Parenting is the tough nut to crack and it needs a lot of patience and perseverance to tackle the kids and guide him on right track.
The unconditional love for our children makes us do the impossible things and Mom is always ready with, “I’M POSSIBLE” knocking impossibilities down.
Mine journey wasn’t easy. My patience and experiences of my life too helped me to fare out well managing both my kids…in spite of heavy turmoil inside, I am able to be cool outside & I don’t have the habit of cribbing rather I abhor cribbers.
Many people believe that in initial years, the children should be given immense freedom and after a certain age, start curbing them. I am against this practice.
You have to do the ground work in initial years and inculcate good values and show them the differences between right & wrong.
We all learn from trial and error and parents are there to identify and rectify their errors.
Children are innocent at heart but smart too and catch things easily and if they are left to leave on their own terms, then they will have great difficulty in later life and to keep them disciplined will be challenging.
Train them with good habits from the initial days of their childhood.
Managing money is not an easy task and the children should be educated how to manage efficiently.
I am sharing my very own experiences with my two kids.
My hubby was lenient towards children and rarely does he lose temper. He believed in pleasing them by fulfilling their demands. I was against this and made him understand that he is pampering them and we will have tough time to handle them in future. Initially, he did not pay much heed to it but my constant effort changed his thought and he decided to back out.
I took the reins in my hand and implemented few rules to follow to show them the VALUE OF MONEY.
We say, MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING but we all know HOW IMPORTANT MONEY IS.
- Never fulfil all demands: The first n foremost rule is never fulfil all demands of children else they will not understand its value and how tough is to earn a good sum. Side by side, they will learn the PRIORITIES OF LIFE.
My Experience: I was brought up in joint family where my Mum didn’t had the power to tame me and my all demands were fulfilled.
Consequences: Till today if my demands are turned down, I am hurt at heart and I don’t put up my genuine demands also fearing it might not be attended.
- Buy Essential things: I see around that the people who are affluent and have several sources of income, they gift such toys and appliances to children which aren’t essential, and rather it’s superfluous. Parents are spoiling them. Buy the things which are best for him as per his age and requirements. They will learn VALUE OF MONEY AND THINGS.
- Pocket Money: Fix a specific sum of pocket money for the children. Initially, fix a sum for a week and later on spread it for a fortnight & month. Ask them to spend for their toys, stationary, snacks and cold drinks.
My Experience: When my elder son was in KG and the younger one in nursery, I fixed a certain amount for a week to spend on ice creams, cold drinks and snacks. I was amazed to find them saving from that meager amount and they shared the treat with us, too. I pinpointed to my hubby who used to readily give in to watch how smart they are in spending their own money. This habit inculcated in them habit of SAVING & VALUE OF PENNY.
- NEVER DISCLOSE FAMILY INCOME: If you are on affluent side, never disclose income to your children. At tender age, they won’t understand the sweat behind the flowing income but will be ready to spend extravagantly. Parents too have to check their expense style. If you are extravagant in spending then you can’t ask your ward to be thrifty.
REWARD THEM: by buying gifts for them on special occasions and when they do well in studies or maintain discipline during vacations etc. Appreciate them & reward them by giving money to buy the things they love to buy or the parents can gift them that their children love to have. Even you can gift them a pot of flowers and make them responsible for watering and taking care. This way VALUE OF CARE will be instilled in your child.
I shared my experiences of parenting and what I learnt from my life experiences.
My children are quite spendthrift and they know the VALUE OF MONEY IN LIFE.
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