Rebellious Me, I Broke the Taboo Connected with Period!


In our country, attaining puberty is a matter to hush and is wrapped in covers, just like sanitary napkins delivered in opaque packs or newspapers.
Decades before, there were many myths and taboos attached to periods (monthly cycle in fertile girls or women). It was considered impure and there was a long list of BIG NO’s that the girls and the women of the family had to follow in practice.

I was raised in a large family with three generations staying under the same roof, sharing the common kitchen. Each generation had their own set of rules and formulas and the kith and the kin had to follow silently. Raising a voice was next to impossible even in wildest dreams and questioning elders were out of the question.

In my early years of childhood and early teens, I could not understand why the weird rules were followed by my immediate siblings, aunts, mother and other young females of the family.

The weird rules were uniform for all young woman though the dates differ. One thing I could make out that it lasted for 5 days for a single person.

What were the Weird Rules?
 
Sleep on the Floor or a Cot – Exclusive bedding was allotted and no one else shared the bed with her on her special 5 days in a month.

No Entry in Kitchen Zone – She, the poor soul could not enter the kitchen zone, neither she was allowed to cook or take food for herself.

Don’t Touch Pickles – She was not allowed to touch pickles. It was believed that they will rot if touched.

No Hair wash – On the 5th day, she was allowed to wash her hair. It was believed that she will catch a cold or her flow will be affected.
 
No Entry in Puja Room or Temples – She was not permitted to perform any religious rites or enter into the area of worship. On the 5th
day, all her clothes, beddings and washable belongings were separately washed and she had to wash her hair to be allowed to roam freely throughout the premises. It was believed that she was clean after the 5th day of periods.

This separation was noticed by all the male fraternity of the house as well as the outsiders. It appeared as if she was an outcast and in exile.

I found these rules weird, unhealthy and humiliating for the people who had attained puberty and thereafter until She was fertile.

I, the rebellious raised voice against such practice. I wasn’t a rebel but on watching these inhumanities against women fraternity, emotions stirred. I could not raise voice to my other two generations in the hierarchy but the immediate hierarchy, My Mom had to face my tantrums.

My periods started later than my siblings and friends of near my age and women of the house were planning to take me to the lady doctor. I was 15 plus and well understood all the things related to periods and ovulation.

I kept a condition to my Mom that I would not see the doctor if these weird practices are not abolished from the house. Further, if my ovulation starts, I won’t disclose to anybody because I find these practices humiliating and
unacceptable.

I even added that my periods were delayed just because of watching these tantrums…it was my pace of emotional blackmail to evade emotional
atayachaar
.

My mom and granny had a discussion under the covers and they disclosed that the day, I am blessed, they will stop these malpractices (It’s
my way of saying to taboos practiced).

God heard my words and I did not have to visit the doctor for the investigations and I was blessed within a quarter of discussion. It declared that I was fertile and healthy.

All the practiced taboos vanished except for two weird rules that still existed. My prayers were heard by them and so I too had to hear and accept two rules, which did not prove to be a hurdle in my life.

Don’t Touch


Pickles
– It did not bother me because I am not fond of pickles, so it hardly
mattered.

Don’t Enter Puja Zone or Temples – I believed in God and could not strive courage to break the barrier, being God-fearing Still, I don’t enter Puja zone.

The rest weird practices were non-existent and it gave freedom to all women of the family and even my Mom and Aunt were benefitted. All congratulated me for the courage shown and the lives of all women fraternity improved, it was women liberation.

No more exile period and it added glow on their faces and they thanked me profusely for the bold step.

Attaining puberty for a Man and a Woman should be celebrated as a moment of pride. It proves scientifically that they are fit, healthy and fertile.

These days, various platforms have started to create awareness about ovulation and periods.

Now no more, it is considered a subject to be kept under covers or discussed in a hushed tone. It is a natural process and adequate hygiene should be
maintained. Various departments are working towards it and are arranging
sanitary kiosks at public places for the women fraternity.

Still, the practice exists in many regions and families and the women suffer. People need to understand that it a moment of Pride and nothing to be ashamed of.

More and more awareness programs are required to educate the bizarre and rural population and the movie Pad Man proved to be useful to promote period awareness.

