Mishal Raheja, King Singh transforms the boundaries of Kumkum Bhagya

 

Kumkum  Bhagya

 

 

ZEE5 Kumkum Bhagya serial is somewhere inspired by the novel of Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility. The serial is produced by TV Czarina Ekta Kapoor under the banner of Balaji Telefilms, directed by Sameer Kulkarni. Banner Balaji Telefilms is renowned for midday family soap operas in Indian Television Industry.

Kumkum Bhagya is based upon matriarchal society and the pivotal roles are played by strong, witty and powerful women. The sequential revolves around the lives of two sisters who dwell in Mumbai and portrays their desires, aspirations and dreams.

It was first aired on 15th April 2014 and it is running successfully till date. Over the years, there have been quite a few twists and turns in the show which have constantly raised the interest bar of the viewers. Thanks to which, Kumkum Bhagya has been successful in creating a niche for itself in the entertainment television industry and developed craze among the viewers, especially the women.

The lead characters of Kumkum Bhagya are the rock star Abhi enacted by Shabbir Ahluwalia and the bespectacled girl-next-door neighbour character Pragya played by Sriti Jha. In the past 3 years, they have emerged as one of Indian television’s most popular and iconic couples.

In January 2018, Kumkum Bhagya successfully completed its 1000 episodes. To give a big surprise to the viewers, the producer took a grand leap of seven years and the total dynamics underwent a major transformation.

After the leap, Television heart-throb Mishal Raheja was introduced in the show in the role of a singer called King Singh. He was given a strong role which resulted in affecting the dynamics of Abhi and Pragya in unbelievable ways.

The character of King Singh in Kumkum Bhagya is quite interesting and is portrayed as a witty fellow with an incredibly complex personality. A great singer who lives life king size as his name, King is famous for his quirky style. Personally, I find King’s character is a well-written one with many shades to it. His macho persona, coupled with interesting character dynamics, has really hit it off with the audience, especially young ladies watching the show.

I have been watching Kumkum Bhagya for a long time but the entry of King Singh has made the serial’s plot a lot more interesting. With time, he is becoming a strong rival of character Abhi with his close proximity to Pragya.

So as of now, I and my friends are incredibly happy with Mishal Raheja’s track as King in Kumkum Bhagya. So, while I rewatch some of my favourite King episodes from Kumkum Bhagya on ZEE5, let me know what do you like about King Singh from the show.

Infants get the Best Gift: #NewLaunch #MotherSparsh #UnscentedWipes #Medical GradeCloth

I was using Mother Sparsh Water wet wipes and was contended by its exclusive features. Mother Sparsh is always striving to unearth something better for the babies and the environment. Once again, Mother Sparsh has succeeded in their mission and recently launched new variant of baby water wet wipes, Unscented 99% Water Wipes. 

#MotherSparshPremiumWipes for the Neonates with sensitive and gentle skin. Mother Sparsh is recognized as India’s Best Wipes Brand and has received a tremendous response in this sector and very soon, they are coming with exclusive baby care Ayurveda products.

Exclusive features of #UnscentedWaterWipes #SensitiveBabyWipe #SuperThickWipes

  • Mother Sparsh has introduced #MotherSparshPremiumWipes fragrance free wipes, suitable for babies with sensitive and delicate skin. Few Moms have trouble in using wipes with fragrance, keeping this in mind, Mother Sparsh launched wipes devoid of fragrance
  • It constitutes of 99% water and its unscented pure wipes are specially designed for newborns, infants with sensitive skin and also meant to clean the hands and mouth of children. Particularly, the medical grade cloth is so soft that it so gentle on even the most sensitive part of baby.
  • Fabric is derived from the plants and treated in a way that makes them super soft. These wipes are 3 times thicker than ordinary baby wipes.


  • Suitable and totally safe for thorough baby cleaning; Hypoallergenic
  • Keeps baby skin hydrated
  • Free from Alcohol, Parabens & Harsh Chemicals
  • Contains No Plastic and Polyester
  • Easily Disposable and 100% Biodegradable, hence, safe for green and clean environment.
  • No hassles of maintenance.
  • Use & Throw
  • Easy to carry while traveling.
  • Super Saver Pack Available at 499.

