In our time, we had the privilege to grow amidst nature…big sprawling garden, well, trees, fruits, and veggies plants…and in winters and springtime, our garden was our home where we ate, played, studied and gave results to our mischief…some time we disclosed the name of the culprit but maximum time, it was handled by ourselves.
 
I was the one to appear meek but knew well to handle things, get it done by the gang and give a final touch…the frontbenchers were caught easily.
 
We played games like Pitto,” in winter holidays and the siblings that did not listen to us were made the target to hit during the game…hahaha 😆…and after that in the evening, we helped them in smearing Haldi-Chuna to give relief from pain.
 
 
 
We played Teacher game and therein too, our soft targets were the junior ones, whom we spanked with ruler not too hard but we were versed in the task of being a teacher and giving punishments….we all took turn and sometime or the other…everyone received spanking and torturous speech as it was delivered by the teachers of those days.
 
We had great fun in food sharing…each one of us had their own taste…and the palette included sweets, sugar, jaggery, pickles, Murabba, Bikaneri Bhujia Haldiram.
 
We were served in fewer quantities as per our age but the craving to eat wished for more and more…we all in a gang asked elders to serve and after getting, we sat on the roof and amalgamated our choice of food and ate till our tummy was full and craving satiated….mine favorite was Haldiram Bhujia.
 
 
We fought with each other but when caught by elders, we helped in shifting the scores to one another instead of making one the Bali ka Bakra.
 
After heavy fights and scores, still we remained bonded, no ill feelings, no remorse hangover…and if any neighbours tried to pry in our privacy, we united and confronted them with our various tools.
 
We saved each other from the eyes of the elders if anyone did something mischievous.
 
We were a gang of mad siblings and we felt comfortable in our group…we shared beds, bathrooms, cosmetics, dresses, and accessories…nothing was defined for a specific person.
 
Ohh…with sharing of dress, I remember few majedaar incidents where we exchanged dresses, mainly it happened in girls gang and the culprit that was hunted by the elders were saved and the innocent caught but the elders rage too diminished after catching the wrong person and the grim environment turned into humorous one.
 
Really, I miss those wonderful days of pranks, silly encounters, and huge countenance of mischiefs that we shaped carelessly in our childhood carefree days.
 
Gang of siblings helps children to learn to share and caring and they come up as a better social being and has the potential to defy hurdles of life with a smile…it’s my perception.

Reminiscing those days of childhood, a plan struck to start a blog train on #SiblingStories and 36 Bloggers of them amalgamated to share their sweet, salt and pepper encounters of #SiblingTalkBrand Angtatva collaborated with me to give a new shape to this beautiful blog train journey.

 
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This Blog Train has been hosted by Ila Varma and sponsored by brand Ang-tatva in a bid to unravel the past memories of childhood, Khatta-Mitha experiences and to unearth the glorious times spent with our siblings. The time to recall those times and bring back a bit of innocence in our life…After all, Dil to Bachcha hai Jee.

 

Ready to Catch Up Blog Train with Sibling Stories! #SiblingStories #SiblingTalk

#SiblingStories is a blogging train hosted by Ila Varma in collaboration with the Brand Ang Tatva. 31 esteemed bloggers from blogging fraternity have joined hands to participate in the Blog train to Talk about their Siblings to revive the sweet and tickling hours spent with their cute siblings and unearth the golden memories of the past. In the fast pace of life, the array of emotions, sweet and sour, salt & pepper gets buried. The blogger and the host of this campaign, Ila Varma love to divulge in the past and unwrap the pleasant stories of #SiblingTalk.
The blog train journey is kicking on 07-10-2018 and it will reach the final destination on the eve of Bhai Dooj on 09-11-2018.
It is going to be a long month of celebration along with the festivals Durga Puja & Diwali. Be ready to read wonderful posts shared by the 31 Bloggers of their real-life experiences.
Being a writer, off and on, ideas flare up and this year on the eve of Rakshabandhan, an idea sprang to introduce a Blog train on the topic Sibling and unravel the glorious time spent with the siblings. 
A bond which appears inseparable in childhood days but with the passage of time, obligations of family, job, and marriage drift us apart. The emotional bonding continues but we miss the frictions, petty fights, being partner in crime, competition, fun, plays etc. We meet after a long interval and try to be coherent with each other. Rationalization in relationships mars the innocence and never ever the days come back when we cribbed at each other, fought with Mom that he/she was more loved, partnered in mischief etc.
This blog journey will help us to cherish those moments once again to bring back our lost innocence and a wide smile on our faces reminiscing those unforgettable moments.
The first participant of the series #SiblingStories, #SiblingStories is Misha Jain.
Blog Train is hosted by @varmaila in association with Ang-Tatva.
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Are Relationships of A Couple Just a Piece of Paper?