My Baby’s Smiles are Back!

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My baby used to sleep peacefully at night and never did she wake up crying in the middle of the night since she was born. It was a great relief for me because I enjoyed a good sleep at night after being sleep deprived for the whole day. I fed her at regular intervals as per her stage and she cooperated.
Due to a peaceful sleep, my day was perfect and I felt full of energy and managed all the household chores all by myself and with the support of my supportive husband when he used to be at home.
Our relationship was going fine, without any disturbance and we were happy.
However, since a few days, my baby Avni, began to cry while being put on the bed. I thought, maybe, she was suffering from gas or stomach ailment. I tried all sorts of home remedies to sort it out but all in vain. When I took her in my arms, keeping her on my shoulder, she was good, but as I put her back on the bed, her tantrums started again.
The whole night, she was restless and was missing her peaceful sleep. Gradually, even during the day hours, she started getting restless and lost her appetite. At times, she vomited the whole thing that she was fed.
The consequence was that all three of us were disturbed because we could not sleep peacefully. My hubby started getting irritated because he had to catch his office early morning, and being deprived of sleep, he was not able to concentrate on his duties. Even, I could not get enough time to manage my sleep because the baby had gone cranky and she longed to be in my arms only.
Now, it was time to see her doctor and get her reviewed because I could not find anything missing, and Avni was getting restless each day. In the corner of my heart, a feeling crept in of evil eye. I don’t believe in superstitions and blind faith but when it’s about the baby, fear grips in. 
I discussed with my MIL in the beginning, but she laughed out at my apprehension, because she knew me well and that I never bothered about these things.
She said coyly, “Yeah, today, I am talking with a Mom and a Mom is so paranoid about her kids that she can go to any length for them.”
The appointment was fixed with her Paediatrician and Avni was thoroughly examined.
Avni was suffering from nasal congestion, and since babies are obligatory nose breathers, she was cranky and did not sleep peacefully.
The doctor explained to me with a slide show, how the nasal congestion was bothering her and she was not comfortable in taking food, playing or sleeping. It was a type of allergy and she needed medication to get relief. She found solace on my shoulders because it was easy for her to breathe with her mini-nose, but it was difficult for her to breathe while lying down on the bed.
The Paediatrician prescribed Nasivion® Pediatric (Child) 0.025% Nose Drops. Avni was 15 months old and the dosage prescribed was 1 drop into each nostril thrice a day for 5 days and was asked to get re-examined if the problem persisted. She reaffirmed that it will bring relief to my baby and she will be back into her original self, hale and hearty.
I bought the nasal drops from the Pharmacy and the details of the medicine are as under.
Ingredients

One ml of Nasivion® Child Nose Drops contains:
– 0.25 mg Oxymetazoline Hydrochloride USP (active ingredient) in buffered aqueous solution
– 0.3 mg Benzalkonium Chloride Solution 50% IP (as preservative)
Packaging

10 ml glass bottle with dropper
Dosage

As prescribed by Paediatrician.


Gradually, she got respite and was back to her earlier routine. Her crankiness and irritation disappeared and my chubby Avni’s smiles were back.
All three of us were having a peaceful night and were vibrant with energy to finish our chores and play with our cute doll, Avni all over again.
Her smiles brought solace to my heart and all the fright and fear of the evil eye vanished.
Thanks to the Paediatrician and Nasivion® Pediatric 0.025% Nose Drops for providing relief from nasal congestion. Nasivion Nasal Saline Solution being the first line of treatment, as it is safe and can be used by anyone. If the problem is aggravated then after consulting the doctor, one can opt for Nasivion (Mini) Baby Nose Drops or Nasivion Pediatric (Child) Nose drops depending on the age of the child.
To know more about the Nose Drops, Click here

Follow your Pediatrician advice before starting any medical treatment.

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You Don’t Need To Hit The Gym To Remain Healthy! #Health #Active #Saffola

 
 
 


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Health is wealth is an old adage and we all know the benefits of possessing good health but do we really push ourselves towards attaining and maintaining good health. Sound health keeps one happy and irritation is at bay.
 
Sedentary lifestyle and mechanized offices have added more flabs & pounds to our body and the junk & readymade food is the real culprit and further stress flares up.
 