How is it Different from Mother Sparsh Baby Water Wet Wipes

Features Comparisons Mother Sparsh 98% scented water wipes Mother Sparsh 99% unscented water wipes
Fragrance YES (fragrance wipes) NO (fragrance free)
Skin Type Normal Skin Sensitive skin/Extra gentle
Fabric Plant derived/Natural fabric Plant derived + 3- times thicker + Medical-Grade fabric
Plastic Lid Not available (Resalable Sticker) Yes (Moisture lock plastic lid)

#MotherSparshPremiumWipes comes in a comfortable packaging of 72 wipes priced at Rs.299/-

Really, we are happy and thankful to the brand Mother Sparsh for introducing such an awesome #ExtraGentlewipes with a number of benefits for parents and the Baby.

My life has become easy with #ExtraThickBabyWipes.

  • No hassles of carrying or buying soft fabrics for my Baby
  • It is easy to carry in my Baby diaper bag and in brief outing with my baby, it adjusts in my purse.
  • Fragrance-free and awesome for sensitive baby skin.

  • Use & Throw without damaging and littering the environment. These wipes are 100% biodegradable as they do not cause any harm to the environment. Mother Sparsh is the best eco-friendly water wipes.



I have shared my experience of Mother Sparsh #premiumbabywipes among my friends and family group and already many of them have started to use it for their bundle of joy. They all are happy with the results and are using it profusely.

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Why Demean Mother’s Love for Brand Promotion? #Swiggy

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I am not crazy or impatient for watching idiot box on regular basis. I do take care to keep myself updated with the news, announcements, and declarations and I do tune in periodically to update. Being music lover, during weekends, after regular chore, I do switch in to watch my musical and dance shows relayed on weekends. Normally, I am unable to catch on regular time but try to watch repeated telecast in my leisure hours.

Generally, I don’t watch advertisements in between the shows rather I catch up with my incomplete chores. One day, I was lazing around during break and watched Swiggy ads depicting Mom and child. In first go, I took it at ease but when I watched in repetition over different channels, tentacles of my mind was alarmed.

I felt pity for the ad team of who on spree to establish the brand in the market preferred to disgrace mother’s instinct of unconditional love and affection.

Is it fair on the part of the Swiggy brand promotion team?

A big No…I would say and I believe that the Mom fraternity and the family people would not digest it easily if they watch the advertisement carefully.

The truth is, Mom is the most caring creature on the planet who is ever ready to attend to their baby‘s call unmindful how old is she. The instinct is found in all mothers irrespective of species, human, birds or animals.

If at any time of the hour, the child asks for food…Mom is ready to cook and serve…not only Mom, all motherly figure, Moms, Aunts or Grannies tend to have the same tendency to attend to their child and promise them a good satisfying meal.

It is believed that No Food can replace the taste of food cooked by Mom, because she cooks with devoted love and devotion which spice up the indispensable relation.

Swiggy’s ad depicts that the Mom ignores the request of children to provide them with the sumptuous meal rather places an online order to Swiggy and the delivery boy is at the doorstep with the food parcel.

I felt quite hurt watching these ads and could not imagine as to why Swiggy stooped so low for branding.

Why Swiggy depicted such sensitive issue to demean the worth of Mother’s love for TVC

The time is changing and so the values and ethics. The Kids of today are not so concerned about their elders and if a Mom acts in a typical way as shown in advertisements, will the kids have respect for their Mom.

The message aired should be in the line of accordance of society.

Please don’t create a bad image of a Mom to promote your brand. There are umpteen ways to gather public attention towards a brand, why stoop to such a level where you demean a Lady who is worshipped as a Goddess by their children and considered to be a Super Woman with Super Powers.

As far as I know about myself, my ancestors, my friend circle and society, Mom gets over anxious if a child skips one bread less than their appetite.

I do agree, Mom have their own life and she can enjoy TV games with her child or a leisure period with her Mom and child…but she cannot go to an extent to order food on Food chain website when child requests to prepare his/her favorite homemade food.

Yeah, Mom throws parties to celebrate special occasions and weekends but still a kind request of a child for home cooked food can never get ignored.

I request Brand promotion team to study the bad impact of the ad on social strata and Motherly figure.