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Once marriage was considered as a sacred institution and love and commitment was the essence of the couple relationship.
Since a few years, the term marriage has undergone transformation and it has more become a pact of convenience…the current generation thinks so and has started believing…consequence broken homes.
People get attracted to Love and love to sail through but when asked for marriage…some back out or buy time…the reason, they (both the gender) are not willing to get into commitment…a fear of losing individuality, freedom, career etc.
Within a few decades, divorce has become common and the reasons for separation are petty and flimsy, in most of the cases. There are cases of mental and physical abuse and it is equally faced by both the gender. The fair sex cases are more reported in comparison to the male because male ego does not let the reality of abuse escape in the society.
These days, there is a huge discussion on different online forums and the way the people describe at times leaves me in disbelief, wondering

“Is the Relationship of a Couple Mere a Piece of Paper?”

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I find the given Reasons flimsy and a phase of time that will pass soon but people are reluctant to continue the relationship and start looking for walking out of marriage and suing each other.
For the purpose of educating people, who are in a relationship or are contemplating should very well know that these petty reasons are not valid to break the sanctity of marriage.
Reasons put up by the Couples



1.  Adjustment with In-Laws

Both the partners come from different background, tradition, and culture whether it is arranged marriage, inter-caste or inter-religion marriage. In the initial phase, it will take time for both the partners to accept another set of parents and give equality care to them. This is to be understood by both the partners and if any one of them is not at par, then make the partner understand the things coolly instead of locking horns. If required take the help of parents to overcome the weird feelings of each other. With the passage of time, bonding will develop if the interest would be there to maintain a relationship. Mostly girl’s feels bonded in the adjustment issue with the in-laws and it is the right of the boys to make their partner understand and things can be improved by understanding, love, and patience. Putting blame on each other, contemplating suicide or divorce is a childish behavior and it should never be thought of.
2.  Compatibility Issues

Another major issue that crops up in the marriage is the compatibility issue.  The partners are not ready to accept each other interests and flaws. Just compare yourself with your siblings and same age friends does your mental and physical wavelength matches. It never would be the same though brought up by the same set of parents, there is a huge difference in the behavior of siblings. How can you dream of a compatible partner? The interests, hobbies, skills won’t match rather in most of the cases, it is just the opposite. The couple should work on each other strength and try to help to overcome their flaws. It won’t happen in a day, it will take years, so accept the partner and try to nurture by love and care. Over-demanding, cribbing, and nagging won’t reap fruits of love and affection. Don’t conclude to walk out of marriage because of the compatibility issue. These are the things which can be straightened by love, patience and being happy.
3.  Looking for Equality

There is no match in the male and the female, both are physically and mentally different hence the power of doing things and accepting things are different. Don’t compare and try to compete with each other. A woman is strong and has the ability to go through the nerve-wracking labor pain for bearing a child. A man is physically strong but mentally, he is not stable as a woman. A woman can withstand adversity of any kind but a man succumbs easily. Accept each other potentials and help each other in time of crisis.

It is said,

“If you educate a man, you educate one man but if you educate a woman, you educate a family. ”  It is a bare fact.