These days people are becoming conscious of their health and follow several advertisement advice to reduce and keep oneself fit but most of them don’t continue for long and drop midway, the consequence is they regain more than what they lost. At times, they lose interest to maintain and take for granted that it is not their cup of tea.
 
Down the years, people relished on rich food and even they had good appetite to digest them, the good reason behind it was that they burnt the calories that they consumed because they led an active life, walked miles to reach schools and offices and the children played in fields and the women were physically active in managing home, laundry and home management without any gadgets and managed to keep themselves in shape.
 
Nowadays, life is driven on gadgets, so physical exertion is minimal and mental stress is optimum.
 
In one of the reports on gym, I came across a reported fact that said that all the people who register for gym sessions, all don’t turn up or continue with the gym sessions and it said that this extra money is the real profit generated by gym owners and they even spilled the fact if attendance goes to 100% then the gym will nose dive to losses. This stats clearly indicates that the people are eager to indulge in exercises but they cannot make it to the gym, each person has a different excuse for not been present to the gym.

 

On doctors visit, a doctor suggests exercises and the patients give excuses that they don’t have time to spare for exercises and briefs a long list of been occupied. The helpless doctor passes a smile because he knows well that his patient lacks the willingness to exercise.
 
Why don’t we change our lifestyle and enjoy the exercises in the precincts of our home with our partner and children?
 
We don’t need extra time and place to exercise. Change the style of your working inside the home and try to do maximum chores by yourself.
The young parents wake up early to prepare for work and send children to school. The husbands can involve themselves in tidying bed sheets and dusting the layers of furnishings and home décor while the wife is busy with the kitchen and getting the kids ready for school.
 
Don’t wait for your partner to handover you a cup of tea…walk and get one for yourself. Till tea water boils, spin your hands in circular motions, clockwise and anti-clockwise…your tea will be ready to sip till you do ten times each.
 
Balcony Garden
 
 
Plant some plants in your balcony, this too will help in exerting your muscles and water them regular intervals, prune & manure them weekly and enjoy seeing them grow…it will lend you happiness and will keep you active.
 
Rise early and watch the sunrise and do some breathing exercises…your lungs will be filled with fresh air and you will feel nice. If you are bored to do alone, call your partner and your kids to give you a company…the lungs of the whole family would be oxygenated and day of all would start on a positive note.
 
If you feel early morning sickness, ask your kids to wake you up. Just tell them that you all be will be going to the park next to your house for playing, they won’t leave any stone unturned in waking you up and full family will enjoy morning stroll and play…if you follow this regime successfully for a week, you will find noticeable change in yourself and morning sickness will elope leaving both of you energetic and the children will be happy for early outing and they too will be active whole day…Don’t tell me how to take time out in the morning schedule…you have so much to do…I agree there are a lot of tasks in the morning…when you are attending all the tasks then why to leave this healthy one…get up half an hour early than you are doing it now and hang out with family.
 
When you are back from the park or balcony, don’t sit with newspaper. Help your partner in kitchen work and till the lunch is been cooked on the stove, indulge in doing some exercises of your hands, legs, neck, push-ups and walking on toes. Do together or count each other movements…a feeling to compete will grip both of you and each one will try to do better in order to compete with each other and doing together will keep you closer.
 
Divide work between partners of dusting the rooms, furnishings, cutting vegetables and cleaning work after the morning cooking and packing is over…this way, the work will be done nicely in half of the time since both of you are helping each other and none will feel the load of work and will be present in the office on time.
 
Even ask your kids to keep their packed lunch in their school bags, inculcate in them the habit of polishing their shoes and when they are in the fourth or fifth class, gradually teach them to iron clothes, arrange their bags and shelves and help you in household work…they will develop a habit of doing work and it will help them to remain active, lethargy will be at bay.
 
In evenings, when the children come back from school, take them on a roof or in the park and play with them…do some stretching exercises…if you are working and you arrive home late, try the stretches with your partner & kids in your living room.
 