Please withdraw the current advertisement depicting Mom and child with a kind request for food…don’t demean the generous love of a Mother.

Readers, please do share your views on this article.

Will love to receive brickbats, applause and criticism.

Ila Varma
Mom of Two Kids.

How to Prepare your Child for a Sibling?


Parenting has no right or wrong approach. The basic approach of how you want to raise your child is your style of parenting. It is a comprehensive term. Becoming a parent for the first time is a milestone in itself and preparing your first child for a new sibling is another milestone.

Before planning a second baby, we need to prepare our first child. The to-do-list to prepare your first child for a new sibling is must to know. Usually, the parents feel overwhelmed to have a second child but are the feeling same as it was for your first child? You need to consider the feelings of your first child before planning for the second one.

Of course, it is a tough task to prepare your child for a sibling but these tips might help you to sail through.

Tips for preparing your first child for a sibling

  1. Take the opinion of your first child if he wants to have a sibling or not. If he says no then respect his decision and give him some time to understand. Discuss with him about having a sibling, what does it mean or how do they help, love and care for each other.
  2. Instead of saying that, we are going to have a new baby, tell him he is going to have a new sibling. Tell him I have one baby now that is you and now you will have a baby. We all have to take care of the new baby together. He should realize that the new baby is coming for him.
  3. Read to him about siblings bond or sibling stories.
  4. Teach him how to take care of a new born by giving him a doll to play with as a sibling.
  5. Tell him about his birth stories and take a look at his infant pictures together.

Change routine before the new sibling arrives

  1. It is important to change the routine of your first child in advance before the arrival of new baby. He might feel ignored if you will change the routine later. He should not feel that his routine got changed due to the sibling.
  2. Explain to him that you are a grown-up child now and the new baby needs more attention and care. So all of us will take care of him together.
  3. Discuss the appropriate behavior between siblings. Make sure that the elder child does not vent out his frustration out on the new baby.
  4. Appreciate him for his good and mature behavior with his sibling.
  5. Teach him to eat on his own and sleep independently. Change these habits gradually.
  6. Involve your older child in daily chores and make him mommy’s little helper.
  7. Welcome his participation in taking care of his sibling. In this way, he will feel connected to the new baby.
  8. Be emotionally available if your first child seems more demanding as he might have been feeling ignored.
  9. Be flexible during the early weeks of the arrival of the second child.
  10. Have patience and follow positive parenting skills.

Share more tips on how to prepare your first child for a new sibling with us in the comments section below.

Wish you a very Happy Parenting!

The Ecstasy of Motherhood!- #FirstTimeMom

After 2 years of marriage, I was eagerly waiting to miss my periods. Before this phase, I was heavily scared to miss my period even for a day or two…and now, we both were longing to miss… we were ready to welcome our bundle of joy. We longed to cuddle and feel the warmth and ecstasy of parenthood.

First Time Mom

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Reasons to Trust Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes!

The Baby Wet wipes have gathered the great attention of Moms within a decade and they find useful for their babies. It is easy to carry and comes with a policy, “use & throw” so no botheration of washing or gathering mess around. Single-use wet baby wipes have thronged the market for new-born, toddlers and kids. Each brand pronounces about their USP’s to gather customer attention.

Earlier, cotton and muslin cloth was used to clean the bums after pee and potty and to clean the baby after feeding, playing etc. There was a concern of washing and drying and it was a real botheration to carry on travels or on outings. The Moms feared going on errands with kids rather more plans were postponed. The introduction of single-use baby wet wipes relieved mothers with the responsibility of carrying cloth wipes and washing them. It brought tremendous changes in the life of a Mom and she sighed with a great relief finding baby wet wipes in her custody.
Comfort of Using Baby Wet Wipes
 
* Easy to use

* Comfortable to clean babies bum
* Soft on Baby skin
* Multiple uses to clean babyface, after feeding, play hours
* On travel, wet wipes take good care of the babies hygiene
 * The toys can be wiped clean by wet wipes
 * Wet wipes take care of cleaning running nose
 * Babies love the mild fragrance of the wipes
 * Moms can use to clean their face after a hectic schedule
 * You can use wet wipes to clean dining space mess
 * Best for cleaning shoes of babies and parents. Leather shoe sparkle
 * Wet wipes can be used to clean baby accessories
 * It can be used to clean public toilet seats
 * Multipurpose
Mothers are very alert with regard to the articles used for her baby and she tries her best to verify the products before using it for her baby. She goes through reviews, discusses with experienced Moms…she is total action before choosing the product finally for her baby.
Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes
 