4.  Second Child Issue

With time, raising a child has gone great transformation and there are cribbing amongst couple for the number of child in the family. Mostly, the first child is welcome but a difference arises in case of a second child. If the wife desires, husband denies and vice-versa. It becomes a major issue of conflict between the couples who have a difference in opinion and both seem to feel that they are been denied of their rights. Don’t fight for it or make an issue. Understand each other point and if you both are physically and financially stable, gift your child a cute sibling. Companionship is important for a child.
5.  Career & Profession

A man becomes eligible for marriage if he is working and financially sound. These days, girls too are working and many families look for a working girl for the alliance. After marriage, in many cases, it becomes a major issue of difference and the couple is at loggerheads. Accept each other professional commitment and adjust accordingly. Check the priorities and though women are working still the major population of the working chunk are males. The males have the responsibility of looking after their family commitments though women too are contributing at large. Mostly, women have to give up and take a temporary leave to take care of a child. The male should support her emotionally and help her out to fight with the guilt of leaving the job. It is an important phase of life and a mother’s lap is the first school of the child. There are cases where a woman has a stable job compared to her man, so judge the priorities and take decision accordingly.
6.  Financial Imbalance

Financial imbalance calls for a lot of trouble in the relationship of a couple. Life is a roller coaster ride and life can be fraught with difficult times. Stand by each other in time of crisis and boost the morale of each other and be the strength to your partner. Don’t curse or abuse your fate or your partner, it is the time phase and this shall pass. Helping each other will go a long way in establishing a long-lasting strong relationship.
Through my post, I request all the couples not to react on these petty and flimsy reasons. There is nothing to fret and fight and walk out of the bonding of marriage.
A couple relationship is a relationship of give and take, both submit to each other physically, emotionally and mentally and a mere piece of paper cannot break the relationship easily.
In cases where you feel low and shattered, communicate with each other with love and concern and give enough space to each other to breathe. The decision taken in haste is futile, give time to assess the pros and cons.
After going through a mess of separation and divorce, partners will be left alone and the scar of losing each other will always be there.

The relationship is just like planting a seed, it takes time to germinate, grow, flower and give fruits. Just as we nurture plants to grow, the same way, we should nurture the relationship and give time to grow.
It takes years to build and seconds to raze, the choice is yours.
Many would criticize my take. I am ready for the brick batting but do give time to think and realize the importance of the relationship.

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Extraordinary Qualities of Legend of the Millennium – Amitabh Bachchan!

                                                                             


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I am a diehard fan of Amitabh Bachchan since my early childhood. The first movie of Amitabh Bachchan I watched on the silver screen was Muqaddar Ka Sikandar and my idol-worship began. Since then, no looking back in four decades, no hero fascinated me more than Mr. Amitabh Bachchan.

Fan following of Mr. Amitabh Bachchan is huge and he is famous all over the universe and people adore him.

Amitabh Bachchan started his career in the film industry with a scratch and carved a niche for himself. He saw major setbacks in life but still, he survived and emerged as a winner who steals the hearts of people in large numbers.

What makes him stand Exclusive & Extraordinary?


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    His Deep VoiceAmitabh Bachchan is gifted with a deep baritone and his voice stands against the crowd. It has an ability to hypnotize and convince people. He has contributed his voice for plays, songs and recites his father, Harivansh Rai Bachchan poems with dignity. His voice pulls the crowd and leaves people spellbound.


    Work is Worship for Him – He is reigning in the film industry for four decades and it is said that he is very punctual. He believes in giving his best and he can work for long hours without getting puzzled. The people love to work with him. He never takes the job for granted rather he take it up as a challenge and puts in efforts as a newcomer in rehearsals. The energy he publicizes on KBC is an inspiration for the people and the participants. I believe this is the reason that he is reigning in the hearts of the public.

    Humble & Down to Earth – Amitabh Bachchan has won maximum accolades on the national & international platform, still false pride and ego have not touched him. He is humble and down to earth and he recognizes his audience and believes in his audience for his success in the industry. While watching KBC, the way he addresses the contestants and their family members are mind-blowing. He gives immense weight and regard to the participants. He makes the contestants feel at home and comfortable. He has aged gracefully. 

    His Acting is Natural – He enters into the skin of the character that is assigned to him and justifies it 100% without fail. His acting seems to be natural and effortless.

    Adaptable to Changes – He is not conservative in his view and actions and believes in changing himself with the passage of time. He interacts easily with any age group and easily adapts to the latest trends. 

    Sunday Darshan for his Fan followers – Despite having a hectic schedule, he never forgets to give Darshan on Sunday on his residence to his diehard fans and acknowledges their sentiments and emotions. People throng in large numbers to have a glance of their hero. This proves his popularity among people.