While watching TV, don’t sit idle. Indulge in push ups and sit ups. If you are a music lover, then do some quick steps and lunges to keep yourself fit.
During weekends, indulge in cleaning cobwebs, bathroom, kitchen, and other cupboard and shelves. Involve your partner and kids, a sense of togetherness will develop among the family.
 
 
https://www.varmaila.com/2017/09/you-dont-need-to-hit-gym-to-remain/
 
 
If you follow the routines mentioned above then you don’t need to spend extra bucks or hit gym to lose your extra pounds nor you will need to curb your regular diet and crave for your favorite dishes. Avoid eating out or relishing on junk food …Yes, do check out that you take healthy diet which consists of protein diet to build muscles, green leaf and vegetables, lean meat, eggs, and fish, including more of pulses, legumes, sprouts, low-fat milk, curd and cottage cheese, complex carbohydrates and add in more of fruits in your diet chart. Refrain from using too much oil in gravy, the body requires everything in the right proportion to maintain good health.
 
If you do all these in the right way then you will see that more than 45 minutes a day is invested in physical activity and it is more than enough to maintain the curves.
 
Don’t brood…stand up and do your part to be #ApneTareekeSeHealthy…If you are single, then help your parents around instead of excusing yourself that you don’t have a partner…😛
 
 
 

 I am joining Saffola #ApneTareekeSeHealthy initiative and sharing my ways of being healthy in association with BlogAdda.


Solution to Women’s Health! #VLCC Wellscience

VLCC is a globally renowned name in the field of beauty, health and fitness. It provides real solution to the problems faced by people and has rescued lots of people suffering from different ailments and obesity and skin problems.
The beauty treatment of VLCC is also notable and the products pertaining to treatment are awesome at reasonable prices and the packaging is attractive too.
VLCC acquired Wellscience and personal care and have come up with the Trademark, “VLCC Wellscience”, and a group of VLCC.
With this acquisition, they have entered into Direct selling arena creating job opportunities and is creating awareness about Ayurveda among the masses.
Ayurveda is the oldest medicine with its historical roots in Indian sub-continent. The Ayurveda medicines are derived from plants & herbs and it is a holistic approach of healing.
VLCC has come up with the wellness products for the Women.
In women, there are numerous physiological & psychological changes such as Menstruation, Child Delivery and Menopause. Due to several hormonal changes it affects her health and they need care for her bones and body constituents. With each transformation at different age, there is an erosion of important components from her body and she needs medicines to replace & compensate the depleted ones.
Two three decades back, the women were not so aware of her physical constituents and they ignored their health while looking after her family and children. Even the girls health were neglected which gave rise to several complications during Menstruation.
With the passage of time and the development of technology, social media and rise in literacy rate, the women has become aware of her body and takes care of her health & fitness.
The VLCC WellscienceTM WomenHealth is going to help her in solving her problems of Anaemia, Osteoporosis, Bone density and Menopause. It will help her to sustain health in good conditions and it will boost her longevity and confidence.
Product of VLCC WellscienceTM WomenHealth
Women Health: is a product which helps her to tackle Anaemia, Osteoporosis, Bone density and Menopause. Generally to get rid of menopause blues, she goes for hormone replacement therapy, which is an expensive treatment with numerous side effects.
That is why we have WellscienceTM WomenHealth, which provides us the solution in a unique and natural way by restoring the body’s ability to absorb calcium.    
It contains phytoestrogens, phyto means plant and estrogens because it affects the estrogenic activity in our body. There are ingredients found in few plants that acts as an estrogens in our body but they are not the same as the true hormonal estrogens that our bodies produce. Women Health also provides us essential iron and other trace minerals to fulfill the iron requirement of our body.
          Key Ingredients:
  • Cissus Quadrangularis- contains phytoestrogens helps in absorbing and assimilating Calcium, promotes good bone health.
  • Asparagus Racemosus – is a premier herb for women. It also contains phytoestrogens.  It nourishes and cleanses blood, supports a healthy uterine function. 
  • Hemidesmus indicus – reputed herb in all systems of medicine in India. It also supports a healthy uterine function.
Thus WellscienceTM Women health not only restores the body’s ability of assimilating and absorbing calcium by providing phytoestrogens, it also maintains a healthy uterine function.
  • Carbonyl Iron   – most bio available form of Iron. Helps to treat iron deficiency.
  • Folic Acid and Zinc   –   essential nutrients for healthy woman. Folic Acid is one of the B vitamins, and it helps your body make new cells, including new red blood cells to carry oxygen in the blood. If you don’t have enough red cells that lead to anaemia. 
Reason of Osteoporosis is depletion of estrogens hormone. Estrogens hormone gives women the feminity and it plays a vital role in absorption and assimilation of calcium. Due to the hormonal changes which a woman goes through in a cyclic basis, estrogens starts depleting. Hence the calcium absorption level also comes down, which leads to calcium deficiency. Lack of calcium makes the bones brittle and leads to osteoporosis.
Along with osteoporosis, anemia is also affecting women health. During the hormonal changes, iron also goes out of the body. Our food habit remains the same hence the iron deficiency is not replenished adequately. Eventually it leads to anemia
VLCC product Women Health will help women to compensate their losses of vital components from body and it will balance her health.
The composition of Women Health is Hadjot, Shatavari, Anantmoola, Carbonyl Iron, Folic Acid, Zinc, Copper and Calcium Citrate. It comes in a bottle pack in tablet form and it contains 90 tablets. 
Do visit your nearest centre to know more about VLCC WellscienceTM WomenHealth and solve your health issues with their help.
Women needs to be healthy to retain her feminine statistics and give birth to healthy children and take care of her family and kids.