 
 
 
 * Bio-degradable
 * Eco-friendly
 * Cotton Fabric
 * 98% Pure Water
 * Infused with Vitamin E, Aloe Vera & Jojoba Oil
 * PH balanced
 * Affordable
 * One piece is enough for a single use, good tensile strength
 * Attractive packaging
Each month, I buy India’s 1st water-based wipes Brand Mother Sparsh Baby Wet wipes online. I buy a large pack for home use and small packs for errands and tours. One small pack of wipes is parked in our car as we both prefer long drives and our weekend is spent in nearby locations. One small pack is always stacked in my purse.
I rely on Mother Sparsh Baby Wet wipes after I conducted Flame Test. The test verified the absence of plastic and harmful chemicals and confirmed the presence of a high volume of water, Vitamin E and cotton fabric. Cotton and water both are soothing on the children skin and takes care of babies’ skin. No diaper rashes or peeling of the skin and baby and Mamma both are happy with the results of Mother Sparsh Baby Wet wipes. I too use for myself, it has replaced my handkerchief.
The product of Mother Sparsh is genuine and it is easily available on online shopping portals, Shop Now.
I and my Mom group are happy with Mother Sparsh Baby Wet Wipes and we are a regular customer.
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An Essential Wear of a Modern Girl! #Zivame

The Camisole was essential to wear of man and women in olden days, the history of existence dates back to the medieval era. It was a long simple loose piece worn as underwear underneath the clothing. Gradually, with the liberation of women and the emergence of fashion fiesta in 1920, it underwent tremendous changes in shapes, sizes, fabric, and appearance.

This was the advent of modern camisole sets which came in tights to accentuate the curves or cover up the extra bulges giving a modern look and best shape to feminine beauty.
Today, it has become an indispensable essential of a modern girl and a women wardrobe.
How Camisole Gained Prominence
Initially, camisoles were introduced as underwear underneath the clothing to cover up and were worn under dresses. The teens and women found it comfortable and slid under bedcover with a camisole as fancy nightwear. By 1980, it came into vogue as Sexy lingerie styles and it traveled from the closed doors of the bedroom to the outer world. The long up to the pelvic, mid waist, cropped and bust length fashion flourished in the market and it ushered as outerwear. The demand increased and the fashion designers embarked on designing fancy camisoles frilled with laces in satin, linen and lingerie fabric in fancy hues, different shapes, and sizes suitable for women of all age, shapes, and sizes.
Camisole Wear in Trend
Camisole gaining prominence as outerwear ushered the market with utmost trendy designs and the modern girl found it versatile, appealing and sexy outfit. They started wearing in sync with different outfits matching with comfort, fashion, and season.
  • Comfortable for Women Athletes: A simple long camisole with wide straps up to pelvic are worn by women athletes over a sports bra. It gives support to bust and is comfortable and absorbs sweat easily. It is the best option to wear in summers and they find themselves at ease.
  • Easy Wear for Exercise: Camisoles is a comfortable wear for women who give time to her body to maintain her frame and girth. No tension of bulges or curves peeping out or riding up in exercise session and it gives flexibility in turns and twists.
  • Glamorous Party Wear: A teen wishes to flaunt her sexy strapless or thin strap pretty silk or satin camisole over tight jeans or frilled skirts. It is much in vogue with a tube or strapless bra. In winters, she has the option to wear a short jacket in match or contrast to her outfit. In summers, a stole around the neck will give a chic look.
  • Summer Wear: Thin straps or string camisoles are comfortable in summers and goes well with a skirt, shorts, capris, and wraparound. Loose ones go well with tight minis and skirts. The wear can be chosen based upon the choice and comfort of the wearer.
  • Winter Wear: Long cotton, Lycra or spandex can be worn in layers in biting cold season under sweatshirts and sweaters. It keeps warm as well as it has the potential to give a slimming appearance.
  • Autumn Wear: When the sun is hot and the evenings colder, these can be worn under shirts paired with jeans, trousers or skirts. Wear a beautiful design camisole under a shirt and fitting bra underneath, so that one has the option to take off shirt when it is hot.
Varieties of camisoles are available in the market and on online portals of varied trendy designs, fabrics and price range. Click here and grab the ones that attract you and matches your style. Adorn your wardrobe with a colorful and sexy camisole and walk in grace and style…the craziest outfit of a modern woman.
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Bollywood Movies Redefine the Boundaries of Love & Romance!