Mr. Amitabh Bachchan suffers from serious ailments and has to abstain from rich and junk food still you won’t find him anxious. He is a pure vegetarian and a teetotaller. He has accepted his health flaws and maintains a healthy schedule in spite of hectic schedules.
He is nearing close to 78 years still he possesses vibrant energy and knows how to capture the attention of an audience. He is an inspiration for the people of all ages and he gives competition to youngsters. He is a power bank, loaded with positive energy.
Lessons to Learn from Amitabh Bachchan:

   Drop false ego and pride.
    Work on your strengths
    Kick negativity out of Life.
    Success is Temporary & Attitude is Permanent so work to maintain the positive attitude.
    A Grand Smile & Making people comfortable in his company.

I feel happy to watch my hero gaining height of success and popularity. 

I believe my Readers will agree with my views.

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Traditional Indian Food Contest Entry VIII – Healthy Besan Laddoos!




The Eighth Contestant of Traditional Indian Food Contest is Mrs. Jaya Verma, based at Srinagar. 




Mrs. Jaya Verma, a post-graduate in Economics and worked with MNC before marriage. She gave up her job because of family responsibilities. She is a perfect homemaker and fond of trying new dishes, especially sweet dishes, due to the sweet tooth. Her kids enjoy relishing on her saviors and guests do not forget to woo her for her extraordinary dishes. 
She has shared the recipe of Healthy Besan Laddoos, a mouthwatering sweet dish that you can prepare on special occasions, festivals and good for munching in biting cold. The ingredients will keep you warm.



Healthy Besan Laddoos




Ingredients:

Wheat Flour: 250 gms
Besan Flour: 100 gms
Roasted Groundnuts: 100 gms
Roasted White Sesame Seeds: 50 gms
Roasted Flax Seeds: 50 gms
Powdered Gond: 50 gms
Roasted Makhana: 50 gms
Roasted Almonds: 50 gms
Roasted Cashewnuts: 50 gms
Chuwara: 50 gms
Jaggery: 250 gms grated
Ghee: 250 gms
Turmeric pwd.: 1 tbsp.
Pepper pwd.: 1 tbsp.
Method

Grind Gond to a fine powder and keep aside. Grind all the roasted ingredients into coarse powder and keep ready.
Note: Roast all the ingredients separately because different ingredients take different time to roast. You can grind all in one go.

Take heavy bottomed pan or kadhai, heat 200 gms ghee. Add wheat and gram flour and continue to fry on medium flame. See that no lumps are there and it is evenly fried. Keep on flame till it changes colour and it gives a sondhi fragrance. It will take half an hour to get it fried evenly. Add turmeric and pepper powder into the mixture and put off the flame. Add powdered Gond and other roasted ingredients that you have ground coarsely into the hot laddoo mixture so that it mixes well.  Mix evenly so that it is uniform in taste.
Keep this aside and add rest ghee to another pan and add grated jaggery into it. Mix well on low flame. Once the jaggery melts evenly, add it into the laddoo mixture and mix properly. Start making laddoos when the mixture is warm and spread on a ghee smeared plate. You have to make the laddoos while the mixture is warm, else it will not get into shape.
Healthy Laddoos are ready to relish. Pack in an airtight container when it cools off. Relish with your family and friends. This can stay for more than a fortnight and you can prepare this recipe on the eve of festivals. Gear up for forthcoming Ganesha Chathurthi & Durga Puja celebrations with Healthy Laddoos.

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Traditional Indian Food Contest Entry VII – Harabhara Kebabs! #VegetarianCuisine

The seventh contestant of the Traditional Indian Food Contest is Mrs. Ranjana Gaur from Mumbai.
About Ranjana Gaur

Ranjana Gaur is a creative and spiritual person. She has worked with Patna radio Station, Theatre in Mumbai, IPTA plays and Doordarshan as an artist. 
She is an author and her debut book published, based on spiritualism, titled, “Meri Adhyatamik Yatra” and her second book published, “Antar Smridhhi Ki Oar”
She has written about her journey on the path of spiritualism and how she attained. How she guided people to attain following the normal worldly life living among the family and people, without denouncing a normal life.
Upon my request, she agreed to participate in the Traditional Indian Food Contest. She is an all-rounder, trying her hands in all fields of creativity and her video of her culinary skills proves her excellence.
Let’s watch her video and learn how to make the vegetarian dish, 

“HaraBhara Kebab.” 