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Parenting Journey! #Parenting #MMM

The journey of Motherhood was very satiating and each moment were so captivating that I don’t wish to change anything.
Why I don’t wish to Change?
 
There are valid reasons.
Stress & Fatigue: The time I gave birth to my cutie pies, I was very young and sturdy and no amount of stress tired me rather it energized me. If I go through once again, I will not able to cope up with the stress & fatigue of a Motherhood.
 
Impatient with Age: I was careless when I got married but as I conceived, I was transformed with lots of patience. I enjoyed their tantrums rather getting exhausted and never lost temper…no shouting…no yelling…no beating. I silently accepted their mistakes, follies etc. Now, I can’t control my temperament and get irritated easily and I hold growing age is the factor responsible for being impatient & irritable.
 Enjoyed Cooking & Creating things for them:
Now, I want them to help me with my chores and create ideas for my
blogging. I am in no shape to restart the journey of parenting. Still, I love to cook & bake for them but can’t figure myself running after kids to feed them.
Satisfied with my journey:
I am totally satisfied with my parenting journey and don’t wish to alter a single block of it because the consequence of my parenting proved rewarding and watching my big boys fills me with confidence and pride. If I restart, I may not give my best what I gave to my kids in past years.
I did not miss as such something very important to think of restarting the parenting journey but certainly, I look forward to enjoying the bliss of grandmotherhood and would love to indulge with them to revive my childhood.
I missed capturing the beautiful moments in my mobile as the camera wasn’t as handy as mobile. I would love making videos and short movies via Handycam when I am blessed with grandkids.
I am fully contented with my parenting journey and would not like to modify anything.
I am proud of my boys for what they are and they are the rewards of my nurture.
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Teach Your Child to Manage Money! #Experiences

 
 
 
 
 
Parenting is the tough nut to crack and it needs a lot of patience and perseverance to tackle the kids and guide him on right track.
 
 
The unconditional love for our children makes us do the impossible things and Mom is always ready with, “I’M POSSIBLE”knocking impossibilities down.
 
 
Mine journey wasn’t easy. My patience and experiences of my life helped me to fare out well managing both my kids…in spite of heavy turmoil inside, I am able to be cool outside & I don’t have the habit of cribbing rather I abhor cribbers.
 
 
Many people believe that in initial years, the children should be given immense freedom and after a certain age, start curbing them. I am against this practice.
 
 
You have to do the groundwork in initial years and inculcate good values and show them the differences between right & wrong.
 
 
We all learn from trial and error and parents are there to identify and rectify their errors.
 
 
Children are innocent at heart but smart too and catch things easily and if they are left to leave on their own terms, then they will have great difficulty in later life and to keep them disciplined will be challenging.
 
 
Train them with good habits from the initial days of their childhood.
 
 
Managing money is not an easy task and the children should be educated on how to manage efficiently.
 