Most Bollywood movies have always been written by an ink, dipped in love and romance. Love and romance is a subject which quips the heart of the people of all ages.
Gradually, Bollywood movies are redefining the precincts of love and romance with quirky twists in their tales. It can be said that they have moved out or above the line in their storyline and it is proving better for the audience.
There are movies which prove the mettle of their film directors. Through these movies, they try to create something new for the audience, and it strikes the right chord of the audiences.
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Ae Dil Hai Mushkil: Karan Johar’s take on romance is quite different in Ae Dil Hai Mushkil compared to his previous movies. The storyline is contemporary and progressive, and in the lead are Ranbir Kapoor, Anushka Sharma, Fawad Khan and Aishwarya Rai. Ranbir and Anushka meet at a club, and they settle down as best friends. Both have their own love life, but something’s not right in their respective relationships and both decide to move out of those relationships. An unusual take in the movie, Ranbir and Anushka decide to celebrate their break up and head for Paris together. Eventually, Ranbir develops an unrequited love for Anushka. From there, the movie is a heartfelt view of what happens in a one-sided love story.
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Love Aaj Kal: The movie, Love Aaj Kal directed by Imtiaz Ali has tried to tell the audience the difference of love and relationships in the past and in the current scenario. The film features Saif Ali Khan, Deepika Padukone and Rishi Kapoor in the lead.
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Barfi:  An unusual story of love and sacrifice where the lover sets her lover free for the sake of his happiness. Barfi is played by Ranbir Kapoor, Shruti by Ileana and Jhilmil by Priyanka Chopra and all have justified their roles in their respective character. The direction of Anurag Basu has given a twist to the romantic tale of Barfi.
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Silvat: Silvat is a movie of an intense romance and the powerful acting of the two characters, Kartik Aaryan and Meher Mistry in the character of Anwar & Noor. It glues the audience to the narrative and stirs unsaid emotions. The director, Tanuja Chandra’s attempt, is very decent, clean and powerful.
The idea of romance in Silvat is unlike the romance we see today. Click here to see how the plot takes the audience back to 90’s where emotions were heartfelt but mostly unspoken. In most part of the movie, Anwar and Noor’s attention is glued to each other, and with just that attention, Noor never feels the absence of her husband who had moved abroad just after their marriage.
Silvat means a temporary crease and the unexpressed love of Anwar and Noor justifies the title.
So, basically, Bollywood movies are moving to a new direction to create something different, redefining the concept of love and romance and that is a welcome sign for the audience.
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7 Important Conversations Before Getting Hitched!

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Getting engaged or ready to tie the knot gives a feeling of immense joy and happiness and the would-be couple is transported to the world of fantasy, whether it is Love or Arrange marriage.
The would-be strangers or lovebirds are hooked over the phone for long hours, incessant texting, love waiting for the call, love each other bickering, concern, been questioned, childish behavior etc…but it is limited to this honeymoon period. Once one is hitched, these things appear to be a burden and the cribbing start and both people that their freedom is breached.
I believe that it is far better to have a few discussions before entering into a lifelong commitment. Earlier people had a view that the boy or the girl would change after marriage and would readily adjust with each other and it happened. There were reasons for adjustments; joint family, supervision of elders, the couple were mentally and financially dependent on their families. With time, the concept changed and now even parents don’t feel like getting into suggestions and the young couple is at loggerheads because of their rigidity and both are not ready to accept each other views or suggestions, they take it as their independence and freedom breached.

The conversation between Love Birds

Before Marriage

Spouse 1: Where were you for so long dear? I don’t like and get concerned.

Spouse 2: Sorry dear, it won’t be repeated again, will keep you informed if ever I get late.

Gives Feeling of care and belonging and they love the concern of each other.