Try her method and get praised for your culinary skills by your near and dear ones.

Ingredients

Spinach
Boiled Potatoes
Jeera Powder
Green Chillies
Salt to taste
Garlic paste
Ginger paste
Cooking Oil to sauté.
Cooking Method



Explained by Ranjana Gaur in the embedded video.
You can prepare this delicacy in the monsoons and relish with a cuppa of hot tea and coffee with your loved ones. It will be wonderful to try this cuisine in winters. You can add more green veggies available in winters to heighten the taste and brighten the hues of the Kebabs.
Dear Readers,

Please try the cuisine shared by Mrs. Ranjana Gaur, Mumbai and share your experiences with us.

You can access the recipe on YouTube.

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I Missed Blogging Dearly!


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I shifted my domain from Big Rock to another and this process took a quite long time hampering my blogging activities.
I did not anticipate that it will take so long, as of approx. 20 days. The Big Rock did not wished to release me and it kept on hold for a long time requesting, Abhi Naa Jaa.
Finally, it was released and my website was up. I missed my writing activities dearly.
Mostly, I write in impulse and the contents are spontaneous…all those went haywire.
Writing in impulse shoots idea automatically and you cannot write afterwards, however hard you strive….the intensity and the ideas churned disappears with time.
I was in fear that I might lose a good number of traffic and website status. Thankfully, it remained static…neither I gained nor I lost.
Dear Friends, I am back and will share my writings on regular basis. Writing keeps me connected and my feelings gets a positive vent to share.

Those Innocent Faces!


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Since a year, I am engaged with a NGO to help the unprivileged class, who cannot make his living by his own effort because of old age and physical disabilities. Simultaneously, time to time, we visit orphanage to distribute snacks or items that they require periodically.

Our dreams are embedded with our NGO, but it is in an infancy stage and a minuscule number support us in this race. 
I dream to walk miles before I sleep.
My observation shook me from within when I first stepped inside the orphanage. There were small children from the tender age of 4 to 18 years. 
When they gathered inside the campus to meet us, those innocent eyes that gazed at us were mostly of Girls, only 5 boys were there among the crowd of 50.
The disparity in number of gender triggered queries inside me.
Why the numbers of Girls is so high in orphanage?
Reason?
Reason?
A fine reason settled inside me and my conscience supported the reason.
Are these Girls abandoned by the parents?
Are these Girls borne by the Moms out of wedlock or result of outraged modesty of girls?
My inner conscience said yes and my soul was shocked to watch those innocent cute faces. A hollow smile writ large on their faces.
What was the fault of these innocent souls?
Humans are judgmental and they love what they prefer. But, how God can be so cruel with them?
I have seen people asking for children, who aren’t blessed with a child. They are not on the page of choice of gender rather they pray to God to bless with a child. Their only choice is child, Boy or Girl doesn’t matter.
How come God blesses these cursed souls, who don’t have care for a girl child?
I was moved at the sight of those innocent faces of cute girls, each had its own beauty and charm. The life that they are gifted with, has a tag of orphan but my mind dwindled in conflict, “are they really orphan.”
My soul was not ready to accept. A feeling emerged that they are tagged orphans due to the compelled ignorance of their parents and extended family members.
Woman is known for her unconditional love for her child and what are these woman made of who abandoned their new-born at the mercy of none.
Science and technology is advancing each and every moment but still the numbers at orphanage growing and that too of GIRLS….pathetic.
It was a trying moment for me.
I want to do a lot for them to bring happiness in their life but I cannot do for all because of my limitations, personal and financial.
I have vowed to help them periodically by distributing stationary items, clothing, food articles etc.
I along with my accomplice and my children distributed snacks among them.

