A day a woman becomes a Mother, she is reborn. As she holds
her bundle of joy, a sense of maturity creeps in and she is no more a carefree
girl…She transforms to a doting mother where her child becomes her priority…and
all love & affections flow for the child.
I too was not an exception…motherhood changed me
completely…I careless and bindaas girl transformed into a caring mother, the
moment I bore my first child…and the joy to hold my flesh in my hands cannot be
put into words…words can’t elaborate the feelings that I went through…I was
amazed to watch my child with the features resembling me…I couldn’t believe my
eyes that I had carried him for complete nine months in my womb…the feeling was
surreal and it fetched me immense happiness & satisfaction….it took time to
accept that he was my fragment, incarnated by me.
Motherhood transformed me completely. The journey to
motherhood wasn’t easy but I readily accepted all the physiological, physical
and emotional changes within me and the pregnancy blues with happiness just for
the sake of my child and when the doctor put me into my arms, tears of
happiness welled in my eyes & that day itself, I promised with myself to
rear him a good human with good values…I think all Mom’s feels the same.
Motherhood blessed me with Patience & Tolerance: I was
the impatient one and I was not well- acquainted with the word patience. I
never got irritated even if he kept me on toes whole night rather I managed him
solely with happiness emerging within me. I used to give him five times massage
in a day, all by myself after C-Section. I fed him on time at regular intervals
as suggested by doctors & mums at home. Never ever I felt tired or low
while attending my son, even I was amazed at the change in me and never knew
the hidden potential within me…the relatives & onlookers eyes were widened
watching me handling the things with ease…I believe the virtue of motherhood
teaches us well. Now my toddlers have outgrown my lap, but with time, I have
grown more patient and calm and lend them my ears whenever they need my
Motherhood transformed me to Early Bird: Never in my life, I
had woken up at 4 am in the morning not even for the final exams, but just a
vague cry of my son early in the morning broke my slumber and I was alert to do
his chores…normally, I never woke up before 8 am and if ever I did, I took half
an hour or more to be alert but becoming mother changes within me came in
Motherhood made me Overprotective & Faint-hearted: With
the passage of time, I found that I had become overprotective and possessive
about my son and feared something untoward when for a fraction of second, my
eyes missed him…such was the impact of becoming a Mother. I never left my son
with support staff or helpers, an unknown fear gripped on the thought of leaving him
to strangers and preferred that he be around me most of the time.
Motherhood graced me with DIY skills: Never before, I had
knitted sweaters or stitched any cloth but after becoming a mother, I learnt
all the skills and guys, you will surprised to know that my kids never ever
wore ready-made sweaters till Std. XII. It was my passion to make sweaters for
them and this passion led me to learn it in depth & afterwards, I started
tutoring people who had flair for knitting. Same was the case with stitching, I
stitched all the napkins, caps, frocks and bed rolls for my kids. I derived
happiness indulging in stitching and knitting and I gain mastery in these subjects especially knitting. Even I updated my
knowledge in Homeopathic medicines & learnt the techniques of first-aid,
which comes handy when the child hurts while learning to walk or crawling. I
became well versed in Do-It-Yourself Techniques.
In my eyes of my children, I am their Role model and they
follow me and their trust is built upon me, so I have to keep myself updated so
that I don’t ever disappoint them. Becoming mother, once again, I revised all
the rhymes of kindergarten, updated my general knowledge quotient because in
their eyes, I am a Supermom, who knows everything at the fullest.
Becoming a mother is challenging but once you cuddle your
sweetheart in your arms, the world looks small and we feel our wings
strengthened ready for any ride, be it on smooth plains or on roller and
coaster ride. With babies, we enjoy each moment of life and the tough ride
appears easy. The best thing is that they keep you busy, you don’t get time to
brood over disappointments of life and their cute smiles & the way they
reciprocate to your lullabies makes your day beautiful and you profusely thank
Supreme power for gifting you a cute child, a part of you plays in your lap.
Copyright Ila Varma, 2017
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