After marriage, if same dialogue is exchanged. They snap at each other.

Reply of the Spouse for the same above question: Don’t intrude in my personal hemisphere, neither I am too small to be guided nor I wish to answer silly questions.

Gives feeling of freedom breached or being nagged.

To be away from these craps, better have an open discussion so that things are smoothened in the future.
Why not arrange a meeting with the would-be once they zero–in their choices and discuss the points openly…at that moment, both are free and there are no bindings…if they find each other interesting and amicable, go with it else both are free to walk in their own direction…without hampering emotions.
7 Important Conversations Before Tying the Knot
 
 
·       Personal Habits
 
Discuss personal habits that you feel you cannot drop after marriage as habits differ of individuals. There are people who cannot accept the habits of another and they find difficult in adjustments, such as sleeping habits, snoring, boozing, personal hygiene, and chewing tobacco etc. The couple has to share room and belongings, so both should be comfortable with each other. There are people who have great aversions accepting each other habits.
·       Interest in Kids & Sharing Responsibilities
 
There are people who love to get into marriage but not comfortable with the idea of having kids and sharing responsibilities. Discuss the take and if both of you find compatible with the idea, move on. This is a major issue and often takes an ugly turn if their ideas don’t match.
·       Finances & Financial Independence
 
Finance is the integral point of discussion for the couples, where both are working or either one is working. Everyone has their own standard of living and spending money. Some can be conservative and some frugal, so it should be openly discussed. Assets and liabilities need to be shared before tying the knot.
·       Career
 
In an era, where both are professionally independent, it is better to discuss how one accepts family life along with professional commitments. Both ends require ample time and devotion so take on the professional front should be discussed. Some are ready to adjust and compromise for the sake of family while the workaholic chunks give much importance to the profession. Discuss clearly and understand each other take on the subject.
·       Delegation of Domestic Chores
 
Normally, it is taken as a women domain and most of them enjoy delivering it but in the long run, they feel exhausted. There are few who cannot adjust to this domain. Discuss your interests and be ready to help each other rather than binding to gender. Sharing responsibilities keeps the couple closer and they enjoy in delivering the duties.
·       Responsibility of Parents
 
In spite of nuclear families, at any point of time, the matter comes into the light of taking the responsibilities of parents when they turn oil or suffer from any illness. Discuss this point because at times ideas mismatch and result in sourness in the relationship. If you have personal and financial responsibilities of parents, do share in and know each other views. Every child cannot be comfortable with the idea of old age homes and it can greatly hamper their relationships.
·       Beliefs & Culture
 
Two people from two different families conjoin to enter into a marital chord. Few are conservative in beliefs and culture and wish to see their partner follow. Some are flexible and they don’t want to enter into the obligation of beliefs and culture. Discuss each other choices and how either can adjust, accept or can take further.
During courtship days or during the honeymoon period, the would-be couples and new couples are far from reality and they don’t feel the requirement of above-discussed points.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment and to sail smoothly do indulge in discussing the above points. If both of you find compatible at these fronts or ready to change and accept each other habits, choices and flaws…certainly go for it.
I am ready for the brickbats, I will catch them and build a new house  😂😎😎

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Mommies Dilemma – How to Manage Early Teenagers?

Motherhood comes with a baggage of responsibilities and care. When we are blessed with a bundle of joy, our spirits are high and we feel on top of the world. To take good care of our tiny tot, we require to be good at multi-tasking, time management with a fair speed to finish off chores. As the days roll by, we find the journey of motherhood tough. We console ourselves that in a span of a few years, we will have hours of relaxation, once the kids grow up. It’s true, the physical strain lessens as the child grows but the mental anxiety starts growing as the child enters near teens.
The docile and sweet child turns violent and blurts out if scolded or pinpointed at their mistakes or coils into their cocoon and want to stay isolated.
This is the phase of the dilemma for Parents…but I insist on Mommies because Mums are more stressed by the changing behavior of their children and she tries her best to pacify things to normal.
Reasons for Behavioural Change
 