 
How I Taught My Kids, “Value of Money
 
I am sharing my very own experiences with my two kids. My hubby was lenient towards children and rarely does he lose temper. He believed in pleasing them by fulfilling their demands. I was against this and made him understand that he is pampering them and we will have a tough time to handle them in the future. Initially, he did not pay much heed to it but my constant effort changed his thought and he decided to back out.
 
 
I took the reins in my hand and implemented few rules to follow to Teach them the VALUE OF MONEY.
 
 
We say, MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING but we all know HOW IMPORTANT MONEY IS.
 
  • Never fulfill all demands: The first & foremost rule is, never fulfill all demands of children else they will not understand its value and how tough is to earn a good sum. Simultaneously, they will learn the
    PRIORITIES OF LIFE and how to prioritize. Secondly, they will develop patience to deal odds of life.
 
My Experience: I was brought up in joint family where my Mum didn’t had the power to  tame me and my all demands were fulfilled.  
 
 
Consequences: Till today if my demands are turned down, I am hurt at
heart. I don’t put up my genuine demands fearing it might not be attended.
 
 
  • Buy Essential things: I see around that the people who are affluent and have several sources of income, they gift such toys and appliances to children which aren’t essential, rather it’s superfluous.
    You as a parent are spoiling them. Buy the things which are best for him as per his age and requirements. They will learn the VALUE OF MONEY AND THINGS.
 
  • Pocket Money: Fix a specific sum of pocket money for the children. Initially, fix a sum for a week and later on spread it for a fortnight & month. Ask them to spend on their toys, stationery, snacks and
    refreshments.
 
My Experience: When my elder son was in KG and the younger one in a nursery, I fixed a certain amount for a week to spend on ice creams, cold drinks, and snacks. I was amazed to find them saving from that meager amount. With that little amount, even we both got a treat from our children, such was the power of money management of those kids.  I pinpointed to my hubby who used to readily give in to their demands to watch how smart they are in spending their own pocket money. This habit inculcated in them habits of SAVING & VALUE OF PENNY.
 
  • NEVER DISCLOSE FAMILY INCOME: If you are on the affluent side, never disclose income to your children. At a tender age, they
    won’t understand the sweat behind the flowing income but will be ready to spend extravagantly. Parents too have to check their expense style. If you are extravagant in spending then you can’t ask your ward to be thrifty.
 
  • REWARD THEM: by buying gifts for them on special occasions and when they do well in studies or maintain discipline during vacations etc. Appreciate them & reward them by giving money to buy the
    things they love to buy or the parents can gift them that their children love to have in their possession.  Even you can gift them a pot of flowers and make them responsible for watering and taking care. This way VALUE OF CARE will be instilled in your child. These small acts will motivate them to do better and get surprise gifts.
 
I shared my experiences of parenting and what I learned from my life experiences.
 
My children are quite spendthrift and they know the VALUE OF MONEY IN LIFE.
 
Share your experiences.
 
 
 
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Life is Best with Friends! #Relationships

Life without friends…impossible.
Friends are for life, some for season and some for reason…but
they are always there in our life.
Many have large circle of friends, some have small circle
and few have limited friends…but friends exists in one’s life.
However large and friendly if you have, still you need
someone with whom you can spend hours without been judged.


It is said, “Friend in need is a friend indeed”.

It’s true, adversities prove who real friends are and all
can’t be real and you can’t sever ties with the ones who don’t stand by you in
gloom…everything can’t go as per our wish and in maintaining relationships, we
have to be adaptable and adjustable to circumstances.
I have large circle of friends and with these social media
platform, the numbers have increased drastically.
I am very emotional and am easily caught in the web of
relationships soon and I continue friendship forever. I acknowledge my friends
and time to time, I knock them, so a relationship is maintained. This virtue of
mine increases my social circle and I give value to my friends.
In this large circle of friends, all can’t be similar. When our
own siblings differ in so many respects in spite of growing under the same roof
and same set of parents. There are stark differences in siblings, so how can we
expect friends to be like minded…One or two can be a bit similar but all differ
in some respect and the friend circle is carried on well with unlike people.
The law of magnetism proves to be true in case of
friendship.

“LIKE POLES REPEL, UNLIKE POLES ATTRACT.”

