While surfing, I came across a beautiful project made by a lady. I loved her project and congratulated her for her creativity. But her reply dampened my mood.
She told me that she had made the school project of her child who was a student of Class I.
The project that she had prepared was not a match for a student of Class I. It was far ahead of his age.
I could not stop myself and I right away told her that her concept was not approachable…she should not do it…unconsciously she was clipping the creative wings of her child.
She told me that it was not possible for her child to prepare the project all by himself, so she made it.
I told her that it is nice to indulge in creativity and if she has an inclination towards it, she should pursue wholeheartedly using her creative ideas to decorate her house, prepare gifts for special occasions or can also take up as professional commitment…but please don’t clip the wings of your child.
My intention was not to hurt her but to show her the right path.
I asked her to give her child the liberty to use his imagination in school projects and let him prepare the things all by himself.
This is not the story of one Mother…there are many Mothers who do the same.
Even in my neighborhood and extended family, there are many parents who do the same.
I believe that in this way they are not helping their child rather blocking their imaginative power.
Whenever I come across such parents who spoon feed their children, I object to it firmly because I don’t approve this idea.
Through this post, I wish to request to all budding parents not to nip the creative ideas of your children.
Let them explore their ideas, this way their imagination
power will improve and will give wings to creativity.
Children learn through trial n error and in this bid, they may scatter things around or may spoil the things, but they need that
space to develop.
Always remember your childhood…once upon a time you too went through the same phase, so keep the patience with your kids.
Arrange the things required for the project and let them take the initiative, guide where they falter.
If you have the inclination in creativity, pursue your own hobby and use it for yourself…don’t impose them on your kids.
If the project is far ahead of the child’s age then the teachers understand that it is the parent’s skill and the child does
not receive due credit.
Further other children get discouraged if their work is not appreciated.
The child ability won’t develop and they will always be in a lookout for a ready-made solution.
Parents…give fair chance to your child to soar high on their own ability.
My Experience:
One of my close relatives spoon-fed their children and in school time, they achieved high marks in all subjects but later in life,
they could not clear any competition. I had watched them closely. All the homework and school work were done by the parents and the kids mugged up. The school projects were either bought from the market or made by parents. I too was a kid and watching them achieve feats of success in school, I grew envious of them and at times despised my parents for not helping. Later in life, I realized their parent’s folly and felt sorry for the children.
While raising my children, I did not repeat the mistakes that my relatives did. I accompanied them but never imposed my skills
and the result is that I am satisfied with my children skills, few they have inherited from us and some they have developed on their own.
Mothers, Shower your love and affection but not at the stake of clipping their wings…Watch them soar heights…you will love to
watch their achievements.


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