While leaving, I enquired what they want in my next visit.
Most of them said chocolates and colour pencils.
They bid us goodbye with a Big Thank You note and See You Again.
Hopefully, will visit soon but I pray to God in silence to hold the numbers of Orphans.
Why to bring them in this world to be looked upon as an object of sympathy?
Many questions keep rising in my head shaking my belief on humanity.
I have scribbled my feelings that I encounter with in my solitude. I share the turmoil that churns within me on the subject. No offences to any social or political people.

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Success Don’t Step in Easily!

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When we catch hold of successful people around us, we vouch for the success and feel belittle in front of the roaring successful person.
We envy their style of life and class and we believe that the person enjoying success is bestowed with success or has been born with a silver spoon.
Whilst reaching near to half-century of life and glancing at the lives of many successful person, I concluded Success don’t step easily in one’s life.
It is the fruits of immense labour that one toils through by using his physical means, knowledge power, creativity, mental makeup and control on finances…and Yes…Luck favours, but it is 99% perspiration and 1% luck.
Here, through my experiences with life, I would add that the person toiling hard to achieve his aim and goal needs to be tolerant and patient. There would be days when you would feel bogged down because your plans are not turning into your favour…if you endure your failure, you are bound to succeed.
Further, there would be people around, who won’t be happy to see you toiling hard, they might be your well-wishers and their love and affection for you would weaken them seeing you marching hard…there, you need power to assimilate and carry on your mission.
Simultaneously, you will have hoard of people, who would be ever ready to discourage and disengage you from your goal, setting examples of failures who lost everything in search of success…beware of this fragment…these chunk are the opportunists and they will hover around in both the times…in tough situations and in success stories. Their statement will change as per the circumstances but they will stick with you….here, you need to act as deaf and dumb, listen to them, but fear not, rather take their charges in right spirit and vow to show them how you excel in life.
The existing billionaires of our country was born with a silver spoon but their fore-fathers weren’t. The Tata’s, Birla’s, Ambani’s etc. rose from ground and they put in extra efforts to achieve success. Even their predecessors are lurking in sunshine because they are capacitated with the power of managing an empire.
Mr. AmitabhBachchan, a living legend is regarded a successful person and certainly, he is, but if you flip the pages of his history, he had a tough phase in start of his career in films. In the middle of his successful career, he went into huge debts and tough days and his comeback as a host of KBC, improved his time and stature. Till today, he is shining and basking in glory, because of his continued efforts. Once considered an Angry Young Man, took plunge into advertisement, films, shows or you can say, he is omnipresent and enjoying success. He has a lot of health shortcomings, still his efforts to give his best never ceases.
Last week, I found success story of Choreographer, Saroj Khan and read her biography. I was shocked to know that she was married at the age of 14 to a man, who was 30 years elder to her. A remorse feeling gripped me and I could feel her pain but she did not stop and success knocked her after toiling for so many years. The choreographer, who makes people dance has come through so many hardships.
If you tap in the lives of successful people, you will come to know that the Success that seems to be flourishing is not easy to achieve. It takes time to deliver and immense effort to illustrate.
Now, let me give a live example of a successful person in my life.
My father is a veterinarian by degree, but he never practised because he was not keen into practice. Initially, he took a career of an Associate Professor in Vet. College and after few years, he managed to earn a position in a reputed AH firm in Sales & Marketing. He started from scratch and managed to establish the company with remarkable sales figures and consistent marketing of the products. His hard labour paid and he was promoted to higher position. With higher position, comes politics and he was weak in playing politics because he believed in adage, “Work is Worship.” The political game played by the fleet of people, who believed to achieve success by eavesdropping and my father became a victim of politics. He saw a doom in his career but it was short-lived but it taught him lesson to recognize people. He was offered a respectable position in a semi-govt. organization and was given a task to launch Vet. Division. His prior experience and knowledge helped him to barter success and once again, he was in leading position managing a fleet of people and he was responsible for whole India and Nepal. Many people talked about his success but very few knew how tough the ladder of success was. He started his job faring on a rickshaw and managed to drive car of his choice and dream.
Do get encouraged by the lives of Successful people, but be ready to put in your maximum efforts into it. Prepare yourself to be deaf and dumb for the people, who defy you and welcome suggestions of all.

Success isn’t that Easy as it appears.
“Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.”
–John D. Rockefeller


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