I am in contact with my friends who are my Chuddy buddies of
kindergarten and I well recognize the potential of all, still I keep my link
with them.
There are three types of friends in our life, some are
seasonal, some are with us for reason and some are unconditional. They stick
with you without any conditions and are mostly there for you.
Unconditional friends don’t look for some gain or loss in
friendship. They bind throughout life and value the ties of friendship above
all relationships and with them, you don’t need to be formal. You can purely be
yourself without any inhibitions of been judged.
In their company, we find solace and both of you know each
other well and recognizes your needs, moods and your likes n dislikes; even
very clear of your merits and demerits and knows to overlook your minus points
n praise you where you deserve.
Telepathy works great in this relationships and many times,
silence conveys all. You enjoy each other company and never get bored. You
share each n everything except your BF/GF…wink, wink.
Some friends are seasonal, they believe in carrying
friendship for short period of time. They are rolling stone that gathers no
moss. They move with time and place and adapt well in all circumstances. Till
he is with you, he is totally yours; once he moves out, you will have tough
time to locate him…Enjoy the friendship with these friends but don’t bring your
heart in between these friendships else you will be hurt. They too don’t play
with you deliberately. It is their characteristic of not carrying relationships
for long and they make friends easily. They don’t wish to be stuck, they
believe in flowing with time. Some are there in my friend list and initially,
it hurt me a lot but with experience and time, we learn a lot and I was no
exception. I too learnt the lessons of life in a harsh way and now I try my
best not to involve my heart with such friends…but this emotional do get hurt
at times in spite of been fully conscious.
Some friends stay in friendship for some reasons which they
won’t disclose but when they will move out of your life, you will know what
reason let them stay back in a relationship. You can’t rely on these people nor
can you change their outlook…a negligible part changes if good thoughts descend
on them but it is rare instance. Enjoy the circle and be ready to let it go.
In my life, friends have been an integral part of my life
and I carry on the ties overlooking the flaws in the relationships….I love to
share and care and my this attitude has helped me to overcome adversities in
life with a smile. Even if I get hurt, I try my best to find a remedy to it and
ready to patch up and my power has attracted people towards me.
I have friends of all ages, some are quite elder to me, few
quite younger. Age disparity is there but we tune well in all circumstances.
I listen to the sermons of my friends when I am wrong and
ready to lecture when I find them in wrong pit and this keeps us lively and
happy. In my group, I have friends of season’s n reasons and few of them have
been transformed to unconditional. My constant yearning changed their hearts
and now they are in my good books.
I know to overlook many things in friendship and this innate
power of mine has bestowed me with a large circle of social circle and I am
indebted to each one of them.

Hip, Hip, Hurray!!!

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Safe & Pleasurable!!! #Condom usage in India

 
 

Sex is essential for procreation as well as recreation. To enjoy safe sex and for sexual wellness, one needs to adopt a method of contraception. The safe method is the usage of condoms to be free from worries of conceiving or transmitting STD diseases.

A condom is regarded as one of the safe methods and it’s simple the application makes it more popular among the masses across the globe.

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Back to Basics!!!

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       Back to Basics

I have seen life very closely, from the ground reality, where I had seen my grandparents following the old traditions and living a healthy life. Their habits included getting up early in the morning and do Suryanamaskar, when the sun rose scattering their early rays to all life on earth and the early rays were considered to be an elixir for life. Before Suryanamaskar, they had a bath after relieving themselves, so the system was thoroughly cleansed.

Life (routine) started with the sun rays & ended with the sunset. People were healthy and happy and they didn’t need routine checkups nor they popped any pills. They followed the traditional healing mostly through Ayurveda.

Gradually, the western culture influence set in and the next generation followed sincerely thinking that the earlier generation was outdated and the western culture came into vogue changing the total pattern of lifestyle.

People started leaving their beds when the sun shone over their head and other routines followed afterward. In adopting a western style, people messed up their daily basic routines. There was no time for brushing teeth, taking bath, relieving oneself. Waking up late made them do the things that were on priority and the basics were left. They started relieving themselves, when the system compelled them, the consequence was complicated lifestyle & diseases started attacking people. Doctors & medicine shop owners business multiplied.

If any senior ever suggested them to change their routine and go back to basics, they were brushed up saying, “This style of lifestyle is in vogue, what you all followed is outdated. This is the fad of today.”