Physiological & Psychological Changes
 
Eminent changes and transformations take place within a teenager. Development of breast, an onset of periods, acne and pimples, increase in size of reproductive organs of a male child, growth of pubic hair, voice change, an onset of puberty etc., takes place in both boys and girls. The transition from childhood to early teens is cumbersome due to physical changes. The child is confused with the changes taking place in them and initially, they are not comfortable with the changes. They coil in their shells and don’t wish to talk about it or share with their parents and siblings.
Mood swings, wanting to take decisions independently, attraction towards opposite sex, sexual arousal are some of the reasons which bring adamant changes in the child who is at the threshold of teens and they prefer to stay aloof.
 With the frequent physical and psychological changes, they find tough to cope with the demands of the body and it is tough for them to maintain sync.
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How to Maintain the Balance
Recall your days of childhood when you were stepping into teenage and how you felt those days. Keep yourself in their shoes and handle them tactfully.
•    Never say, “I was not of this type”
 
You must have been more or less in the same shape and your Mom would have faced difficulty in taming you. If you say, “I was not of this type”, the child will feel humiliated and get enraged. Talk to them that you felt the same in your teens and it took time for you to adjust due to different hormonal and emotional changes. Ask them to accept the changes as it is natural transformation.
•    Be Friendly
 
Don’t create boundaries with the children. Play with them, watch movies and programmes with them and discuss and debate on any topic under the sun. Give them the privilege to discuss their problems, educate them about good and bad touch, sex education and to respect both the sex equally. Lend your ear and respect their views. Listen and stay calm. Be a child in the company of your child.
•    Be Polite & Firm in Your Approach
 
Don’t scold on the slightest pretext. Keep yourself soft and calm. Instead of pinpointing the mistakes and shouting at them, be watchful and cautious in approach. Watch their activities silently and if you find something odd in their activity, explain to them. Accept their mistakes as it is normal for a human to err and each one of us learn from trial and error. Explain to them the pros and cons of their mistakes and tell them firmly not to repeat it in future. Explaining things with the cool mind will help them to realize their folly but if you start getting stern with them, it will misfire the situation. Teenagers melt if handled with love and affection and your righteous approach can tame them.
•    Better Practice than Imposing
 
Being a parent, adopt all the principles, rules and regulations into practice and then ask your child to follow. This method is better for a small child too, but with teens, you first need to rectify yourself and then you can see them following. If you give sermons, they can react and can seek explanations for imposing on them. The child first school is home and gradually, they will pick up the traits that you follow. Follow positive traits if you want to see it develop in your children.
•    Accept the Changes
 
You cannot expect your child to be timid all way. If he questions you, don’t fret and fume. They are growing and they have the right to be assertive. Listen to them, reply to their questions and give them the space to grow.
•    Help them to Be Independent
 
Don’t be overprotective. Give them the independence to choose their dresses, passion, and activities. Let them follow their ambition and hobbies. If you find their aim undesirable, you should have valid explanations to validate it.
•    Trust Your Child
 
The children need the support and trust of their parents. Trust them but don’t go blind in love. Be caring and supportive and a mute spectator. If you find any activity annoying or wrong, explain them with patience. Don’t compel them else they will turn rebellious. Participate in their activities, befriend their friends, plan outings with their friends and invite them at home. It will help you to know them more.
•    Keep Them Engaged
 
Encourage to pursue their hobbies. It will help them to be engaged and won’t get surplus time to brood. Creative things attract the growing mind and they will devote 100% of their time. Hobbies help them to ignore sexual upsurges which are quite normal at their age. Give them the freedom to pursue their own hobbies, it will build their imaginative and creative powers.
All suggestions won’t work in all the children so as a parent, you require to be diligent in taming them. The teens who are at a threshold of Teens are more vulnerable and they require patience to tame them.
Your Love, Support and Silence will help them to pass this phase easily.
My Experience
 
While raising my children,
I never forgot my volatile days of teens and my reactions.
I became a child with them and enjoyed passing time with them.
I befriended their friend of both gender and gave them the freedom to call at home.
Never distinguished between BF & GF but warned them about the phase that all go and how to handle it sincerely.
I accompanied them on outings.
I gave them the space to grow, be independent, choose their hobbies and watched them closely and silently with a smile sailing on my face.
I was soft and firm in my approach. I stuck to my promises and never ditched them.
It was a roller coaster ride for me with lots of turbulence and finally, my silence and patience rewarded me.

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