Now after forty years, revolution is in to change the lifestyle of people to remain hearty and healthy, but you may have heard, “Old habits die hard” and this issue currently the people are facing to go back to basics.

The revolution that has set in is due to heavy advertisements on social media emphasizing on Yoga, Ayurveda, Lifestyle reforms etc.

Gradually people are accepting and trying to bring a change in their routines.

“Aa Ab Laut Chalein” funda is been followed but it is at a pace of a snail, so it will take a long time to bring total change among people.

Wellness center, Gym & Spa’s are cropping up to help the people to be back to basics but this time, people are parting with a huge sum to visit these centers to keep a check on their health and lifestyle.

Our grandfather cycled to the office and the current generation gets themselves relieved a bit early from office to cycle a stationary bike…What an irony?

“Der aayein durusth aaye”, people have turned to back to basics and religiously following what our forefathers followed.

People are walking slowly towards it, still, it is excellent on their part to follow.

I feel like singing, “Aa ab laut chalein”, we have started our journey to prosperity, health is wealth and this traditional approach will bring massive change around us.

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How to Manage Your Finances?

Wish you All a Very Happy New Year, 2017. May this year be
more fruitful and comforting, this is my prayer for everyone, including me.
We all have heard the adage, “LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST” & the song pictured on
Rajesh Khanna, “Zindagi, Ek Safar
Hai Suhana, Kal Kya Ho Kisne Jaana”
has allured people to live life Bindaas, keeping the worries aside and
many seriously follow this track.
Even I follow the same but seriously not on terms of Finances,
else we are bound to stuck somewhere in life.
                                                           
Finances is something that one needs to plan according to
the needs and for emergencies, that doesn’t mean that you can’t spend on
superfluous things or on luxuries or on the cravings that one has.
The cravings of spending differs from one individual to another.
Some are keener to spend on entertainment, clothes, books, travel, leisure etc.
The basic needs of food, basic clothing (not required every
month), rent, education, health can’t be curbed, it has to be fulfilled and
further we need to keep stack of amount for the emergencies and tough times.
The basic & emergency needs are more or less same for
all individuals only the capacity to spend depends on one’s earning &
lifestyle. The variation is more in the context of lifestyle expenses and there
comes the need to BUDGET to overcome the habit of over spending or buying for
no reason.
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How I move with my Finances:
As the message beeps in, a wide smile spreads that finally
the amount is in. We know that we are bound to receive each month, still the
mind lurks for the beep, isn’t it amusing?
I maintain an excel file, wherein the expenses are mentioned
in one row, just I need to add in the break-up of amount as per the needs,
wherein maximum is to make the pay-out to different categories such as grocery
items, newspaper, flat maintenance, petrol, fees & medicines.
A fixed sum is subtracted from the major part to fulfill these
basic needs, and then it comes the investment part, wherein we need to pay for
the premiums, regular deposits, SIP’s & MF’s. All are not monthly
investment but I spare the amount on monthly basis to be rid of huge expenses
at one time. This way, it is planned and we don’t need to take tension to
accumulate the required amount.
The amount that is spared after meeting both ends that care
of superfluous needs, I say superfluous because even without spending on these
items, we can survive.  Still we meet
those expenses to taste the better taste of life and to live life to the
fullest and we earn to live a better life so we need to spend on our hobbies
too.
In my list, to savor cravings, my list tops with clothing,
my wardrobe is full still I indulge in buying clothes for myself and family and
I have weakness for fabrics which includes, bed sheets and curtains too along
with clothes.
Second position is of books & Wi-Fi & Dish TV
package, wherein I spend a fix amount each month. I have kept these in luxuries
n comforts item, because in case of financial crunch, we can do without it.
Third comes the contribution in Social events, at times, it
becomes compulsory needs but if I accumulate amount under this head every
month, then we don’t need to feel the heat of it.
Fourth in my list is Travel and now after getting freed from
responsibilities of kids, I keep a part of it to travel and this craving of
Travel has taken lead now and I am spending a good amount of it, so I save an
amount to meet the needs of travel.
This is my way of planning budget, what is yours?
Do share so that by exchanging views, we can learn more.



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